Sympathy and compassion: do modern people need these qualities? Compassion is the only way to solve all problems

Have you ever thought about the question: “What is the difference between pity and compassion?” It would seem that these words are so similar to each other, but pity someone or sympathize with one and the same thing. But no, they are not the same thing, but there is a huge difference between pity and compassion. What is it? Let's try to figure it out in this article.

COMPASSION = compassion + suffering when you're able to share what's in this moment time feels and experiences another person, to share his pain and his joy. Be one with the other.

PITY \u003d sting + awn when you pity someone, you judge, you label him as "loser", "worthless", "crippled", you sting him with your judgment, you humiliate, you exalt yourself. Many love to be sorry in order to exalt themselves in comparison with others. And many love self-pity, because they “feed” on the emanations of pity.

• Pity for people depresses, for oneself - humiliates.
• Pity can destroy a person, because the more pity in his life, the less desire to fight difficulties.
• Pity is the worst feeling you can have for a person.
• Pity is something that stings you, and compassion is a connection with someone else's suffering.

Compassion is the most powerful tool for removing ignorance and increasing wisdom.

Buddha Shakyamuni

Compassion is not a quality. It is the Law of Laws, the eternal Harmony, the World Soul Itself; boundless universal Essence, the Light of abiding Truth, the harmony of all things, the Law of eternal Love.
The more you merge with it, dissolve your being in a single Being, the more your Soul enters into unity with everything that exists, the more fully you will turn into PERFECT COMPASSION.
Such is the path of the Arhat, along which the Buddhas of Perfection come.
(from the book by Khenchen Palden Sherab Rinpoche and Khenpo Tsewang Dongyal Rinpoche "THE LIGHT OF THE THREE GEM")

Compassion contains a great pearl Secret Knowledge. All Bodhisattvas, all saints, all ascetics rushed along this path

Roerich N.

"In compassion is hidden a love of such strength that it is more ordinary love. If you sympathize with another, then you begin to love him more... A spiritual person is all one great compassion. He is exhausted, sympathizing with others, prays, consoles. And, although he takes on other people's suffering, he is always full of joy, since Christ takes away his pain from him and consoles him spiritually.. (Elder Paisios the Holy Mountaineer)

• Compassion is a special quality of the human soul, the readiness to help one's neighbor without hesitation.
• Compassion is the outward expression of an active inner love for one's neighbor.
• Compassion is the willingness to feel and accept the pain of another person, physical or mental.
• Compassion is sensitivity and attentiveness to others, genuine respect for their interests and their experiences.
• Compassion is the ability under any conditions to act in such a way as not to cause harm to others.
• Compassion is the crown of the Future.
• Compassion - to feel the same thing that another feels, to a certain extent - identification at the level of feelings.
• Compassion for all living beings, based on the understanding of the Relative Truth: frailty, variability, burdensomeness of samsaric existence and the desire to save living beings from this fate.
• The essence of compassion is not to increase material wealth, but to purify the consciousness from being conditioned by them.

In a feeling of pity there is always a shade of superiority, arrogance. When you feel sorry for someone, you look down on this person, involuntarily thinking that he is a helpless and incapable loser. This feeling has nothing to do with compassion. Therefore, a person should not feel sorry for others. He should feel compassion for them. That is, he must put himself in the place of others: “If I had the same problems and suffering, what would it be like for me? That would be terrible! Other people have the same feelings…” He then wishes that no one, not even your enemy, would ever experience such torment, so that they would all get rid of this suffering. This is what compassion is. The object of compassion is suffering living beings. And the aspect of compassion is the wish that they be freed from suffering. When this object and aspect are united in the mind, a feeling of compassion arises. Those who ask for pity seek validation for their suffering.

Pity is a destructor, introduced into the mind by predators and destroying both the one who pities and the one who is pity.

Compassion is the feeling of someone else's pain as one's own, the desire to reduce this pain, to reduce total suffering in the world. Compassion is the ability under any conditions to act in such a way as to cause as little harm as possible to surrounding beings.

Pity, on the other hand, is a statement of the weakness, inability, or “inferiority” of another being compared to oneself, a statement of his suffering from a certain distance.

Pity implies separateness, isolation. Compassion is integrity.

Pity generates a stream of destructive energy, because when pitying, a person usually recognizes the inferiority of the object of pity, his inability to get out of difficult situations on his own. In the end, pity is a recognition of the position of the victim after another: “Poor, unfortunate, how bad you feel ...” And this image is embedded in a feeling of pity. In other words, the one who pities someone intends the object of pity even deeper into darkness and misfortune, sending him his images of his inferiority. Pity accustoms to weakness and inaction. Pitying himself, a person often shares his personal burden with others with pleasure, shifts responsibility for his actions to someone, demanding understanding or support.

Compassion, unlike pity, always develops from within. To experience it, you need the ability to feel yourself the same manifestation. parts of the great Cosmic manifestation as well as those around. This feeling allows you to look at others, not shuddering, but not touched, keeping calm, as if alone with yourself, in front of a mirror.

True compassion is not an emotional experience [for oneself and about oneself], it is a spiritual vision of the suffering of another person as they really are in the soul of a person. Real compassion calms the sufferer, as the other, who loves him, takes the pain upon himself. Compassion - to be in the place of the sufferer, to be in his shoes, to feel his pain. Pity is to understand that a person is in trouble, but at the same time rejoice that he himself is not in such a position. Regret - often turns into arrogance, a sense of superiority.

Compassion is always active; it always forces one to look for a way to reduce suffering - not just to console, not to pretend that "everything is fine" when everything is bad, but precisely to find a way out of the current situation. The feeling of absolute equality of everything in front of everything, the connection of oneself with the rest of the world, radically alters the vision and experience of being, eliminating the feeling of sacrifice and the suffering resulting from it.

Pity increases the amount of suffering: the negative state of pity itself is added to the suffering of the one who is pitied. Compassion, on the other hand, makes one move from suffering, and therefore it can be combined with joy. When you feel that you are really helping someone, you feel joy.

Thus man seeks compassion but shuns pity, for he seeks strength and freedom rather than weakness and dependence.

Compassion has nothing to do with pride and pity. The main and only task of compassion is always concrete and practical help to those who need it. Wise parents can sometimes apply a belt to their disobedient children in their educational plans, but such an application to children will be very useful.

Pity and compassion are phenomena of a different order. The one who regrets plunges into the twilight of the consciousness of the one who regrets and gets bogged down in them. Compassion, on the contrary, elevates, elevates the suffering person to himself, surrounding him with Light, hope and cheerfulness of the spirit, and brings him joy. One must learn to sympathize without lowering one's consciousness, that is, without losing its luminosity. Condescension does not mean at all that the consciousness that gives and helps is infected with the darkened state of the person who is being helped, although compassion can take on the pain of another. One must learn to help without being infected by the vibrations of the one who is being helped. But such help should not exclude either sympathy, or understanding, or responsiveness to someone else's grief.

