Active life position. Formation of an active life position of a schoolchild - the credo of a class teacher in a modern school

11.10.2019

And found out what's up in the man himself and his life position. So why do some people succeed and others don't? What secret of success? We are all looking for some technique that will help us cope with problems and achieve success in everything ... But the reasons for success or failure are not in the technique, but in our head.

If we really want to “live life in such a way that later it would not be excruciatingly painful for the aimlessly lived years” and are going to start new life, then we first need to “change the head”, or rather - life position generally. It is she who plays a decisive role in whether we achieve success in life, and more correctly, whether we will be happy and satisfied.

There are only two types of life position: active and passive. All successful and satisfied people have pro-active(or simply active) lifestyle. Most of us have an attitude reactive(or passive) - and it is in it that lies the cause of most of our misfortunes.

Life position- this is the base, the foundation of our personality and our attitude to life and to the world. Its primary formation occurs in childhood - under the influence of upbringing and in the image and likeness of parents, but it is entirely within our power to change it at a conscious age. However, it is difficult and scary to rebuild the foundation on which the building has already been built, so few people dare to do it. Here you need to have serious motivation and be ready to overcome difficulties. To begin with, you should once again answer yourself the question: “Do I want to in fact become successful person and the master of my life, or will I manage with what I have, but without changing anything and without risking?

Passive and active life position - what's the difference?

Reactive (passive) life position characterized, as the name implies, by the fact that the whole life of its owner - both external and internal, consists of reactions on the external circumstances. Reactions are different, but the point is that they are only reactions to something beyond our control. Sometimes circumstances suit us - and we rejoice and thank heaven. But more often they do not suit us - and then we begin to either resent and swear, that is, we react negatively. This is how we live: we wait for the mercy of heaven, we get upset because of its absence and endlessly justify our failures by a combination of insurmountable and unfavorable circumstances.

What, as a rule, are our plans? “I want ...!”, “If ..., then ...”, “When ..., then ...” We are the hostages of these if and when, which do not depend on us. If we are “lucky”, of course, we will achieve what we want, but more often we are “unlucky” ... And what have we done ourselves in order to achieve what we want? “Want” and “set a goal and go for it” are very different things. And the difference is that the one who goes to the goal, valid, not just wants, and whining that something “doesn’t work out” for him, he simply has no time. If it doesn’t work out, he looks for his mistakes, corrects them and moves on.

Of course, a lot depends on the circumstances, but a person with active lifestyle only takes circumstances into account, takes them into account, laying his route. The source of his goal and the beginning of the path to it is in himself, and in the circumstances he sees capabilities for implementation their plans, developing an effective plan of their actions. If he got into a situation that does not suit him, he analyzes why he got into it (his mistakes) and thinks how to get out of it.

Many of our circumstances happened to us not by the will of an evil fate, but because we need them for some reason. We unconsciously chose and they even give us like. Even if we think that we are not. You may not like what is happening, but implicit bonus, which we get along the way.

For example, we are stuck in a destructive relationship. It’s bad, but you can whine, get hysterical, take it out on loved ones, eat sweets, drink ... - whoever is in what much, and most importantly, you can not decide or do anything! For what can we do in such terrible circumstances? Here is this one the comfort of inaction and irresponsibility we are often attracted, and so much so that we are sometimes ready to pay a very high price for it ...

And what about those misfortunes that certainly have nothing to do with our choice? Yes, circumstances are very tough, and we do not always choose them. the surrounding reality for the most part does not depend on us at all. But there is also ourselves and our relationship with reality. A proactive person sees it soberly, and sets goals realistically achievable in the existing circumstances. And he treats these circumstances in a completely different way - as an opportunity, and not as a "punishment" or "evil fate." Remember the saying: “Who wants to do something, looks for a way, and who doesn’t want it, looks for a reason”?

How to form an active life position?

The differences between an active and passive life position, apparently, lie in the area of responsibility for oneself and one's life. A proactive person takes it upon himself, a reactive person strives all the time to shift it to someone or something. This means that everything that needs to be done to form an active life position and abandon a passive one, in general terms, comes down to two points:

Take responsibility for what is happening to us now and what happened before. Of course, only what really depended on us: our choices, decisions, feelings, thoughts, actions, reactions. We cannot be held responsible for the weather, traffic jams, the behavior and condition of other people.
Taking responsibility for our future - again, in what we ourselves build from our lives.

Taking responsibility is the first step to being proactive in life. However, to take this very responsibility is not such simple task for someone who has been accustomed to avoiding it since childhood and grew up among such examples ... It’s not always possible to even see it, and even worse - a person constantly confuses his responsibility with someone else’s, “feeling” responsibility for something that does not depend on him in any way and at the same time does not answering for yourself. I propose the following plan for changing a passive life position to an active one:

Algorithm for the formation of an active life position

The first point is the most difficult: to find your responsibility for your life. It is too “obvious” that the government, ecology, boss, parents, husband / wife are “to blame” for our situation, housing problem time is like this... What is our responsibility?- For example, in the fact that we did nothing, but simply went with the flow, accepting what it brings. I met people who, at the age of 50, justified their failures by saying that their parents did not raise them that way! I would like to ask: "Where you What was the last 35 years after your parents raised you?” Moreover, a person cannot do nothing at all, even absolute inaction is also our choice which has consequences. And we have always had a choice.
Accept responsibility for how we deal with the circumstances of our lives. If they cause us depression, indignation, or some other kind, and we are absorbed in experiencing these emotions, then everything is clear, we like these circumstances! Let's be honest about this. To make it easier to confess, you can read the book by Eric Berne "Games People Play"- It clears the mind very well. Our reaction is also our choice, and we must try to recognize this. People react differently to the same circumstances, so there is no more need to say that “I was driven” or “I could not do otherwise.” And if at one time we had reacted differently in a hundred cases, then we would now have completely different circumstances ... Let's think about it in colors. Do you feel how the consciousness of your freedom and the fact that everything depends on you inspires? It is very uncomfortable for a person to feel like a victim, even if he has felt this way all his life.
After we managed to admit that we are the culprits of what is happening and happening to us, you should not waste your energy on scolding yourself last words and, again, get depressed from their worthlessness. On the contrary, everything negative emotions it is better to throw it away, and self-pity - in the first place. Tears of sorrow will not help. This habit is not easy to overcome, but it is possible. Moreover, one should not try to overcome this pity or anger in oneself - such emotions only grow from attention. Energy is better directed to a more constructive question: "What to do now?" Now that we have realized our freedom to choose a response, we can look for positive moments and opportunities in circumstances. And now we are thinking about the future.
The next very important question is: What do we want? Not “I would like a summer house in the Maldives…”, but really - what? And taking into account the fact that this will have to be achieved by making a number of efforts and making certain sacrifices? “It just doesn’t happen like that. Another feature of the reactive position is "to want us to have everything, but we have nothing for it." It is due to this love of our “freebies” that tens and hundreds of thousands of scammers live, of which there are so many divorced now. They offer an easy solution to all our problems - and thus solve their own. And our problems are not solved - but we have a reason to be indignant at their dishonesty and feel sorry for ourselves, the poor thing, who was “thrown” again ... But you must admit, if we, for example, have health (circumstances) and we want to become an Olympic champion, then we will have to get ready to the fact that we are waiting for years grueling workouts- no other way. Why should it be different in other areas of life?
Having decided on desires, we transform them into goals. This raises another important question: “What are we willing to do and what to sacrifice to achieve our goals?” Are we ready to study and work extra to get rich, for example? In the circumstances in which we find ourselves, we have two ways: to work to create other circumstances, or to learn how to live and rejoice with those who have (which will also have to work). Maybe we will choose the second path - the main thing is that this is our choice. And we no longer feel like a victim and have no moral right to whine. But we can think about what we can do in order to change something in better side- Establish or break relationships, for example. The main thing is to set goals. A successful person who builds his own life has a plan for this construction - nothing can be built without a plan.

