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Conversation-dispute about disinterestedness and friendship.
Target: develop moral guidelines. Build self-awareness. To form moral and ethical guidelines. Develop the ability to morally evaluate actions.
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Educator. Today we will discuss a topic that concerns everyone. Each of you has the experience of personal companionship, experiences associated with the joys and sorrows of friendship.
However, there are guys who have the wrong idea about who can be called a good friend.
Think about what actions and actions help strengthen friendships?
Educator. Which of the guys in the group acted in a friendly way?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: Mutual assistance in studies, support brings all the guys together.
Educator. But not every child can complete tasks on their own. And some guys don't want to, they're lazy.
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: In case of inability, one should help a friend, teach him.
And if you don’t want to - explain that you need to cultivate willpower - this will come in handy in life.
However, slander is not allowed.
Sneaking interferes with friendship.
Educator. What should you do in case of violation of the established rules of behavior by one of your classmates?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: You need to express your opinion about the wrong act to the one who violated. If the offender does not pay attention, then contact the teacher for help.
Educator. There are guys who are only friends with those from whom you can get something.
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: These guys live by the rule: "You give me - I give you." Such friendship is fragile and such relationships do not paint people.
Educator. What is the value of friendship, its significance in life?
How can friends help each other unselfishly?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: Mutual assistance, mutual understanding, respect for each other.
Selflessness makes friendship strong.
Selflessness implies a willingness to help, even at the cost of sacrifice.
Educator. The willingness to give up something for the sake of a friend must be cultivated in oneself.
After all, fulfilling even the simplest request for the sake of a friend can be very difficult. Everyone knows this from their own experience.
(Discussion of children.)
Do not argue over trifles.
Do not stop being conceited if something is better.
Do not envy, but rejoice in the success of others.
In friendship, it is necessary to be able to accept help and provide it.
Sensitivity, attention to a friend are manifested not only in big things, but also in small things.
Educator. Some guys in communication, in the game begin to "command", seek to subordinate others to their will. They demand unquestioning obedience to them, to do as they see fit. Is it correct?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: These guys strive to win authority at any cost. In the actions of these guys, arrogance and selfishness are manifested, which interfere with strong, trusting, friendly relations.
Educator. We need to learn to empathize with friends in their troubles and be able to share their joy with them. The inability to rejoice in the joy of another leads to an evil feeling of envy. And jealousy damages relationships.
Those who are envious may have a desire for him to have trouble.
For example, during a good answer by one of the students, not all children rejoice at the success of a friend, the high appreciation that he rightfully deserves. In the eyes of some guys, unkind lights are noticeable. Envy can sometimes push to the wrong, dishonorable act.
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: Friendship can be constant and joyful for children only when they are attentive to each other, share joys and sorrows.
Educator. Let's adopt the Laws of Friendship.
(Children's answers.)
1. Do not leave a friend in trouble. To be faithful to friendship means to share with a friend not only joys, but also sorrows. A friend may have mistakes, difficulties, trials. If you see that a friend is in trouble, go to his aid. Turning away from a friend in a difficult moment for him means morally preparing yourself for betrayal.
2. You care about who your friend is. Friendship is the moral enrichment of a person. Finding a reliable friend, you multiply your strength, become morally purer, richer, more beautiful.
3. Friendship is, first of all, faith in a person, exactingness towards him. The deeper your faith in a friend, the higher the exactingness should be, the more you owe, owe.
4. Friendship and selfishness are irreconcilable, incompatible. Friendship teaches a person to give spiritual strength and wealth, care.
5. Friendship is tested in trouble and danger.
Know how to live in such a way that you and your friend are united by the unity of spirit, ideals. Genuine friendship protects from selfishness, teaches to despise greed.
To be demanding in friendship means to have the courage to break it if a friend betrays what the friendship is built for. Unscrupulousness devastates friendship.
Educator. Today we are thinking about the problems of friendship and selflessness. Look within yourself and answer the question - am I a true friend? If the answer is no, think about what needs to be done to change. And then believe - your life will definitely become better! Thank you for your attention and good work.
( Developed by: Martynova Irina Lvovna ,
primary school teacher,
GBOU Bilingual gymnasium №2)
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Classroom hour.
Topic: About selflessness in friendship.
Planned personal results:
Develop moral guidelines.
Build self-awareness.
To form moral and ethical guidelines.
Develop the ability to morally evaluate actions.
Questions to discuss with children:
Mutual assistance in learning.
Selfless concern for classmates. (Mutual understanding of each other, moods, experiences.)
Sympathy for a friend in trouble and grief, the ability to live his joys.
Willingness to help a friend.
The inadmissibility of negative manifestations - envy, callousness, heartlessness, heartlessness, self-interest and selfishness.
During the classes
30 people sit in 5 groups of 6 people.
Distribution of questions.
One representative of the group takes one petal of a semi-flower, on which there are questions for discussion.