Compassion is a worthy feeling, but pity is dangerous because it is easy to become infected with the feelings of the pitiful and, together with him, find yourself in a pit of darkness and despair. Compassion and pity are different. Compassion is effective. Pity is immersed in the experiences of the pitiful and gets bogged down in them, multiplying their strength, but not dissipating them. In fact, no help is provided to the sorry. The compassion of a burning heart eases the suffering of those who need help with its luminous radiations. It does not take into account the twilight state of the sufferer, but floods him with its light. The compassionate affirms his own in another consciousness, but by no means what the consciousness of the sufferer is filled with. The boundary between compassion and pity is very thin, and if you do not learn to distinguish it, damage is inevitable, both for the sorry and for the sorry. And if the compassionate person becomes clouded and loses his balance, then what is the use of such compassion? The boundaries between compassion and pity cannot be crossed.

Compassion- it is to feel someone else's pain as one's own, and without hesitation, and it is completely natural (since this is one of the qualities of the heart); thereby alleviating the pain of the sufferer. Compassion is an important and noble feeling, again because it is a natural quality of the heart. Pity, in turn, comes from the mind and the ego.

A compassionate mind is like an overflowing vessel: it is an inexhaustible source of energy, determination, and kindness. It is like a seed: by cultivating compassion in ourselves, we simultaneously develop others. positive traits- Forgiveness, tolerance inner strength and the confidence needed to overcome fear and helplessness. It is like an elixir, for it helps to transform unfavorable situations into favorable ones. That is why, while showing love and compassion, we should not be limited to the circle of family and friends. It would also be wrong to say that compassion is the lot of clerics, health workers and social sphere. It is necessary for every member of society.

For people on the spiritual path, compassion is a vital element of the spiritual path. In general, the more compassion and altruism in a person, the higher his willingness to work for the well-being of other beings. Even if he pursues personal interests, the stronger his compassion, the more courage and determination he will have. All world religions agree that compassion plays an important role. They not only praise compassion, but also pay great attention to its promotion in human society.

Compassion keeps us from immersing ourselves in our own conflicts and stresses. Under the influence of compassion, we tend to pay more attention to the suffering and well-being of other beings, and it is easier for us, starting from our own experience, to understand the suffering of others. As a result, there is some shift in perspective, and in some cases we begin to perceive differently the suffering, pain and problems that fall to our lot. What used to be simply unbearable now seems less significant - even insignificant. Thus, an altruistic and compassionate person will certainly feel that his own problems and conflicts can be sustained. It is much more difficult for troubles and difficulties to disturb the peace of his mind.

Pure compassion has the power to remove everything karmic obscurations and obstacles path to enlightenment. When the inner wisdom disclosed, your understanding of relative and absolute truth increases as you move towards enlightenment. Buddha I have said many times that compassion is the most powerful tool for eliminating ignorance and increasing wisdom.

An illustration of this is the story of Asanga. He was an important Indian scholar, born about five hundred years after the Buddha, sometime at the beginning of the Christian era. As a young man, Asanga went to Nalanda University, a renowned ancient Indian monastery and the first true university in the world. Although Asanga became a great scholar, he still had doubts about some of the teachings. He questioned many scientists and realized masters, but none of them could dispel his doubts. He decided to practice the visualization of Maitreya, the future Buddha, thinking that once he saw Maitreya, he would find the answers to his questions. After receiving initiation and instruction, he went to a mountain in India and meditated on Maitreya for three years.

Asanga thought that after three years he would have enough strength to meet with Maitreya and ask him his questions, but by this time he had not received any signs. After three years, he was tired and uninspired, and so he left his retreat. Descending the mountain, he came to a village where people had gathered to look at an old man who was making a needle by rubbing a large iron stick with a piece of silk. It was hard for Asanga to believe that someone could make a needle by rubbing an iron pole with a piece of silk, but the old man assured him that it was possible by showing him the three needles he had already made. When Asanga saw such an example of a great patience, he decided to continue his practice and returned to retreat for another three years.

Over the next three years he had several dreams about Maitreya, but he still could not see Maitreya. After three years, he felt tired and tired, and again decided to leave. As he descended the mountain, he saw a place where water was dripping onto a stone. It dripped very slowly, one drop per hour, but this drop made a big hole in the rock. Seeing this, Asanga regained his courage and he decided to return to retreat for another three years.

This time he had good dreams and other signs, but he still could not see Maitreya clearly and ask him his questions. He left again. Coming down the mountain, he saw a small hole in the rock. The area around the hole was polished by a bird that rubbed its wings against the stone. This made him decide again to return to the cave for another three years. But even after this three-year period, he still could not see Maitreya. After twelve years he had no answers, so he left his retreat and went down the slope.

Along the way, he came across an old dog near the village. When she barked at him, Asanga saw that Bottom part her body was bruised and covered in fleas and worms. Coming closer, he saw that the dog was suffering terribly and felt great compassion for her. He thought of all the stories in which Shakyamuni Buddha gave himself to living beings and decided that it was time to give his body to this dog and insects.

He went to the village and bought a knife. With this knife, he cut off the meat from his thigh, thinking to remove the worms from the dog and place them on his flesh. Then he realized that if he removed the insects with his fingers, they would die because they were very fragile. So he decided to clean up the insects with his tongue. He didn't want to look at what he would do, so he closed his eyes and extended his tongue towards the dog. But his tongue hit the ground. He tried again and again, but his tongue kept touching the ground. Finally, he opened his eyes and saw that the old dog had disappeared and that Maitreya Buddha was in its place.

Seeing Buddha Maitreya, he was very happy, but at the same time somewhat upset. Asanga practiced for so many years, and only when he saw the old dog did Maitreya appear to him. Asanga started crying and asked Maitreya why he didn't show himself earlier. Maitreya replied, "I have not been uncompassionate towards you. From the first day you came to the cave, I have always been with you. But until today, obscurations have obscured your vision. Now you see me because of your great compassion for the dog. This compassion has removed your obscurations to the point where you can see me." After that, Maitreya personally taught Asanga the texts known as the Five Teachings of Maitreya, which are very important texts in the Tibetan tradition.

Asanga's contact with Maitreya was born out of compassion. It was only through compassion that his delusions were dissolved. For this reason Guru Padmasambhava taught that without compassion, the practice of dharma will not bear fruit, and, in fact, without compassion, your practice will become rotten.

In Tibet, it is customary to say that only one remedy helps with many diseases - love and compassion. These qualities are the highest source of human happiness, and the need for them lies in the very heart of our being. Unfortunately, love and compassion have long been out of place in many areas of public life. It is customary to show these qualities in the family, in one's own home, and their demonstration in society is regarded as something inappropriate and even naively simple-minded. But this is a tragedy. The practice of compassion is not seen as a sign of idealism divorced from reality, but the most effective way look after the interests of others as well as your own. The more we - as a nation, group or individual - are dependent on others, the greater should be our interest in their well-being.

The practice of altruism opens up great opportunities for us to seek compromise and cooperation - we should not be limited to one recognition of the striving for harmony that lives in us.