To describe in one article all the nuances of how an active and passive life position differs and how to change one for another, of course, is unrealistic. But I hope that I managed to clarify this issue at least in general terms. The formation of an active position occurs exclusively in our head - through awareness and acceptance of responsibility. In principle, this is a one-time act, but the deepening of the position and the restructuring of habitual reactions will take some time.

Various books and even success trainings can help a lot here. They all say essentially the same thing, but until we have adopted this philosophy as “our own”, we need repetition and clarification. And only after we have established ourselves in active life position, having taken responsibility for your life and having outlined your goals, you can start looking for specific methods that will help us achieve these goals more efficiently, or create methods for yourself - it's up to you as you like. I wish you success! Before new meetings!

You can relate to people, to life, to your own future in different ways: to work with enthusiasm or half-heartedly, to take care of the benefits of the cause or only about yourself, to meet difficulties or hide in the bushes, to take an active or simply comfortable position.

The dynamics of the development of modern social relations requires a school graduate to have a certain set of qualities. If you turn to the ads in the "Labor Exchange" section, you can make an approximate psychological portrait of the person being hired. Employers want to see, in addition to business and professional qualities, such as: activity and sociability, the ability to overcome difficulties and initiative, the desire for creativity and mobility, discipline and responsibility.

Therefore, I consider the upbringing of an active life position of a student one of the most important tasks of a class teacher in a modern school, in order for the graduate to be competitive in the labor market as well.

What is "active life position"? Of course, this expression can be understood in different ways. In my opinion, this is the ability to realize oneself in various activities: and in community service, and in sports events, and in school or classroom self-government, etc. after all, how much more can a personality reveal itself, how much more interesting is the life of a student if he realizes himself not only in teaching, but also in extracurricular or out-of-school work.

For the successful formation of an active life position of a student, it is necessary, in my opinion, compliance with a number of the following conditions :

Public activity becomes really interesting if an energetic, close-knit school team is formed, where adults do not annoy with excessive petty care, where everyone wants to make a personal contribution to life, without being locked into the narrow framework of their own personality.
In the formation of an active position, the role of feelings and experiences caused by participation in activities is extremely important. Both children and adolescents deeply experience both success, and the desire to cooperate, and empathy, as well as envy, malevolence, malevolence. Emotionally colored desire and unwillingness to participate in a particular case. If the assignment or event is in the interests of the student, then they bring joy and a sense of satisfaction.
The successful formation of an active position also depends on the nature of pedagogical leadership, which, in my opinion, should be carried out as a joint activity of children or adolescents and the class teacher, their cooperation in social activities, after all, help in planning, in organizing individual cases, in teaching organizational skills and overcoming difficulties on different steps the work being done - all these are the functions of the class teacher
It is extremely important to stimulate schoolchildren, knowing their individual characteristics, because every praise causes joy, and condemnation causes grief.

Thus, all of the above conditions allow us to assert that in the formation of a student's active position, both objective, and subjective factors.

Doctor of Pedagogical Sciences K.N. Radina believes indicators by which one can judge the formation of an active life position of schoolchildren are the following:

positive attitude to deeds and undertakings, readiness to carry them out
experience of participating in public life related to the performance of specific duties (orders)
a certain level of organizational skills
feeling responsible for your work
favorable position of a teenager in interpersonal communication.

Based on these figures, it is possible classify the student's position in social activities into 4 main groups:

socially active position, fully formed by the end of school
a contradictory position characteristic of adolescents who show contradictions in its main indicators, i.e. the student takes part in social activities with pleasure, but only in those events that he needs, is beneficial or interesting
passive-friendly position characterizes adolescents who show a positive attitude towards social activities with limited participation in it
a negative position is characterized as a manifestation of a negative attitude towards social activities and a negative experience of participating in it.

Probably, it is impossible to cultivate an active attitude to life in each student for various reasons, often beyond the control of the teacher. The experience that I have told about is, of course, not perfect, and I intend to direct my further searches to educate in every student the desire to see, to know the world and maybe even make it a little better.

Do you think I'm on the right track?

Everything that a person thinks, thinks about, does, represents his life position. At first glance, it seems that there can be something in common between the attitude to the surrounding world and morality? It turns out that everything in this life is interconnected.

Life position helps us to overcome the difficulties of life, ups and downs. It is expressed in all areas of activity: labor, ethical, internal, social, political.

People begin to form a life position from birth. How a child will develop depends to a large extent on inner circle. These are parents, grandparents, educators, teachers. At this stage, the foundation of life in social sphere. From harmonious relationships in the family, school, at work, a personality is formed.

What is the difference between life positions

The main secret of personal self-realization is an active life position. Courage, initiative - this is that small fraction that forms to the intended goal. Such people often become leaders in the team and among friends. Passive personalities only follow them, although they have their own point of view, but do not want to defend it.

Specific features of an active life position

Negative
People with a negative life position direct their energy towards negative actions. They cause a lot of trouble to those around them. Their life credo is to impose on society their opinion, specific goals that cause colossal harm, not benefit. Often such people are the leaders of bandit groups and formations.

Positive
High morality of a person, a positive lifestyle, unacceptability to evil.

Passive people lead an inactive lifestyle. They are indifferent to our reality. Pessimists never participate in solving difficult issues, the problems of society are bypassed. They never answer for their words, promising something, they often deceive. Human behavior reminds us of an ostrich with a hidden head. In their opinion, this is the most convenient way to protect yourself from unnecessary problems.

Passivity and negative life goals are practically identical concepts. From inaction and unwillingness to help in difficult times, many different crimes and outbursts of injustice happen.

Types of passive life position

Submission;
Complete inertia;
destructive behavior;
Excitation.

A submissive person will follow the path “beaten” by someone until the end of his life. He strictly observes the rules, without thinking about their need and compliance.

The last category of pessimists is no less serious for society. All their troubles, failures, anger they splash out on outsiders, completely uninvolved in their problems, people. For example, a mother splashes out a sea of negativity on her children, having unsuccessfully married. Innocent beings pay for negligent parents. There are many such examples.

Life position begins to take shape with early childhood and continues to strengthen or weaken during the continuation life cycle. Look at yourself from the outside, evaluate your actions. Perhaps you are doing something wrong. If the results do not impress you, then try to change yourself. You still have time for this!

Other articles on this topic:

How to become a successful person How to love yourself How to be yourself How to achieve what you want When changes occur in a person's life The need of the individual for self-realization Ways to develop concentration How to become kinder How to change yourself?

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Introduction

Every person is born of two parents. It is the result of millions of coincidences, patterns and accidents. It is complex and contradictory. And yet there is one basic characteristic that he needs as the foundation of every home. It is called the basic life attitude, fixed life position or basic life position. This is a set of basic, basic ideas about oneself, significant others, the world around, which provide the basis for the main decisions and human behavior. Human,livinginsociety,interactingWithothersindividualstakescertainvitalposition.

Life position - the attitude of a person to the world around him, expressed in his thoughts and actions.

Formationvitalpositionspersonalities is a complex and difficult process. It requires a lot of stress and expenditure of physical, moral, psychological and mental efforts. This process is significantly influenced by micro- and macroenvironments, the level of development of productive forces and production relations, the socio-political system, political regime, level of culture, etc. This process is accompanied by the assimilation of the seemingly accumulated humanity, achievements in the field of material and spiritual culture, scientific and professional knowledge, worldview, beliefs and skills, labor and socio-political activities, etc. An active life position of a person becomes possible under the condition of a critically creative mastery of all the wealth of mankind, the formation of a readiness to actively act in society.

The choice of a fixed life position is carried out by the family, the immediate environment and the person himself. This happens from the first moments of life and ends by the age of seven. That is, in such young age when it is still impossible to count on full awareness of the seriousness of the decision taken, clarity and depth of thinking.

As soon as the main life position has been determined, all actions, all human behavior is aimed at confirming and consolidating it. However, in order to be precise, it is important to say that the basic life position of each person develops even before birth. And every child before his birth believes that he is well-off and other people are well-being. I am good, you are good. You are basically the mother and those around her.

The child begins to walk. He is very awkward, falls, breaks dishes, spoils things. He is clumsy and ridiculed. He is often punished. Then the nursery Kindergarten, school. And everywhere the position I am not prosperous - You are prosperous is brought up, imposed, hammered. However, this is the most adaptive position for a Soviet person - a modest worker, humbly waiting for a reward.

A person with a negative image of his own Self is burdened by the events taking place and takes the blame for them. He is not confident enough in himself, does not claim success and results. He underestimates his work. Refuses to take initiative and responsibility. Stressed and often sick. Moreover, diseases develop slowly, proceed sluggishly, the recovery period is delayed for a long time.

He often experiences depression, suffers from neuroses, character disorders, is prone to self-destructive behavior: smoking, alcohol abuse, drugs. It is characterized by vegetovascular and psychosomatic disorders, decreased immunity. Typical gastritis, ulcers, diseases of the small and large intestines, biliary dyskinesia and renal colic. Women are characterized by ovarian disorders - menstrual cycle, for men - prostatitis. They have reduced sexual desire and potency. Hypothyroidism, hypotension, dynamic disorders of cerebral circulation are typical, ischemic strokes are possible.

Such people are slovenly in their way of life, in their clothes. They choose for themselves a banal or losing scenario - an unconscious plan of life. Quite often they can be found at a doctor's appointment, among patients of somatic, psychiatric or narcological hospitals. It is important to note that most of the members of our society carry with them a fixed emotional attitude throughout their lives: I am not well - you are well. We meet them constantly and everywhere. They live hard and sad. They have an impact on others, and it is not easy for us along with them. And yet it is not the most minor setting. There is one more: I am not well - you are not well. I am not well - you are not well. Such a person is not energetic enough; he is rather apathetic, prone to depression, passive hostility towards himself and others. Unable to be persistent. He is constantly haunted by failure, and he got used to it. He does not have a creative approach to work and life in general. From his point of view, he does not deserve positive and praise. Moreover, he does not perceive or hear them. He is gloomy, ironic, difficult to communicate. His passivity eventually forms a negative attitude towards him of those around him. With his untidy, scandalous clothes, appearance, smell emanating from clothes and body, he constantly declares: Everything is wrong with me - Everything is wrong with you. This is an attitude of hopeless despair, when life is useless and full of disappointments. Man is powerless and others cannot help him. It remains to sink to the bottom and wait for death.

The installation of trouble develops in a child deprived of attention, abandoned, when others are indifferent and not interested in him. Or when a person has suffered a great loss and does not have the resources for his own recovery, when everyone around him has turned away from the person and he is deprived of support.

Such people; suffer from many different diseases. This is depression to apathy. Various colds, infectious and somatic diseases caused by reduced immunity. They have a sharply suppressed sexual desire, reduced potency. Women have limited opportunities to become pregnant and give birth. For them, all health disorders caused by self-destructive behavior are typical - excessive smoking, abuse of alcohol and its surrogates, narcotic and toxic substances. Characterized by injuries to the body, as well as the skull and brain and their consequences.

Diseases and health disorders in them proceed for a long time. For the most part, such people slowly break down. The diseases themselves flow sluggishly, accompanied by complications. The recovery period is getting longer. There are often associated comorbidities. The drugs used to treat them are given by me side effects and complications. Only a part of people with the installation I am not well - you are not well live in society. Many of them spend their lives waiting for the end in narcological, psychiatric and somatic hospitals, homes for the chronically ill, in places of detention. Many today are simply thrown out of life and complete their lives a little on the street, joining the ranks of the homeless. The next setting is not so pessimistic. And yet, its carriers deliver a lot of worries and inconvenience to others. It is formulated as follows: I am well - you are not well.

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1. correctvitalpositionpersonalities

Each of us has our own vitalposition. It determines our ability to deal with difficulties, hardships, our strength and faith depend on it. These are the basic principles and beliefs of a person about the world, society, about himself, expressed in thoughts, words, deeds. And this, sometimes, greatly distinguishes people from each other.

Consider main types vital positions:

1. conformist(passive) where there is subordination to society, the world around and a person lives by coincidence. In turn, here we distinguish the following subspecies:

b) group-conformist, where all members of this group strictly abide by the rules and regulations adopted here

c) Social conformist, where each individual is strictly subject to all the norms of society, which is usually accepted in a totalitarian state

1. Activevitalposition aimed at changing the surrounding reality, the transformation of norms, rules, lifestyle. Here are the following points:

a) Independent state of the individual in relation to other people, but subordination to the main main leader

b) Compliance and acceptance of social norms and rules, but the desire for leadership in the team

c) Ignoring moral and ethical norms, an active desire to take one's life position outside of society: a gang, a criminal community, in other asocial groups

d) Rejection of the norms of society, constant independent desire to change the surrounding reality, often with the help of other people: revolutionaries, opposition .. This is the state of a happy productive individual.

2. Activevitalpositionpersonalities

Activevitalpositionhuman- nothing more than an indifferent attitude to the world around, which is manifested in the actions and thoughts of the individual himself. The first thing that many pay attention to when communicating with a stranger is his position in life. It is she who distinguishes us from each other psychologically. This position in life allows or does not allow each person to overcome difficulties. Sometimes it is the cause of our success or failure. Moreover, in many ways it is the life position that determines the fate of a person. Life position has a manifestation in all spheres of life, influencing moral and spiritual positions, socio-political and labor activity. An active position is characterized by a quick reaction of a certain person to life situations and a widespread readiness for specific actions.

To vital positions in in general relate:

· political preferences;

a person's worldview

· its principles, etc.

3. Formationactivevitalpositions

It has been formed since human birth. The foundation of its appearance is communication with others, their influence on the personal development of each of us.

It is initiative that holds the true secret of developing an active life position. But its growth, like everything else in the universe, needs a kind of "battery" that will give energy for this improvement. Your battery? it is desire. After all, only they are able to force them to fight with difficulties, helping to achieve the desired goals.