I wish everyone to develop the quality of compassion in themselves, for the benefit of all living beings.

material is partially taken from the site Enmerkar's blog

Have at least a little love for those with whom life confronts you, and replace condemnation with knowledge, understanding and compassion for them who do not know anything, and if they do know, then they have not come so close to the Hierarchy of Light. Compassion will generate sympathy and understanding for suffering people. When it is very dark, compassion will help to shine around. It takes on other people's burdens and other people's pains. Compassion is a great quality of the spirit. The Lord, called Compassion, Gave people a great example of love for humanity.
Facets of Agni Yoga, vol. VII, 479

Save yourself when hurting the most thin strings souls of longing and disappointment, not to let them break their stamina and courage, to be able to eliminate them as something unworthy and to learn from this experience of stability and optimism is the task of every incarnated spirit at any moment of his life. No, one should by no means consider oneself superior to any situation that has arisen - this is far from the best way. One should, courageously plunging into the situation, learn from it the lesson of improving one’s spirit, overcoming one’s egoism, the desire for positive responsible bestowal from the position of the Wisdom of Experience, the Wisdom of the Student-Teacher, which is everything that has consciousness in this world. M November 10, 1993 Agni Yoga. Modern stage. Chernivtsi, 1994

COMPASSION AND HELP
(From the Messages of the Teacher of Light)

Pity and compassion are phenomena of a different order. The one who regrets plunges into the twilight of the consciousness of the one who regrets and gets bogged down in them. Compassion, on the contrary, elevates, elevates the suffering person to himself, surrounding him with Light, hope and cheerfulness of the spirit, and brings him joy. One must learn to sympathize and pity without lowering one's consciousness, that is, without losing its luminosity. Condescension does not mean at all that the consciousness that gives and helps is infected with the darkened state of the person who is being helped, although compassion can take on the pain of another. One must learn to help without being infected by the vibrations of the one who is being helped. But such help should not exclude either sympathy, or understanding, or responsiveness to someone else's grief.

To overcome oneself in oneself is only half the task; one must also learn to overcome in oneself and others their weaknesses and shortcomings. All your Teacher takes upon Himself to transfuse them in His Tower. In the same way, you learn to take on the shortcomings of your closest followers and overcome them in yourself. If you do not overcome your shortcomings in yourself, then how will you overcome them in another consciousness. A mentor is useless who teaches what he has not overcome in himself. But I also want to say something more, namely, that it is impossible to help even those close to us, if their hardships and sorrows affect us equally to the same extent, darkening and burdening us. Both the blind then fall into the pit: both the leader and the follower. But accepting and neutralizing the burden from your neighbors in the balance of the spirit on the fires of your heart, you can provide real help. This is not indifference, but true compassion and transmutation of nasty phenomena. I repeat once again: in case of unsuccessful regret, the one who regrets and the one who regrets - both are covered with a cloud of darkness and plunge into the hopeless. But by taking on the burden of another and transmuting it in your consciousness, you can help constructively and elevate the consciousness of the one who is being helped.

Canvas N.K. Roerich - "Compassion" completely exhaustively and clearly expresses the idea of ​​real compassion and real help by taking on the pain or burden of the one to whom compassion is expressed or assistance is provided. Tell those who talk about helping people that everyone has full opportunity help someone else's grief, if his desire is so sincere that he is ready to take on his burden. And you will immediately see how much the number of people willing to help will decrease. Most of those who talk and talk about helping and serving humanity think to do this without sacrificing anything. Help will be valid only when the burden of another is shared and the helping person takes on his own shoulders part of the karma of the one who is being helped. This is what the Master does, this is what everyone does, whose heart is burning with the fire of compassion.

Before they brought bloody sacrifices, then they brought gifts. Now the thought offering. They bring their best thoughts to the Teacher of Light. Each thought is colored by the qualities of the spirit - this or that. Hence the concern for the qualities, so that with their lights they can color the thought that carries the charge of Light. And calmness and balance are needed so that they are reflected in thoughts. One must learn to ensure that nothing stains the thought with darkness. No considerations can serve as an excuse if thought becomes clouded and obscures its parent and space. No matter how much a person suffers, or those close to him, or those around him, this cannot serve as an excuse for the darkening of thought and the generation of spatial infection. For this, it is indicated to maintain balance in all conditions and under all circumstances, whatever they may be. There is nothing in the world for the sake of which it would be possible to replace the Light that is in you with darkness. Pity and sympathy can have a very negative effect if the pitying person plunges into the twilight of the consciousness of the pitiful person. True help lies in flooding or illuminating the consciousness of the pitiful person with your light and raising it to the level of your own luminosity, but by no means extinguishing your fires in the suffering consciousness of another person who is being helped.

It takes time, and a considerable time at that, to reach the state when personal affairs no longer color the auric radiations. And in this case, the quality of selflessness is crucial. It is not easy to move away from yourself and your experiences, since they directly concern us. Your pain is much more tangible than the pain of a neighbor. But still, sometimes the pain inflicted on loved ones hurts our heart very much. And it must be refined to such an extent that it responds sensitively to any pain around. A sensitive heart is a symbol of compassion. Only it can contain the pain of the world. Great is the burden of such a heart. It carries a sensitive heart. Suffering for near and far, for people, for the whole world inexpressibly sharpens the susceptibility of the heart. Refinement comes through suffering and compassion. Life often puts the disciple precisely in such conditions that the heart can grow and its susceptibility is multiplied. Alaya's wings are forged in the sacred furnace of suffering.

Be strong -
both in misfortune and in happiness,
and in wealth
and in poverty to you,
alone,
and in the surroundings
where people are crowded
noise and noise.

Is the strength
when will they rise?
That's not strength
where the power is from the earth.
Strength in the heart
in the treasure of the world,
out of conditions
what to carry with you.

It is impossible to remain indifferent, seeing someone else's suffering. How to be? Suffering for others cannot be avoided by a sensitive heart. After all, suffering for others borders on compassion, and compassion, real compassion, means conscious acceptance of pain. Thus, the burdens of consciousnesses bound by karma must be taken upon oneself, but not at all in order to break in spirit under this burden, but in order to overcome them in oneself. After all, only by overcoming them and conquering them in oneself can one expect to overcome them outwardly, that is, to free from them even the one to whom compassion is shown. Compassion does not mean immersing headlong into the experience of the one who is being helped, and doubling the obscuration, that is, defeat, but, on the contrary, lifting the suffering person out of the pit of despair and hopelessness in which he found himself. It is precisely the preservation of complete balance that is necessary, no matter how hopeless the situation may seem and no matter how strong the snares of Maya may be. After all, this is all just Maya, trying to replace reality with evidence. We will fight against her, obviously ardent, remembering that maintaining balance is above all and necessary for victory.

When the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit, one must be able to see in order to pull the other out of the pit and protect it from falling into a new one. Sightedness is manifested in the knowledge that victory is in the spirit, that in the spirit of the victorious one asserts in himself a strength sufficient to overcome external counteractions. There are no circumstances that could not be overcome by psychic energy directed by a firm, unbreakable, fiery will. Raising ourselves in spirit above the vicious circle of external conditions, we defeat them and raise with us both close and distant friends, and everyone who resonates in consciousness on this wave. The circles of victory in the spirit diverge very widely. Victory is a matter of honor and an obligation of the warrior of the spirit.

You can suffer and suffer for others as much as you like, but you cannot lose heart. The more the spirit succumbs to the energies of external influences fanned by the dark ones, the more they intensify, as if inspiring the dark malefactors and giving them impulses for new inventions and attacks. And we need to express our thoughts aloud less, because there are many eavesdroppers. It is more difficult for them to penetrate thoughts, but they catch every carelessly spoken word and immediately begin to act according to the information received, that is, to harm. So they would have remained inert, but complaints, dissatisfaction and disappointment with their machinations, expressed aloud, give them food for new evil tricks. You yourself give them a weapon with which they beat you. And the more you reveal your grief and suffering, the more blows you incur on yourself. Space both sees and hears. See and hear and dark creatures crowding around. Why give them fuel for the fire, on which they so diligently torture frivolous complainers and discontented. Self-defense against them is in the spirit. Silence and restraint can be a powerful defense.

Compassion and help do not mean at all that it is necessary to plunge into the clouded state of the spirit of the one who is being helped or supported, along with this, the already aggravated state of consciousness of the suffering person will intensify. First of all, it is necessary to maintain your own balance and not allow your own aura to be clouded, no matter how sorry for the other, and perhaps very loved one. Otherwise, both will end up in a hole. The teaching is quite clear about this. He warned that his own light would not dissolve "in the twilight of the regretted." It is very important not to succumb in this case to someone else's mood. In general, it is necessary to protect the light tonality from third-party influences very carefully and firmly. Nothing but harm and darkening of space is obtained by infecting one's own aura with the dull moods of other people, even if this happens due to pity. True compassion is very far from such pity. It is active and luminous. How else can you help another, if not with your own light, not quenched by someone else's cowardice, weakness or suffering. You need to understand the fallacy of your behavior, if such phenomena were allowed before. After all, even one must pity a person skillfully, supporting him with vigorous, joyful and luminous radiations of his aura.

A very sad sight is the process of dissolution and absorption by the twilight of the consciousness of the pitying luminiferous radiations of the one who tries to help him. It is better not to help than to increase the darkness and replace the Light in oneself with doubled darkness. Compassion is a difficult quality and requires a great ability to control one's own radiations and protective net. It is very difficult to empathize with people and be compassionate while maintaining your own balance. But if it is lost, then the help will not be real, but half, in the amount of loss of balance. Having calmly accepted someone else's suffering or burden, you can neutralize it on the fires of your heart, and then help will be real and strong. As in the picture of the Guru: defending, Rishi took the blow and the arrows on himself, in his hand, but he also protected the persecuted victim. This is true help - to take the blow intended for the one who is being protected. This is true compassion.

The song of the last meeting, -
they said
and set off
to other regions,
if in the heart
kept the lights
then a new meeting
given.

Meetings - in Thin
the world is given to us,
they are in dreams
or in another life
and in the earthly
you can not miss,
although it will be
century is different.

And we will feel - dear,
not really,
according to consonances
converging thinly, -
will another look,
and the era
but the lights will quench
us sadness.

New songs -
in the new time
and we are wiser
we will already
and from the past
restore in an instant
and how it sang
where we fought...

Ectoplasm is a substance freely and easily emitted by a medium, a substance used by the entities of the Subtle World to reveal themselves in the dense world. All humans have ectoplasm. In case of despondency, irritation and other feelings, it stands out intensely, which is what subtle beings use to feed and become more active with its help, but in the earthly world. In a state of despair, she stands out especially strongly, and dark creatures literally stick to the aura of their victim. It is they who, for this purpose, push the victim to drunkenness and other vices. At the same time, the increased excretion of impure and infected ectoplasm also attracts the corresponding entities. Purity is the best shield against such intrusions, but mediumship still opens the door to unwanted visitors.

After a flash of strong irritation, a person feels a breakdown. This happens because he made it possible for the dark creatures to feed on his internal radiations, highlighting the ectoplasm. The insecurity of the aura is terrible. The protective net protects, in mediums it is almost absent. Ectoplasm, being the substance of the Subtle World, is closely connected in its manifestations with the protective net and aura. Internal radiations are protected by a barrier net. Flashes of some feelings make holes in it, as it were, opening a person to all sorts of influences. So, for example, fear makes a person completely defenseless against exactly what he is afraid of. Therefore, fearlessness is the best defense against everything frightening and frightening.

With wrong sympathy for people, when both the sympathizer and the one who is sympathized both fall into the pit of hopelessness, infection of ectoplasm occurs due to the opening of internal radiations due to the weakening of the protective network. Right sympathy helps and uplifts another person, without sinking into his darkened state and without being infected by it. One must even sympathize skillfully, otherwise there is no help, but the multiplication of darkness. There is no need to be infected with the darkened mood of the interlocutor because of a false feeling - sympathy or wrong sympathy, dragging both into the pit. With sympathy, it is necessary to show a certain degree of restraint and severity, otherwise it is impossible to help and pull a person out of the pit of darkness.

Every defilement is used by the dark ones to plant their harm. Ectoplasm must be kept clean so as not to attract dark entities. In general, any immoderate and overly enthusiastic emotions are unacceptable. Disequilibria of this kind cause increased secretions of ectoplasm. Lymphatics are especially prone to this. Whether it is possible to give one's subtle substance of ectoplasm for temporary use is unknown to anyone and thus expose it to the danger of infection with anything. Self-defense from darkness is needed not only for oneself, but also for the benefit of others and space.

Often some life circumstances cause in us feelings and experiences that do not correspond to the level reached. And then they need to get rid of. External conditions, as it were, themselves develop in such a way as to contribute to the elimination of certain character traits. In such cases, they are usually repeated until the right attitude and until the undesirable property is outlived and immunity of the spirit is created in relation to these phenomena. I want to get rid of the undesirable circumstances of life as soon as possible. But there is only one way to get rid of them - it is to overcome their power over consciousness, their power to influence it and cause unwanted reactions. The reason itself is unimportant. But if it upsets the balance, it means that it, and not our will, controls us. No considerations can serve as an excuse if not ourselves, but something extraneous and external influences and influences us contrary to our desire and our will.

You can’t get away from life’s trials, sorrows and experiences, but you can’t give them power over yourself, because they won’t let you go until we rise up on them in spirit and become stronger than them, that is, we don’t allow them to upset the balance. If this is due to sympathy and compassion for other people, then this is not an excuse, because, losing balance, we are not able to give them such help you need. No one, anywhere, can stand against the balance, and it must be maintained before trying to deal with opposing circumstances. That is, you need to maintain balance, no matter what. In this way, the fiery power is pumped up, which is so necessary for resisting the waves of opposing manifestations. Therefore, I indicate: keep balance above all.

Strange as it may sound, but someone else's grief, someone else's suffering, someone else's weaknesses and shortcomings are overcome in oneself by that person who wants to help people. And you also have to take on someone else's pain if you want to help a suffering being. Without this condition, both fall into a pit, and the one who helps becomes infected with the defilement of the one to whom he is helping. So even sympathy and compassion must be skillfully. It is impossible to allow to be infected by the state of the suffering consciousness. To help does not mean sinking to him, but it means to raise him to yourself, to take on his burden, in order to neutralize it with your strength. It is unacceptable to succumb to the oppressed mood of the interlocutor. Help and compassion consist in replacing the twilight of a darkened spirit with Light. And for this, the Light must be ignited and in no case should it be allowed to be extinguished. You can descend to a suffering person, but only in order to raise him along with you. It has already been said that with inept sympathy and pity, the pitiful and the pitying one both fall into the pit of hopelessness. So it is necessary to regret skillfully.