All of us have ever come across people whose life was dominated by an active position. They internally stand out from those around them. In companies, they are often leaders. Such individuals are able to lead society, because their point of view and inner potential cause a desire to follow them.

4. Typesactivevitalpositionspersonalities

Position "positive" committed to the observance of moral standards and the victory of good over evil.

Position "negative" . You should not think that active people are necessarily those who act only “good”, on the contrary, you need to understand that their actions can also be harmful to society and themselves. All sorts of gangs and gangs created by active individuals with certain, pronounced beliefs and specific goals, harm society.

Our life is not something static and unchanging. It changes with the passage of time, the development of new technologies and the influence of people on our inner world. It is only important to be interested in improving the surrounding world.

For people of the first type, the main thing is not only to get hung up on their own and only their experiences, but also on global issues all over the world. True, not everyone will be able to elevate their personal qualities for the benefit of society, and set the principles, beliefs, worldview to achieve success. But what will be the position in life depends only on the person himself.

Berne suggested that in the earliest stages of scenario formation Small child"... already has certain beliefs about himself and about the people around him... These beliefs, which he seems to carry for the rest of his life, can be summarized as follows: 1) I am OK or I am not-OK; You are OK or You're not OK."

These four points of view are called vital positions. Some authors call them fundamental positions, existential positions or just positions. They reflect a person's fundamental attitudes about the essential value that he sees in himself and other people. This is something more than just an opinion about one's or someone else's behavior.

Having adopted one of these positions, the child, as a rule, begins to adjust his entire script to it. Berne wrote: "At the heart of every game, every scenario, and every human destiny is one of these four fundamental positions."

The child who adopted the position "I'm OK, you're OK" is more likely to build a winning scenario. He finds that he is loved and glad for his existence. He decides that his parents can be loved and trusted, and subsequently extends this view to people in general.

If an infant takes the "I'm not-OK, you're OK" position, he is more likely to write a banal or losing script. In accordance with this fundamental position, he will play out in the script his role as a victim and his losses to other people.

The "I'm OK, you're not OK" attitude can set the stage for a seemingly winning scenario. But such a child is convinced that he needs to rise above others, and keep them in a humiliated position. For a while he may succeed, but only at the cost of continuous struggle. Over time, the people around him will get tired of their humiliated position and turn away from him. Then he will turn from a supposedly "winner" into a loser himself.

The attitude "I'm not OK, you're not OK" is the most likely basis for a losing scenario. Such a child has come to believe that life is empty and hopeless. He feels humiliated and unloved. He believes that no one is able to help him, since the rest are also not-OK. So his script will revolve around scenes of rejection by others and his own rejection.

5. Originvitalpositions

Berne believed that "... the position is taken in early childhood (from three to seven years) in order to justify a decision based on earlier experience." In other words, according to Berne, early decisions come first, and then the child takes a position in life, thereby creating a picture of the world that justifies earlier decisions.

For example, a baby who has not yet learned to speak may make the following decision: "I will never risk loving anyone again, because Mom has shown that she does not love me." He later justifies this decision with the belief "no one will love me", which translates to "I'm not OK". If a little girl is spanked by her father, she may decide, "I will never trust a man again because Dad treats me badly." Subsequently, she extends this decision to all other men in the form of the belief "men cannot be trusted", that is, "you (they) are not OK."

From the point of view of Claude Steiner, life positions are taken much earlier. He traces their origins to the first months of feeding a child. According to Steiner, the position "I'm OK, you're OK" reflects the comfortable atmosphere of interdependence between the child and the breastfeeding mother. He equates it with the position of "fundamental trust" described by child development specialist Eric Erickson. This is such a "... state of affairs when the baby feels that he is in unity with the world, and everything is in unity with him."

Steiner believes that all children start with an "I'm OK, you're OK" attitude. The child changes position only when something disturbs the harmony of his interdependence with his mother. For example, when a child feels that the mother ceases to protect him and accept him as unconditionally as she did in the first days. Some babies may perceive birth itself as a threat to primordial harmony. In response to any kind of discomfort in his life, the child may decide that he is not-OK, or that others are not-OK. He goes from Erickson's state of "fundamental trust" to a state of "fundamental mistrust." And then, based on this fundamental idea of himself and other people, the child begins to write the script of his life.

Thus, Steiner agrees with Berne that attitude "justifies" script decisions. However, according to Steiner, a life position is taken first, and after that, scenario decisions.

So, attitude can be defined as totality fundamental beliefs about yourself and others people which human uses for excuses their decisions and his behavior.

6. Life position in adults

Each of us enters adulthood with a script later life written based on one of the four life positions. However, we do not stay in the chosen position all the time. We are constantly moving from one position to another.

Franklin Ernst developed a method for analyzing such transitions. He called him OK-Plot(Fig. 1)

Instead of the term "OK" Ernst uses the expression "OK for me". This is done to emphasize that "okay" is due to my beliefs: my beliefs about yourself and my beliefs about you.

Rice. 1. OK-Plot

The top pole of the vertical axis of the Site corresponds to "You are OK", the bottom - "You are not OK". On the horizontal axis on the right we have "I'm OK", on the left we have "I'm not-OK". Each of the four squares corresponds to some vital position.

For brevity, "OK" in the literature on TA is often denoted by the sign "+", and "non-OK" - by the sign "-". The word "you" is sometimes also abbreviated to the letter "T".

On fig. 1 shows one of the variants of the Site, where each of the four positions has its own name. Ernst's original diagram did not include these names, but they are often used by other authors.

Franklin Ernst points out that each of the children's positions is represented in adult life in the form of a specific social interaction. He calls the last " operation". The names of these operations are given on the diagram of the Site. When we perform any of these operations unconsciously, in the state of the Child, we do this, as a rule, in order to provide a scenario "justification" for the corresponding life position. However, we have another possibility - we we can move into the Adult state and carry out any of these operations consciously, through which social interaction can lead to the desired results for us.

I'm OK, you're OK: engagement

I just got to work. On the threshold, the boss meets me with a pile of papers. "Here's the report we've been waiting for," he says. "I've marked some points for you. Could you review them and report back?" "Very well," I reply, "it will be done."

By agreeing to fulfill the request of the boss, I decided for myself that I was competent enough to perform this task and I liked it. I find that the boss stated his request politely and reasonably. Thus, I take the position "I'm OK, you're OK". At the level of social interaction, my boss and I turned on to the common cause.

Every time I interact with people in this position, I reinforce my belief that I and others are OK.

I'm Not-OK, You're OK: Avoiding Interaction

I sit down at my desk and turn to the first page of the report. Out of the corner of my eye, I see someone walking towards me. This is one of my colleagues. He looks worried. Since I am already familiar with this expression on his face, it is not difficult for me to guess why he complained. He is going to endlessly complain about his work, ask me for advice and not listen to him. When he comes to my desk and opens his mouth, I can choose between two options: follow the script or respond to him from the Adult state.

scenario operation: Let's say I enter the script and take the position "I'm not-OK, you're OK." I say to myself: "I'm not able to help him. I can't do it. But what is he, he will just talk and that's it. We need to get out of here!" I tighten my abs and sweat. Not listening to what my colleague is talking about, I mumble, "I'm sorry, Jim, I need to jump out to the bathroom!" - and head for the door. As I leave the room, I let go of my tension with a sigh of relief. I gone from Jim according to the script. In doing so, I reinforced my Child's belief that I am not OK and others are OK.

adult operation: If I decide to stay in Adult, I say to myself: “At the moment I don’t want to listen to Jim. He has problems, but it’s not for me to solve them. However, if he talks, you can’t stop him. I think it’s best to go beyond his reach." As soon as Jim opens his mouth and begins to utter his first complaint, I say: "Yes, Jim, things are bad. But I'm busy right now. I was just about to go to the library, check some data on this report. I hope you do well" . I collect my papers and leave. With the help of the Adult, I consciously chose the operation care.