Compassion does not consist at all in becoming infected and overshadowed by the experiences of a suffering person, but in maintaining one’s balance and a bright and cheerful state of mind, raising the sufferer to oneself and thus brightening him, alleviating his condition and giving an impulse to raise consciousness from the hole it fell into. It is necessary to learn a bright compassion that does not allow you to go down during help. We recognize compassion and sympathy only effective when it is expressed in active help to a person or animals. Verbal sympathies, limited only to words, often border on hypocrisy or indifference. They can be justified only when they come from the heart, that is, when help is provided by the release of heart energy. Such assistance will also be effective. Sometimes it's much easier to help external actions rather than expend psychic energy.

Chaos and imbalance are very close phenomena. The dark ones cause chaos in order to bring disbalance into the minds of people. The fight against imbalance becomes a fight against darkness. Equilibrium is a force capable of resisting the forces of decomposition, destruction and balance. No reason can justify the assumption of imbalance. Only one's own calmness and balance can destroy these causes. But it is almost impossible to fight them if imbalance is allowed, if calmness cannot be maintained. It must be understood that balance and calmness are the best defense against the forces of darkness. And one must learn in practice that pity and sympathy are unacceptable if they upset the balance and plunge the consciousness into a pit of hopeless obscuration and give a person into the power of dark influences. It is better, without experiencing such pity and sympathy, to lightly and firmly help someone who needs help, than to climb into a pit of despair along with the one to whom it should be rendered. It is necessary to do so in order not to multiply the darkness. When darkness is forced in, a state of balance becomes a necessity. We have an irresistible calm and an undisturbed balance, for their violation would cause a catastrophe.

How often is imbalance in human body causes fatal heart disease. How many people die from heart disease. Allowing darkness into consciousness, and behind it the power of chaos and decay, people lose their balance, which primarily affects the health of the body. The harmonic interaction of the body organs and their functions is disturbed. Mental and physical imbalance are closely related. One begets the other. It is necessary to defend against the invasion of chaos by all means, by all means. Not for the sake of oneself and one's well-being, but for the sake of people and space, it is necessary to wage this struggle.

Can you imagine what the power of balance is if the Masters sent their disciples to areas threatened by earthquakes or other natural disasters. The energies of the human microcosm and the elements are also closely related. Mastering the elements is a cosmic task for humanity. The elements are vehemently expressed in the human body. And before moving on to mastering the elements on a planetary scale, they must be mastered in their own microcosm. The mastery of Agni Yoga leads to the mastery of the element of fire within oneself. He who has mastered the element of fire already easily masters all the others, for the element of fire is higher than others. Without mastering it, it is impossible to reach those peaks that are destined for a person. Agni Yoga is the key and the Call of the New Epoch, the Epoch of Maitreya, the Epoch of Fire, the Epoch of the transformation of the planet and humanity dwelling on it.

Compassion and sympathy, as the structure of the words themselves shows, means suffering and experiences along with the person to whom compassion is addressed. Compassion in words and sympathy in the language are tantamount to hypocrisy and lies, because they do not express what is embedded in these concepts. Actual compassion, in providing help, takes upon itself, to one degree or another, the suffering of a being in need of this help. This is true compassion. By providing such real help, a person takes on the burdens of his neighbor and, taking them, alleviates the suffering of others.

Providing such assistance, one must be ready to give up something, as if taking on a part of someone else's karma, as if paying the bill with something of one's own for a good deed. It is impossible to provide real help without giving up something. That is why such help is called sacrificial. If a person does not give anything and does not sacrifice something from himself, then such help is equal to zero. Even with simple sympathy, one must give away part of the warmth or energy of the heart in order for verbal sympathy to become real. Therefore, when rendering help, even mentally, one must have this condition and be ready to really give up something and take something upon oneself. It is said: “Help always and wherever a thought can fly”, but at the same time, the Teacher Himself does not help everyone and not always. Be able to understand these opposites and accept them into consciousness without contradiction.

All overcomings are only in the spirit,
victory where - in the struggle with oneself,
and will - in the aspiration to the Light,
and radiate your light.

Victories in the external - in a short time,
struggle - like with a windmill, -
the wind will blow, all the victories -
carried away by the wind in the day of the past.

Christ did not call for the help of the Force,
in order to win in the external,
and His Spirit went out with victory,
to smash the Light of all enemies!

Actual assistance is always done at one's own expense and usually involves an expense. psychic energy. Such help requires one degree or another of self-sacrifice, since the pain or burden of the one who is being helped is taken upon oneself and transmuted on the fires of one's heart. If nothing is taken on, then the help is invalid. And you have to be able to give your strength. There are few who want to take on someone else's pain, when their burdens are in abundance. But every true helper must give up something of his own. If he is ready for this, the help will be effective.

Many are ready to help in words. No such help. People love to take without giving anything in return. Compassion requires sacrifice on the part of the compassionate. Keep this in mind when giving or receiving help. Whether it is big or small depends on the circumstances, but self-sacrifice is an inevitable part of real effective help. To transmute something from outside on the fires of your heart, you must have these fires. And when they are lit, the burning heart, even invisible to itself, already carries out selfless service to the world, extinguishing the darkness surrounding it. This service is, first of all, celebrated by the dark ones, who choose such a heart as a target for their attacks and all sorts of tricks. And if they are not marked dark, then the light is weak. On this basis, judge.

Earthly dream in the dense world,
the world of illusions is given in it,
where are sunrises, sunsets,
and in it - joy, sadness ...

Everyone has a dream - according to consciousness,
and fetters are given,
beyond the earthly
it is not easy to get through.

The veil of all Maya, -
the spirit will cast it away -
when the essence recognizes,
taking a canvas.

Canvas of three distances,
where - the past, now,
and from the future song, -
in the Subtle - everything is now, at once.

Everything will fall in the dense,
even the mountains - in the sand, -
only the spirit - in Far away,
where flight is indefinite.

Understand earthly life
will - to the Far Worlds,
Infinity in your eyes
in the earthly - were visiting.

There is a thin line between compassion and pity. Compassion helps and uplifts, without plunging into the twilight state of the one who is being helped. But pity plunges headlong into the twilight of the pitiful and becomes infected with its state, losing the luminosity of its aura. This is beautifully illustrated by the example "when the blind lead the blind and both fall into the pit." To find yourself in the dark pit of the mental state of the regretted is a very deplorable “achievement”. It is difficult to see the line separating compassion from pity, but the results from the application of one or the other are very different. Compassion is a worthy feeling, but pity is dangerous because it is easy to become infected with the feelings of the pityed one and, together with him, find yourself in a pit of darkness and despair. Compassion and pity are different.