I'm OK, You're Not OK: Getting Rid of Interaction

Ten minutes later, with a cup of coffee, I return to the office and delve into the report. The door opens again. This time it's my assistant. He looks dejected. "I'm afraid I have bad news," he says. "Remember, you ordered me to print materials? I got busy and forgot to turn them in on time. And now the printer is busy. What should I do?"

scenario operation: I can answer him from the position "I'm OK, you're not OK." Blushing, I say in a sharp voice: "What do you do? Correct the situation, that's what you do! I don’t want to hear anything else until the material is on the table, understand?” At the same time, my pulse rises and I literally boil with indignation. When the assistant disappears, I say to myself: “You can’t rely on anyone in our time, everything have to do!" I got rid of from the assistant, creating a scripted "justification" for my belief that I am OK and others are not.

adult operation: I answer the assistant; "Well, your job is to fix things. I've got urgent work to do right now. So look for an opportunity to print materials somewhere else as soon as possible. I'll see you at four, report back on the results." I bend over the report again, signaling that the conversation is over. I got rid of from an assistant, so now I can do my own thing, and we both remain OK.

I am not-OK, you are not-OK: non-engagement in interaction

The phone rings. The wife calls from home: "Something terrible has happened! The pipe burst, and while I managed to turn off the water, the entire carpet was flooded!"

scenario operation: In this case, I can take the position "I'm not OK, you're not OK." I say to myself: "I've had enough. This is beyond my strength. And you can't rely on your wife. It's all useless." I groan into the phone: "Listen, this is already beyond my strength. It's already been a day, it's too much." Without waiting for an answer, I hang up. I feel exhausted and depressed. Deep down, I solidified my belief that I and everyone else is not OK.

adult operation: Deciding to stay in the Adult state, I say, "Listen, it's over now. Wait until I get back. Then we'll see what we can do." I chose surgery non-involvement.

7. OK-site, personal changes

Although we are constantly moving around the squares of the Lot, each of us has a "favorite" square in which we, acting according to the scenario, spend most of the time. It corresponds to the basic life position we took in childhood.

"I'm OK, you're OK" is healthy position. At the same time, I participate in life and the resolution of life's problems. I act in order to achieve the winning results I desire. This is the only position based on reality. If as a child I took the position "I'm not-OK, you're OK", then most likely I will play my scenario mainly from depressive positions, feeling inferior to other people. Without realizing it, I will choose feelings and behavioral manifestations that are unpleasant for me, "confirming" that I have correctly determined my place in the world. If I develop mental health problems, they will most likely be diagnosed as neurosis or depression. If I wrote a fatal script, it would probably end in suicide.

The childish attitude of "I'm OK, you're not OK" means that I will be living my script mostly from a defensive position, trying to rise above other people. At the same time, they are likely to perceive me as a suppressive, insensitive and aggressive person. Although this position is often called paranoid, it also fits the psychiatric diagnosis of character disorder. In a third-degree losing scenario, my final scene might involve killing or maiming other people.

If I took the "I'm not-OK, you're not-OK" attitude as a baby, my script will play out predominantly from barren positions. I will consider that this world and the people who inhabit it are bad, as well as myself. If I wrote a banal script, my negligent attitude to most of life's undertakings will run like a red thread through it. If I have a fatal scenario, the solution may be to "go crazy" and earn a psychotic diagnosis.

Like all other components of the script, life position can be changed. As a rule, this happens only as a result of an insight - a sudden direct-intuitive awareness of one's scenario - a course of therapy or some kind of strong life shock.

Often the process of changing one's life position is associated with a certain sequence of moving along the squares of the Site. If a person initially spends most of their time in Z-T-, their next stop will most likely be Z+T-. After spending some time in this main square for himself now, he will move into I-T +. The ultimate goal is to stay longer and longer in the I + T + square until it becomes the main place of residence.

It may seem strange that in order to go from I+T- to I+T+, people often need to go through I-T+. But, as therapeutic experience testifies, I + T-often turns out to be protective reaction against I-T+. Deciding that "I am OK and everyone else is not OK," the infant establishes himself in this position to protect himself from the painful realization of his inferiority and helplessness in the face of his parents. To really become an adult, a person needs to live through this childhood pain and get rid of it.

Conclusion

A person develops his position throughout life. First, he forms it, then strengthens or changes it. Life position cannot remain unchanged throughout life. Not every person will be able to radically change their previous beliefs and develop a new active life position, but they will certainly support or strengthen the already existing one, either positive or negative.

It is important to remember that there is no such thing as an "ideal" or "perfect" life position. The position must be corrected with every change that occurs in our lives. Indeed, on the path of each of us there are various situations that “unsettle” and only thanks to our own efforts, flexibility in the approach to understanding what is happening, we will be able to achieve a successful solution, find a way out and cope with the situation.

The life position of a person must be formulated, and the addition to these seven keys is this: be kind to yourself. Few of us can infuse compassion-based kindness into our behavior towards others unless we first show kindness to ourselves.

These keys allow us to change and grow in creative plan change your way of thinking. It goes without saying that by saying “no” to someone, without asking anyone for permission and in all other ways, showing our own independence, we can lose old friends, but if friendship with them was based on our weaknesses, complexes, and not on strengths of our personality, how much they are for us Good friends? But now, having new force, we will make new friends who will be independent and strong people.

And if we find it necessary to injure someone around us in order to give own life clarity and certainty, it really means only one thing: we are no longer willing to silently endure if they hurt us, no longer willing to allow them to put obstacles in our path to self-realization. Once we stop allowing other people to traumatize us, we have the opportunity to use our newfound power and help them or someone else, because we become caring towards others and are ready to show empathy to them.

In addition, it is then much easier for us to accept, without feeling offended or rejected, such situations when other people tell us “no”.

List of used literatures

1. V.V. Makarov. Lectures on psychology - 1999

2. Shchedrova G. "The goal of society is a person" 1995

3. Maksimov S.L. "Personality and Society" 1993.

4. Lukashevich Ch.P. "Psychology of education" 1996

5. Ian Stewart, Venn Joines life scenario» 1987

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What is the difference between life positions

Specific features of an active life position

Positive
High morality of a person, a positive lifestyle, unacceptability to evil.

Passivity and negative life goals are practically identical concepts. From inaction and unwillingness to help in difficult times, many different crimes and outbursts of injustice happen.

Types of passive life position

Submission;
Complete inertia;
destructive behavior;
Excitation.

A submissive person will follow the path “beaten” by someone until the end of his life. He strictly observes the rules, without thinking about their need and compliance.

Life position begins to form from early childhood and continues to strengthen or weaken during the continuation of the life cycle. Look at yourself from the outside, evaluate your actions. Perhaps you are doing something wrong. If the results do not impress you, then try to change yourself. You still have time for this!

Constructive position I + You +

From early childhood, I felt that I was infinitely loved. Our parents loved us and each other very much. I grew up in an atmosphere of care and understanding and still feel the support of my family and I am sure that no matter what happens to me, they will be there and will always help. From childhood, I was told about God, my parents prayed and told Him about everything important that happened in the family. Later I realized that a relationship with God is the most important thing in life, and now I can’t imagine how you can live and not remember Him, not turn to Him every day. He loves all people very much and takes care of us.

Lydia

If the core of the belief system is a constructive life position, a person is convinced of the value of his personality, sure that he deserves to be loved and accepted. He loves his parents, he knows that they are good, kind, honest people who can be trusted. This attitude extends to other people as well.

A person lives in harmony with the outside world, he is characterized by productive cooperation, positive relationships with people, acceptance, the ability to make friends, psychological adaptation and success. He is able to give and receive love, is not afraid to get close to people, is free from excessive dependence on the opinions and assessments of others, calmly accepts criticism, is self-critical, and is open to any changes.

He understands himself, his feelings, can freely express, realize and talk about his feelings, experiences. He rejoices in other people's successes and achievements, is able to support others, sincerely talks about positive traits to people, positively assesses the future.

A person with an existential position I+Thou+ can also make fair criticisms, and is ready to say "no" if necessary; not afraid to defend his opinion, even if others do not agree with him; is distinguished by independence and firmness of position, if he is sure that he is right. However, if he discovers the fallacy of his opinion, then he freely admits that he is wrong and changes his own point of view. He is characterized by a sober assessment of the reality of events and a readiness for a positive search for solutions to emerging life problems, the ability to make independent decisions and bear responsibility for them, taking into account the advice and wishes of others.

Such a person is faithful to his moral ideals and values. He constantly develops, engages in self-knowledge, chooses the methods of internal personal growth that are suitable for him and works on himself.

Depressive position I-Thou+

A depressive life position dominates in a person in his belief system after the experience of rejection by close people, parents. He decides that something is wrong with him, “I am bad” (I -), considers himself incapable of anything, thinks that he is worse than others, suffers from feelings of inferiority, incompetence, self-denial.

Self-doubt gives rise to fear of failure, which really provokes failure. A person internally strives to regularly experience situations of failure, even in small things. He constantly expects failure in order to once again fix the justice of his parents' position in relation to himself: something is wrong with him, he is not what they wanted, he is not capable of anything, cannot please them, etc. He is extremely dependent on the opinions of his parents and authority figures in his life. Often this manifests itself in infantilism, in fear of taking responsibility and making independent decisions, taking initiative.

A person with such a life position regularly experiences depression, despondency, seeks to move away from other people, prefers to stay at a distance. He avoids everything new, unexpected; tries to stay in an already familiar circle in which he feels in a relatively safe position.

When I remember my childhood, I try not to think about the bad, but it's not easy. My parents loved me, but I would say "strange love". Even now they do not realize what they did to me in childhood, and how it affected me. To begin with, they were expecting a girl, and when I was born, they were very upset. When I was little, I always had long hair, so many on the street took me for a girl, which made me terribly angry. Sometimes my mother dressed me in dresses and admired me. She was the head of the house, occupied a higher social status, constantly humiliated my father, who chose a job that involved constant long business trips and was constantly absent from home. When he returned, his parents often fought, because his father was very jealous. I felt that I was to blame for their problems, I tried to reconcile them. Quite often, my mother broke down and, in a fit of anger, beat me, and then cried, and forced me to ask her forgiveness for the fact that I “brought her down” so much. When I started to do something myself (which happened infrequently, since I was not trusted or allowed to do anything), my parents popularly explained to me that no matter how hard I tried, I still wouldn’t succeed, it would be better if they did everything themselves.

Evgeniy

Think how much literary heroes with a similar life position is described in Russian literature! This is a very common personality type.

Defensive position I+Thou-

I was the oldest child in the family. Parents loved us, but were always very passionate about work. My brother was born when I was 2 years old, and all the attention of parents since that time has been riveted to him. He was more sick, hooligans, poorly studied at school. As a teenager, he got involved with bad company, started drinking. Unlike him, I have always been a good, obedient girl, I studied “good” and “excellent”, I tried to succeed in everything. But my parents were much less interested in me. I entered a prestigious institute on the first try, where I met my future husband, Boris, who tenderly looked after me and sought my attention. Something always went wrong with him, he constantly got into some kind of story, no matter what he started to do, everything turned out wrong, not thought out, to say the least ... I had to decide everything in the family and take responsibility for myself , in short, he "lived behind me, like behind a stone wall." Boris loved me very much, and I felt it, but over time I began to feel that he was becoming cooler, and even began to suspect that he was cheating on me. I did not have a close relationship with either my parents or my brother, because my parents are biased towards my brother. They help him in everything, do not refuse anything, spoiled him, and he, the slob, uses their kindness and does what he wants. I can't stand him, how disgusting he is.

Nastya

If a defensive life position dominates at the existential level of the belief system, a person, one way or another, experiences a situation of rejection by parents, significant people, and decides that these people, the world, everything around is hostile, negatively disposed and one must always be ready to defend oneself and defend oneself and best of all, attack.

A person feels the value of his personality by proving his superiority over others, by means of an irresistible desire to control everything around. Usually he himself does not even notice that he humiliates, condemns and accuses people. Since this happens so naturally that he sincerely believes that others are doing everything wrong, they are to blame for all the troubles (including his own problems). And he knows better than anyone else how to do it so that it turns out well.

He needs to be the first, the best, this is often achieved by condemning or belittling others, in neurotic rivalry (a superiority complex). And also in trying to control everyone around and striving to complete any business to the limit, achieving perfect success and demonstrating it to others in order to show that they are not capable of it.

Such a person is internally convinced that his goals can be achieved only through relentless struggle, aggressiveness towards people and the world. Aggressiveness is sometimes hidden and sublimated, taking on socially acceptable forms, but those around, especially those on whom this person does not depend in any way, may feel uncomfortable in his presence, often perceive him as overwhelming others, an insensitive person.

However, one must always keep in mind that the superiority complex is only a protective form of a deep feeling of inferiority, a complex of self-rejection (non-acceptance, rejection of oneself). These two complexes naturally connected. We should not be surprised that when we do self-knowledge and discover a self-denial complex, we immediately find a more or less hidden superiority complex. On the other hand, if we investigate the superiority complex dynamically, we always find a more or less hidden self-denial complex. This removes the seeming paradox about two opposite tendencies existing in one individual, since it is obvious that normally the desire for superiority and the feeling of inferiority complement each other. The word "complex" that we use reflects the set of psychological characteristics that underlie an exaggerated sense of self-denial, inferiority, or striving for superiority.

The fruitless position of I-Thou-

A person whose core belief system is represented by a barren life position feels unloved, rejected, humiliated; convinced that life is useless, full of disappointments, no one can help him.

He rejects people and the world around him and feels rejected, devastated, depressed; the main action is waiting.

A person who does not realize the value of either his own personality or the value of the personality of the people around him can be socially dangerous.

Internal conflict quite often manifests itself through attempts to immerse yourself in a different reality (computer, alcohol, drugs, magic, etc.), in order to hide from internal problems, if possible, do not think, do not recognize and ignore them.