Compassion is effective. Pity plunges into the experiences of the pityed and gets bogged down in them, multiplying their strength, but not dissipating them. In fact, no help is provided to the sorry. The compassion of a burning heart eases the suffering of those who need help with its luminous radiations. It does not take into account the twilight state of the sufferer, but floods him with its light. The compassionate affirms his own in another consciousness, but by no means what the consciousness of the sufferer is filled with. The line between compassion and pity is very thin, and if you do not learn to distinguish between it, damage is inevitable for both the pitiful and the pitying. And if the compassionate person becomes clouded and loses his balance, then what is the use of such compassion? The line between compassion and pity cannot be crossed. But when all that is possible has been done, the decision is placed in the Hands of the Teacher.

Compassion teaches a lot. Through compassion, the world of a suffering being is comprehended, and the fiery power grows when compassion becomes effective and is expressed in rendering assistance. When the desire to help is born, opportunities always come. Compassion is difficult because, while manifesting it, one cannot plunge into the twilight state of the person towards whom compassion is manifested. One can sympathize, and regret, and vehemently help, but not be overshadowed by the suffering of the one we want to help. If you sound in unison with him, it will be impossible to help. When analyzing certain feelings and experiences, it is impossible not to point out their complete uselessness and uselessness, as well as harm, because they often greatly upset the balance and cloud the consciousness.

Sympathy and compassion are good, but on condition that they do not plunge the compassionate into the circle of hopelessness of the one to whom sympathy is expressed. And here, too, severe control and the ability to distinguish between what is acceptable and what is unacceptable are required. How difficult it is to find the boundary between pity and compassion, although the effect of both on consciousness is quite clear. Pity becomes infected with the mental state of the one whom it pities, sinks into his hopelessness, and both find themselves in a hole. Compassion, on the contrary, effectively helps, elevating to itself a person in need of help, and pulling him out of a state of clouding and depression. With personal interest, it is not easy to maintain balance and not succumb to the experiences of a suffering being and thereby not be powerless to help. Compassion takes on someone else's pain or heaviness, overcoming them in itself and freeing another being from them, while pity sinks into them, making it easier for no one.

With all the depth of sympathy for someone else's suffering, one should not allow oneself to lose balance, because the loss of it makes a person helpless, that is, unable to provide real help. Therefore, sympathy is allowed only on condition that the sufferer is not infected by the clouded state. A calm, bright, clear aura provides real help if the luminosity is not disturbed by the emotional imbalance of the sufferer. What is the use of it if, instead of helping a person, you begin to intensely experience with him what he is experiencing, and immerse yourself in his state. He does not need your experiences, but help. Therefore, one must learn to distinguish compassion from sympathy, perhaps even sincere and strong. Compassion provides effective help and support, sympathy usually only worries, not being able to help.

It is necessary in practice, in practical application, to understand compassion and help people without being infected by their experiences and overshadowed by their moods. And you can sympathize, and even take someone else's pain on yourself, but on condition that you do not plunge headlong into the darkness of someone else's hopelessness and grief, losing the light of your own heart. This is not easy, because human experiences are very contagious and it is very difficult to protect oneself from the darkened radiations of another's aura. But how can one render effective help if, having lost the luminosity of one's own aura, one resounds in unison with the darkened radiations of someone else's? True compassion, with full sympathy and understanding of someone else's grief and acceptance of the hardships of one's neighbor, excludes infection of one's own aura by the harmful emanations of a person clouded by suffering. The light of one's own heart should be enough for two, and not only for two, but even for many. With the help of others, one must carefully monitor the state of one's consciousness, not allowing the loss of its luminosity. This condition is very difficult.

Standing at the wall crying
this is a temporary cut
the other pole - for joy,
and in due time will be here.

The stronger we go.
entering one pole,
the stronger the rollback to us -
wave after wave.

Find the middle point
from it - to manage,
balance in life
now, to keep tomorrow.

If you are unable to help someone or change undesirable conditions of life, then most the best way out from the situation that has arisen, he will remain calm and not allow unnecessary emotions and experiences to burden the mind. Why worry if you can't help. This will not be insensitivity, but the preservation of strength. It is difficult not to worry about loved ones if they are suffering, but even here it is necessary to maintain balance. Compassion does not mean loss of balance. Compassion helps. But how, compassionately, to help if the balance is lost, that is, the power that helps!

Is it possible to sympathize with people without losing one's balance and thereby losing the opportunity to effectively help? It can and should. It is at the moment of asking for help from the side of the one who needs it, first of all, it is necessary to maintain one's own balance, because, having lost it and become darkened, that is, having allowed the Light to be extinguished in oneself, how can one transfer it to another. Therefore, one should not allow someone else's disequilibrium or clouding to act on the consciousness and make it sound in unison with the consciousness clouded by its own experiences. You can sympathize and sympathize without losing yourself in other people's experiences. If the blind, that is, the darkened in spirit, lead the blind, both will fall into the pit. It is impossible to sympathize, getting involved and plunging into the funnels of astral whirlwinds of another consciousness, because under this condition it is impossible to provide help. Someone else's imbalance is overcome and overcome in oneself, and then the help will be obvious, luminous and effective.

The light is shining
pouring at dusk,
Lights to look for us -
in the middle of every day,
greatness of spirit
and step to verify, -
no indifference,
Light shine!

The waves will roll
and leave again
growth, decline,
new route,
in time - heights,
steps in space...
light flicker
find in the middle of everyday life.

Empathy and understanding of someone else's grief can differ in essence. Sometimes people, sympathizing, come from themselves, thinking about themselves and imagining themselves in a similar situation and pitying themselves, then the thought flows about themselves. And sometimes a sympathizer, forgetting about himself, enters into the position of a sufferer and seeks to provide real help. Those who care for themselves also help, but their help is not from the heart. Severity is a quality of the spirit, inalienable from an Arhat. It is the opposite of pity and tearful sentimentality. It does not mean cruelty, for it is inseparable from compassion. Compassion, on the other hand, always seeks to help. In this his distinguishing feature from sentimentality, which is often combined with inhuman cruelty. People in the theater shedding tears over sensitive scenes are immediately ready to cut each other's throats at the cry of "fire."

There is one quality - compassion. We will not regret anything to buy it. It can be called the forge of power, for it conquered the world. They will ascend. Maitreya - love, compassion. The sons of Light will be called the sons of compassion and will appear closest to the Throne of Light. This is the most wonderful facet of the diamond of consciousness. It will reflect the best gifts of Light. Lord, with compassion we bring you the best gifts of the spirit – this is what the disciple who walks the Path says. Like the Ray of the Sun, compassion illuminates the herd lost in the darkness and lost in the labyrinths of life to indicate the path and source of Light. The herd is humanity that has lost its way.

Blind, deaf and poor in spirit, who have lost their way, who have suffered, tired, who have forgotten about the value of the spirit - their path is hopeless and bitter. With the step of the doomed, they go to the abyss, and the abyss awaits them, opening its greedy mouth. But let us not let the abyss triumph. The lost herd is not for her, for in it are the lost sons of Light, who have forgotten about their birthright. I speak about salvation, for the last time has come. I point to it and appeal to the silent heart of humanity. Time goes by, and new rays will illuminate the Earth. Where will the deaf and blind go? It is necessary to show the Way, in the name of compassion it is necessary. And open your eyes, and wash, and console, and feed. They will come, who have lost, they will come, they will come in crowds and ask for the bread of Life - not death, which they ate, but Life. Give, feed and comfort. In the name of compassion. And take on their burden. This is the way of the Bodhisattva. For it is said: "Load Me when I go to a beautiful garden."

From now on, compassion will be your cry and call to Victory. Compassion, compassion, compassion, then action-feat, then receiving. But did I think about getting the Crucified Savior. He only gave. And receiving is only a companion of bestowal. Those who give more will receive more. But we are talking about compassion. Compassion excludes any thought about oneself, everything personal dies for it, and selfhood is crucified on the cross of flesh, just as the Savior of the world was crucified on the cross of human ignorance. I already spoke about love - a mighty, irresistible, all-conquering force. Love is the winner, the crown of life, the basis, the magnet, the fire and the engine of life. Or maybe the very heart of fire or the fire of the heart. Is it not by him that the worlds are moved and all that exists is permeated? But We Will Bring Our Love to Earth and Earth We Will Give Our Gift. Are waiting. Millions are waiting. Should be enough for everyone. We are not talking about individuals, but about peoples. The sun does not shine for the chosen ones, but for everyone. One must think about everyone, about everyone, for they must become like the sun and become like the sun. "Be like the light of the sun and the song of a bird." In joy about the future, let us bring love and compassion into the world. I, the Lord, say this. And "my chosen ones will bear my simple word about what belongs to a great nation." The Chosen Ones, and you are among them. Armed with love and taking the Cup of compassion, you will go into life in My Name, for Mine is.

These concepts are often used as synonyms, but I would like to analyze them in more detail, what are the differences and what consequences does the presence of these emotions in a person lead to.

To begin with, as always, let's look at them in dictionaries:

Sympathy A condition in which the feelings and emotions of one person evoke similar feelings in another person. This gives the impression of a general feeling. (Wikipedia)
A pity- this ancient (general Slavic) word was included in the dictionaries of many Slavic languages. It is formed from the adjective "sorry". The obsolete pity meant "sad, mournful, compassionate." (O. E. Olshansky "In the world of words")
Compassion- a deep awareness of the suffering of another person, doubled by the desire to help get rid of them (Webster's Dictionary) Take a closer look, each of these familiar words has its own meaning. What could be their evolutionary benefit? I'll offer my options: Sympathy: 1) develops empathy in a person. Empathy is a state of openness energy channels. A person in this state is connected by energy flows with another person. This gives and develops the opportunity on your own body to feel that pain, experience, joy or any other state of any person. To share your joy with someone or pour out your sadness on another. Why is it important for us to feel someone's pain? Well, for example, in order to learn how to use someone else's experience, and not just stuff all the bumps on your own little head. Or even in order to learn about the consequences of their own actions. He hurt someone, and then bam - he joined him and felt for himself how it hurts from his own words, thoughts and actions. 2) And another very important task of sympathy, I will dwell on it in more detail. If you have a hidden, squeezed and forced out energy into the subconscious area (aggression, pain, resentment, some other feeling), and you yourself do not feel it in yourself (the subconscious area often works this way, you stop feeling the crushed energies), then joining another person who has the same energy strengthens your own and it becomes noticeable, tangible. This, very useful, task of sympathy, makes it possible to open the blocks of the subconscious, clear energy blockages, in my opinion, this is the great evolutionary role of sympathy. A pity: 1) Reflects emotional condition man, his sadness, sadness. What is the meaning of this reflection? To show others, and first of all, to oneself, that there has been a decrease in the emotional tone of a person, that he has a drop in energy. Arousing sympathy for himself, a person begins to give SOS signals, tries to find support and understanding from society, tries to somehow alleviate his own condition. If you join someone you want to feel sorry for, that is, start actively sympathizing with him, then you can fall with him into a low-tone emotional state and from there, together with him, cry for help. By this you will not help him or yourself, you will simply prove to both of you that you do not have the strength and ability to solve his problems, since there are too many of your own experiences. If you join for a short time, to diagnose a condition, and know the RULES AND WAYS TO DISCONNECT from an energetically different person, then it becomes possible to make a more subtle diagnosis, reveal the causes of pity in a person, this helps to find a more correct solution to get out of the situation and regulate the flow of energies in a person. This knowledge is possessed by specialists who have sufficiently cleared their own emotional blockages, adjusted their energy channels and are ready to help others do it. Believe me, there are very few of them, otherwise the healers would not get sick so often themselves. How is the connection and transfer of information and energies to each other. Yes, very simple. Any emotion has its own vibrations, it is not for nothing that they say "we are on the same wavelength." If you and another person have similar vibrations, then you connect with them. This is both Cosmic magnetism and the attraction of like to like. If there are a lot of such connections, then in the end you find yourself in a serious network, a web, from which it is very difficult to get out on your own. This quagmire so imperceptibly drags many that attention is already paid to it almost at the last stage of the disease, when the body is already SCREAMING and the signals of PITY are beating all the drums. Understand that in this state, a person already has so much strength and vitality distributed among other people that a huge aspiration of the person himself is required to get out of this situation. What to do to prevent this from happening? Change your worldview, thank Pity as an important and once necessary mechanism, and develop JOY in yourself. For productive development you need to learn how to disconnect your channels from the channels of other people, for a while to forbid them to be on the same wavelength with you, to release their vitality and give yourself the opportunity to use them. After clearing your own emotions, you can open up again and be in touch, clean - dirty will not stick. If communication again plunges you into the abyss of pity and this causes a drop in energy, then you have not finalized the topic. We turn off again, study the reasons for our own sadness and sadness, forgive ourselves and accept the world in its manifestations, learn joy:) "There is no way to get rid of self-pity, to get rid of it with benefit. It takes certain place and has a certain character in life ordinary person- a certain facade, which can be seen from afar. So every time an opportunity is given, self-pity becomes active. That is her story. If a person changes the facade of self-pity, then he removes its prominence. Facades are modified by changing the use of the elements of the façade itself. Self-pity is good for the user because he feels important and thinks he deserves it. better conditions, better handling. It also matters because a person does not want to take responsibility for actions that make him feel sorry for himself. "(Carlos Castaneda" The Wheel of Time ")
Compassion: 1) Deep awareness of the feelings of another person is the result of the work of his logical and intuitive mind, awareness helps to understand the behavior, actions and incentives of people with the mind, to accept their choice. The ability to understand, accept and forgive gives freedom to the deepest feeling - the feeling of LOVE. Unifying love, love for the world as for oneself, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. 2) Being aware of feelings, we begin to understand their root cause of appearance, we can prompt it to a person, help regulate and eventually change our feelings and emotions. Through this comes evolution, through this comes the development of our understanding of everything that is in ourselves. I hope that this article will help you, just like me, to understand the usefulness of our various manifestations, and to understand what is already outdated for you, what you can let go and what you want to develop further :)

Empathy, Compassion and Empathy are very important positive human qualities, I would say that this is the ability of spiritually mature . The souls of a person who has experience and has gone through a lot and experienced a lot in life. Some consider compassion and empathy as weakness or unnecessary emotions, nun, etc., but this is not the right attitude. The one whose heart is not capable of compassion and sympathy deserves only this very compassion and sympathy, because cruelty lives in his heart and does not live (Love).