I was born into a family at the most inopportune time. My parents just got married. My father was a student, and my mother (she is 5 years older) had already graduated from the institute by that time. They lived with their father's parents. The mother's relationship with her grandmother did not go well, because the grandmother was against marriage. Mother was worried that different girls would seduce her father at the institute, so it seems that her time was not easy. Childbirth began for a month ahead of time and were critical. I don't know exactly what happened, but it looks like I might not have survived. Then, due to an oversight of doctors, complications began in the mother, and she was taken to the hospital. I stayed with my father and grandmother. I often got sick, slept badly at night, screamed. Parents constantly quarreled and cursed among themselves and with their grandmother. The mother called names and humiliated the father, the grandmother also condemned them. A couple of years later, the parents moved to a separate apartment. But their relationship never worked out. I always felt that they were unhappy in marriage, my mother told me that they live together only for me, but I don’t care. Actually, I didn't tell my father or mother anything. When I grew up, my father left and married another woman who had a daughter.

Victor.

Every adult does not stay in his basic existential position all the time. Often (as his true face) he hides it under various masks. But the existential position always manifests itself in difficult situations. life circumstances, when solving psychological problems, in new, unexpected circumstances, in a state of internal conflict, tension, frustration (a mental state caused by failure to meet needs and desires, accompanied by various negative experiences: disappointment, irritation, anxiety, despair ...).

LIVING POSITION - the orientation of the life of the individual, her t. er. regarding their place and role in public life (as opposed to social status, positions). On the moral plane, life style is a system of behavior of a person, determined by his convictions, ideology, and conscience. A person's position on any socially significant issue is a philosophic issue insofar as it corresponds to the objective logic of the development of social reality and reflects the balance of real social forces that influence this development. Criterion of truth, correctness of this or that Zh. item - its conformity to progressive tendencies of development about-va, interests of advanced social forces. In order to determine the life style of people, it is necessary, in the words of V. I. Lenin, to find out “what kind of social situation and exactly how their actions are determined” (vol. 1, p. 430). Zh. p. - one of the most important signs of the personal development of the individual, determining his place in the historical process. The formation of personality is at the same time conscious choice a person of one or another Zh. p. (Moral choice). The content of the personal choice of a certain life style is ultimately determined by the ideals and values of society, class or social group, to which this one belongs. But this does not detract from the role of the subject himself, the individual in determining his attitude to the world. Life and V. I. Lenin - and an example of a consciously made choice and consistent implementation of an active Zh. p, personality. Zh. p. is an expression of such a social activity of a person, which is based on ideological certainty and adherence to principles, presupposes social consciousness. Zh.'s activity is expressed both ideologically - in an interested, biased, party attitude towards the ideals, goals, theoretical attitudes of the society, class, and behaviorally, characterizing the consistency and masculinity in defending a person's views, beliefs, in their implementation in practice . Therefore, Zh. p. should be clearly distinguished from businesslike, “grip”, cunning opportunism (choosing someone's side or so-called sp. for reasons of selfish interest, calculation, benefit). The moral basis of active life philosophy is the principle of the unity of word and deed, which is expressed in the desire of a person to realize social, including moral, in practice. Correspondence, the fusion of theory and practice, unity, thought and action, when people can be vouched for, V. I. Lenin said that “they will not take a word on faith, they will not say a word against their conscience” (vol. 45, p. 391), is the most important condition for the effectiveness of the Zh. item chosen by the masses or the individual. Active Zh. an outside contemplator, a neutral observer, guided by the principle "my hut is on the edge." In a moral sense, such passivity is identical with indifference, often feeding renegacy. A special case of a departure from active life style is the discrepancy between word and deed, which testifies to the declarative, formal nature of a person's conviction, and sometimes to moral hypocrisy. Social and personal passivity in all its forms is alien to communist morality; the only exceptions are those special cases where passivity is a peculiar form of activity (for example, under conditions of bourgeois democracy, deliberate evasion of voting in elections that offer no alternative, etc.). Of great moral importance is the struggle against moral infantilism, lack of initiative and inactivity, against social complacency, intoxication with success, lack of self-criticism, against ideological vacillations and concessions on matters of principle.

Ethics Dictionary. - M.: Politizdat. Ed. Icon. 1981 .

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A person's life position is his holistic attitude to the world around him, manifested in his thoughts and actions. This is what catches the eye when meeting and distinguishes us from each other in a psychological sense. It affects the ability to overcome difficulties, our successes and determines the power over our destiny.

A clear life position is manifested in all spheres of human activity: moral, spiritual, socio-political and labor. It expresses the moral tension of the individual, that is, her readiness for practical action.

The formation of a life position begins at birth and largely depends on the environment in which a person lives. Its foundation is born when a child learns to communicate with parents, friends, teachers, to live in society. Depending on these relations, the self-determination of the individual is concretized.

Life position - active and passive

An active life position is the secret of self-realization and success. It manifests itself in the courage of initiative and readiness to act. For its formation, an engine is needed that will move us forward. Our desires act as such an engine, which will lift us above all difficulties and help us achieve our goals. A person with an active life position can be a leader or follow the leader, but he always has his own point of view and the strength to defend it.

There are the following types of active life position:

positive position. It is focused on the moral norms of society, on the affirmation of good and overcoming moral evil.
Negative. Not always active and active people spend their efforts on positive actions, their actions can harm others and themselves. Participation in various bandit formations can serve as an example of a negative active life position. The leader of the gang is a rather active person, with firm convictions, specific goals, but his convictions are to the detriment of society, and not in its favor.

The antipode of this life position is passivity. A person with a passive life position is inert and indifferent. His words and deeds diverge, he does not want to participate in solving any problems and difficulties of the society in which he lives. His behavior resembles the behavior of an ostrich that hides its head in the sand, thinking that this is the most safe way rid yourself of problems. Such principles are no less dangerous than a negative active life position. How many injustices and crimes are committed from our inaction?

A passive life position can manifest itself in the following ways:

Despite the fact that the life position is formed in childhood and depends on the society in which we live, it is not too late to stop and think about what your life position is, what benefit you bring to others. And if the result of reflection does not satisfy, it is not too late to change yourself.

We often hear the expression - “An active life position is required” or “I have an active life position”. And what is meant by this? What does a person with such a position feel and how does he behave, and what are the pitfalls? Let's take a closer look.

An active life position manifests itself in two aspects:

Manifestation in self-relationship.
Manifestations in what you broadcast to the world through your actions, emotional reactions.

Second, your manifestation in the outside world is a consequence of your self-attitude, the way you feel, your vision of yourself.

I must say that an active life position is a relative characteristic. That is, we are talking about those internal and external differences, which differ from the behavior and internal state of the majority. And they are opposed to it.

For example, when everyone prefers to be silent, but you do not, and you speak in general silence, your voice may sound loud or soft, but still sound.

Let's do a mini test. Think of 15 people with whom you communicate most often. It doesn't matter how much they are loved or not loved: a colleague, mother-in-law, beloved friend or girlfriend, a tram neighbor. When choosing, we focus on the time that you communicate with them, spend next to them.

Now remember that you take something and do it more often than they do: you go somewhere, communicate, learn new things, etc. Or, on the contrary, you are behind: everyone has long been married, made repairs, enrolled in motorcycle racing courses ... Count the number of points in which you are ahead and behind. And subtract the second from the first.

If score:

5 and below, then you are clearly dragging in the tail. De-evolution is your personal choice.
If +5-5, you, like a log, go with the flow - you have a passive life position.
If +5 or more, then you have a strong personality trait.

The first aspect that is visible to everyone and immediately when it comes to an active life position is behavior. When there are two options to do or not to do, such a person is more likely to do it. The second aspect that catches the eye is initiative. There is an idea - puts forward, promotes, achieves results. Initiative in a more "advanced" manifestation and in combination with other qualities can manifest itself as organizational and leadership qualities.

Another thing that is immediately noticeable is that a person with an active life position is more public than others. A person acts, and does not hide behind the backs of others. And, as a rule, he adheres to and himself preaches such behavior. Go ahead, do it, he tells himself and the others.

The manifestation of an active life position

The manifestation of an active life position in the internal state is the sum of the movements of our thoughts, moods, motivation, fortitude. And from it we get the impetus to move forward. We can go with the flow wherever it flows, or paddle in the direction we need to. The paddle is always at hand.

Passive life position is responsible natural law conserve energy and save energy. It is expedient in a number of cases in the simplest nature, but used to the detriment of development rather creates multiple risks. In the social jungle, we get weak in spirit, sick due to the lack of desire to have a healthy lifestyle and people ignoring reality. And their percentage is very high.

The first sign of the disease of a passive life position is when a person often says: “It’s hard for me to start something. Sometimes it's so hard for me to decide to take a step. For a long time I can’t force myself to call, do, start a new life”. 10,000 Mondays and at least 10 New Years have already passed. And you can't start a new life. Get up at 6:30 in the morning, joyfully go for a run, be cheerful and fresh, full of strength and enthusiasm, and behave firmly in a beautiful bright tomorrow and especially charming today. This is something like procrastination, but, perhaps, not on such a large scale. Finally, sell me this magic pill that will make me act and change my life for the better day by day! Better yet, change my life for me. And only a person with an active life position at the end will still add: “Okay, maybe not. Momentary weakness. I myself."

The second sign of illness is when a person says that it is good to be “rich healthy than poor and sick”, but at the same time he does not have actions aimed at the first part. He stands in front of a shop window, looks at a piece of cake and passes by this shop window day after day, decade after decade, and in his life everything slowly, according to the natural laws of nature, moves down and into deterioration.

Downward and downward movement is the normal natural state. Under the only condition - a person is passive. If you do not engage in health - the muscles atrophy. Such is the law of nature. If you don't study every day, your brain will atrophy. Such is the law of nature. If you don't clean the house, it will stink for sure. Such is the law of nature. What if you don't clean your soul? The smell will be even worse. It's like a law of physics that we all learned in school, and it doesn't work for us.

self-motivation

Self-motivation is another facet of an active life position. It is very important to understand whether you can feel the drive from the changes. As you know, you and I have two brains: this is the one that you thought about in the first place, and the neurons that are in the stomach. Both produce strong hormones and neurotransmitters, including hormones that regulate emotions and give us energy. But not everyone has them set up. Sometimes this is due to genetics, sometimes a difficult childhood and a slippery window sill, sometimes just a habit that becomes a second skin and acquires such inertia that in order to overcome it, additional infusions of energy in the form of over motivation are needed.

The energy for action comes from motivation. And the stronger the motivation, the more likely it is that the action will be taken. It is, of course, so. But, honestly, absolutely everyone wants to live better. You have seen at least one person who would like to live worse. Why does the desire to live better not turn into active action? Let's now turn our attention to fear and its secondary benefits. What it is? It is the desire of the ego to maintain the existing status quo. Consider not what hinders, but what helps. What's good about motivation? Motivation gives energy. But in some cases this energy is clearly not enough. For example, you may want to learn English for years, but never take action. Where else can you get energy without resorting to torture in the form of attending motivational trainings?

Energy for Actions, or the Power of the Spirit

Man is a rather complicated structure. Perhaps, everyone can immediately name two components: this is the body and consciousness. After a little thought, you can include the third one here - this is energy. What if I told you that there is something else? It is soul and spirit. Pretty real ingredients. With which you can work just as well as with consciousness. The soul is responsible for feelings (and not only), the spirit for the movement through life. That is, the spirit is responsible for the creation of your life, the soul is responsible for how exactly you create it. Because it is clear that the same goals can be achieved in different ways. Available new position, passing over the heads of colleagues, but you can do it in an environmentally friendly way. In both cases, the goal achieved will be the same, the methods will be different.

The spirit, as a structure, is responsible for doing, for achieving goals, that is, for creating one's life. In the Russian language, there are many stable associations associated with fortitude. Try to imagine a strong-willed person. It is likely that you will have a certain image of a person who is strong in character, active, active. That is, an image that is radically different from the image of a weak-minded person. This once again tells us that these concepts are fixed in the consciousness and society and are obvious and understandable to everyone.

Actions, behavior, non-verbal signals depend on resources and internal energy. A well-known source of energy is food, good vacation and dream. But that's not all. Two people, having slept and eaten for ten years in advance, can have diametrically different positions by activity. We will assume that there is another source of energy, it is similar to an atomic reactor, it is located directly in a person and is capable of inciting him to active actions. Let's call it the power of the spirit. The power of our energy, which is felt by others and which affects the course of social events, directly depends on the state of our Spirit. If he burns with life, development, the desire to achieve, then such a person is likely to be clearly socially manifested and successful. The presence of fortitude, this energy does not mean that everything will be easy for him. But such a person will have sufficient resources to overcome difficulties.

Active life position training

An active life position is just a good disagreement with what is on this moment or the desire to change your life for the better, the willingness to change it and action for change.

Is it possible to purchase it, or is it pre-set? Yes, you certainly may.

There are three simple rules on every day:

Tag people who stand out for their behavior, and they get more done. Notice the little steps they take and you don't, and do the same when you feel strong.
Stock up on power. Find the moments where you lose and where you gain. Lose a little less when you succeed, and create a little more moments when you gain.
Ask yourself a question: "How would I live if I was already ... (successful, sexy, talented, etc.)?". Then write down all the excuses on the topic - "What's stopping me from acting like this right now?". Look at them. Most of it will be just nonsense, the rest will be fears.

Are there any pitfalls for a person with an active lifestyle? Oh sure.

Sometimes such a characterization of oneself suggests that a person has gaps in all-round development, some holes that are filled with movement towards something new, constant doing, but in one area or a constant holiday.

It can be a form of defensive reaction when something is not right in the soul. Remove it, and despondency and depression will come. A harmonious person feels calm, and when something happens, and he changes something, and when in life there is a “plateau” - peace and quiet. That is, he does not have gaping gaps in his development as a person. For example, if you can say to yourself: “I have one of: I feel uncomfortable on vacation when I have nothing to do”.

How to fix? Just allow yourself to do nothing. Be lazy. Let the world live its own life. Believe me, without you it will definitely not collapse. After all, there are plenty of other great things to do on vacation that have nothing to do with work.

Or: “I don’t feel comfortable being alone, I perceive it painfully”. Here you need to carefully analyze yourself and write out everything - “Why do I need someone next to me?”. Depending on the answers, you can understand what exactly you expect from the presence of another. Maybe support, care, admiration? Then it is necessary to recognize the fact that you are dependent, and you do not have that degree of personal freedom that distinguishes an adult from an infantile person. These are signs of a lack of resources and power of the individual.

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