In addition, it is very important not to confuse compassion with pity. Compassion this is a bright feeling that strengthens the one to whom it is directed. BUT a pity- the feeling is dark and destructive, and it always makes the one who is pitied even weaker and more insignificant. Compassion is a sign of generosity, and pity is an indicator of cowardice! Read more about Pity.

What is Compassion and Empathy?

Compassion and Sympathy- this is the ability of the soul to empathize, that is, to understand the feelings of another person, to understand what is happening in his soul (to understand and empathize with his victories and joys, suffering and pain).

They say that if you are capable of compassion, then you have a heart, and in your heart there is love. And it is true. A person can experience compassion only on the basis of the experience of his soul, that is, his soul remembers (even if the person himself does not remember this) when she herself was in a similar situation (in a past life or in this one) and what she then experienced (good or bad).

On Compassion, Sympathy and Empathy:

Only a spiritually rich woman with rich life experience is capable of compassion and sympathy, who passed her trials with dignity, did not become angry, did not harden, did not accumulate resentment and anger at her fate and God, but kept love, humanity, faith, bright things in her heart. feelings. Such a person is able to console and encourage another who has fallen into difficult situation and help him, and not drown him in suffering with your pity.

Compassion- this is a bright feeling, when a stream of light energy (positive experience, feelings) comes out of a person’s spiritual heart and enters the heart of another person, brightening, healing and helping him survive his grief. Compassion– it doesn’t mean to suffer together with a person, it doesn’t mean to pull on yourself the problems and negativity of another, it doesn’t mean to kill yourself with him, tearing him and your heart apart, no! It means to heal, including with the truth, being able to speak it with compassion and love, even if it is very bitter.

Compassion and sympathy involves the subsequent acceptance of the problem (even the most painful), the whole truth about oneself (recognition of one's sin, one's wrong) and an active solution to this problem - "Any trouble - must be eliminated!".

True sympathy, as a rule, does not end with one empathy, but involves some kind of active action to help someone who really needs this help. Pity, in itself, is fruitless, and does not imply any active and useful actions.

About Pity:

A pity is a dark feeling, the essence of which is: “Let’s suffer and destroy ourselves and each other together…”, “Why will you suffer alone, come on together - I will pity you, you will pity me, we suffer to the fullest, we corrode our soul, on accusations of fate, we will complain to each other what kind of world not fair, what a hard life ... so you look and you don’t have to do anything ... ”. Pity - does not involve active actions to eliminate the problem.

Pity destroys a person's faith, bright feelings in the heart, kills Love, although many people mistakenly believe that pity is one of the qualities of love. This is not true! Pity is, in its purest form, indulgence (justification) for that evil in a person (his negativity, vices and weaknesses), which kills this very love! And as long as a person pities and justifies his evil, it will always live in him and destroy the soul, until it grows to limitless proportions and destroys a person. There is one of two things - either you are it, or it is you, the third is not given!

Every normal and worthy person needs to learn distinguish clearly between empathy and pity. To learn to feel and understand the experiences of others in such a way as not to feed everything dark, unworthy, vicious and weak in them, but, on the contrary, encourage them to free themselves from everything nasty and destroying their souls. So that instead of a disgusting feeling of self-pity, helplessness and own insignificance, a person begins to feel strength, a positive charge and determination to cope with all problems, to pass any trials of fate with dignity and honor! And so that he feels that he is understood, loved, believed in and will always help.

The emotional system of each of us gives birth to the most different variants its manifestation. One of these manifestations is compassion. It is about why compassion and sympathy are needed in everyday life that we will talk about today.

Why compassion is needed for others

The very concept of compassion is described in many sources, but, nevertheless, we all understand and manifest it differently. The most common, judging by numerous surveys, is the idea of ​​compassion as feelings shown to another living being, in the form of pity, condolences, joint suffering and other similar emotions.

You can talk a lot about what compassion includes, but we’d better focus on the question of why compassion is needed and highlight a number of the following benefits from such emotions.

The very feeling of compassion is manifested in us not to every living organism, but very selectively. Such selectivity, first of all, is connected with our attitude to a particular person, animal, plant. The very emotional outburst at the moment of compassion is directed to help the subject, who is far from being indifferent to you. From which it follows that with the help of compassion, you can clearly determine how close you are to a person, animal or other subject to which this emotion is directed.

The second benefit of compassion is the development of the instinct of self-preservation. When experiencing similar emotions, the brain finds a specific way out for itself when similar situations arise in your life. Thus, it protects itself in advance.

The third advantage, of course, is our spiritual development when experiencing such emotions. The consequence of such development will be an increase in the level of self-esteem, and an increase in respect from the surrounding society.

All the described advantages are considered in relation to the compassionate person, but what are the advantages of the compassionate person from the manifestation of such emotions in his address?

Here the answer is unequivocal, and it coincides with both specialists and ordinary people - relief of emotional burden. It means that the energy background of the subject is restored to a comfortable state of the suffering, when he is supported in a difficult life situation. Accordingly, the mood rises, life force to deal with emerging difficulties.

In conclusion, it must be said that there are many opinions about the benefits or harms that compassion brings, but the choice to display this kind of emotion is up to you.

Why do people need empathy?

Having once again shared our troubles with friends, having received our share of sympathy from their side, we safely forget about it. And for some reason, few of us think about why we need sympathy and what does it represent?

We will not go into the monotonous details of the origin of the very word "sympathy", but will immediately move on to its understanding by the townsfolk in everyday life.

Of course, everyone has their own associations with this word and their own individual understanding of it, in connection with this, having looked at many different arguments, conclusions and judgments posted by both Internet users and specialists, we will offer our own definition of sympathy. “Sympathy is a mutual, joint emotion arising from the occurrence of any events in the life of one of the persons.”

The very essence of empathy includes both worrying about negative events and the joy of positive news. But in the bustle of days, the understanding of sympathy as empathy with unpleasant life circumstances.

True sympathy requires considerable emotional costs for its implementation and appropriate adjustment to state of mind a certain person. But, despite this, we daily use the sympathy of others and ourselves provide it to loved ones. That is, it is important aspect our lives, but why do we need sympathy?

There are as many answers to this question as you and I, among them there is support at a difficult moment in life, and certain development our personality in society, and even ordinary curiosity about the lives of the people around us. You can go through many more and many more reasons that determine the significance of sympathy, but I would like to focus on recommendations for the rational use of such an emotion as sympathy.

No matter how much you want to sympathize with everyone in the world, still be careful. Your nervous system will not withstand such a large load of negative energy that you systematically receive.

If most often you sympathize with all the hardships that have flown on the shoulders of others, then sympathize with the joys that have been sent down to them. Positive emotions received by you from the wonderful news, at least somehow compensate for the negative ones.

Remember that the form in which you express sympathy can either kindle a person’s desire to fight difficulties, or vice versa, weaken the desire and ability to resist life's incidents. Therefore, it is better to choose encouraging words, such as: “You will succeed”, You are strong, you can do it at all” and the like.

The best empathy is manifested not only in words, but also in concrete actions. So be ready to provide real help to the person you are empathizing with, if you want it to have an effect.

We hope that this article was not only informative for you, but will bring you no small benefit, because now you know why compassion and sympathy are needed.