I . Teacher. Today we will discuss a topic that concerns everyone. Each of you has the experience of personal companionship, experiences associated with the joys and sorrows of friendship.
However, there are guys who have the wrong idea about who can be called a good friend.
Think about what actions and actions help strengthen friendships?
Teacher. Which of the guys in the class acted in a friendly way?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: Mutual assistance in studies, support brings all the guys together.
Teacher. But not every child can complete tasks on their own. And some guys don't want to, they're lazy.
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: In case of inability, one should help a friend, teach him.
And if you don’t want to - explain that you need to cultivate willpower - this will come in handy in life.
However, slander is not allowed.
Sneaking interferes with friendship.
Teacher. What should a student do in case of violation of the established rules of behavior by one of his classmates?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: You need to express your opinion about the wrong act to the one who violated. If the offender does not pay attention, then contact the teacher for help.
II . Teacher. There are guys who are only friends with those from whom you can get something.
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: These guys live by the rule: "You give me - I give you." Such friendship is fragile and such relationships do not paint people.
Teacher. What is the value of friendship, its significance in life?
How can friends help each other unselfishly?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: Mutual assistance, mutual understanding, respect for each other.
Selflessness makes friendship strong.
Selflessness implies a willingness to help, even at the cost of sacrifice.
Teacher. The willingness to give up something for the sake of a friend must be cultivated in oneself.
After all, fulfilling even the simplest request for the sake of a friend can be very difficult. Everyone knows this from their own experience.
(Discussion of children.)
Do not argue over trifles.
Do not stop being conceited if something is better.
Do not envy, but rejoice in the success of others.
In friendship, it is necessary to be able to accept help and provide it.
Sensitivity, attention to a friend are manifested not only in big things, but also in small things.
Teacher. Some guys in communication, in the game begin to "command", seek to subordinate others to their will. They demand unquestioning obedience to them, to do as they see fit. Is it correct?
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: These guys strive to win authority at any cost. In the actions of these guys, arrogance and selfishness are manifested, which interfere with strong, trusting, friendly relations.
III . Teacher. We need to learn to empathize with friends in their troubles and be able to share their joy with them. The inability to rejoice in the joy of another leads to an evil feeling of envy. And jealousy damages relationships.
Those who are envious may have a desire for him to have trouble.
For example, during a good answer by one of the students, not all children rejoice at the success of a friend, the high appreciation that he rightfully deserves. In the eyes of some guys, unkind lights are noticeable. Envy can sometimes push to the wrong, dishonorable act.
(Discussion of children.)
Conclusion: Friendship can be constant and joyful for children only when they are attentive to each other, share joys and sorrows.
Teacher. Let's adopt the Laws of Friendship.
(Work in groups.)
1gr. Don't leave a friend in trouble. To be faithful to friendship means to share with a friend not only joys, but also sorrows. A friend may have mistakes, difficulties, trials. If you see that a friend is in trouble, go to his aid. Turning away from a friend in a difficult moment for him means morally preparing yourself for betrayal.
2gr. You don't care what kind of friend you are. Friendship is the moral enrichment of a person. Finding a reliable friend, you multiply your strength, become morally purer, richer, more beautiful.
3gr. Friendship is, first of all, faith in a person, exactingness towards him. The deeper your faith in a friend, the higher the exactingness should be, the more you owe, owe.
4gr. Friendship and selfishness are irreconcilable, incompatible. Friendship teaches a person to give spiritual strength and wealth, care.
5gr. Friendship is tested in trouble and danger.
Know how to live in such a way that you and your friend are united by the unity of spirit, ideals. Genuine friendship protects from selfishness, teaches to despise greed.
To be demanding in friendship means to have the courage to break it if a friend betrays what the friendship is built for. Unscrupulousness devastates friendship.
Ethical conversation "On selflessness in friendship"
Goals:
1. Expand children's knowledge of friendship.
2. Develop speech skills.
3. Foster friendly relationships, respect for each other.
4. Form the moral qualities of students.
The course of the conversation.
Org. Moment.
Checking the readiness of the class for the lesson. Greetings.
Knowledge update.
Watch the video and decide the topic of our conversation.
What is friendship? Everyone knows.
Maybe it's funny to ask.
Well, what does it mean anyway?
This word? So what is it?)
State the purpose of our lesson. (Student answers). Today in the lesson the focus of our attention is the concept of "friendship".
The purpose of our conversation: to understand, to know what friendship is.
Work with the concept of "friendship".
U: Everyone has a piece of paper with the phrase "Friendship is ..." on the desk.
Continue it. (Working time 2 minutes)
Answers are heard and briefly written on the board.
W: Who is right? Let's turn to the sources of information.
U: How is this concept considered in Ozhegov's explanatory dictionary?
"Friendship is a close relationship based on mutual trust, affection, common interests."
How is this concept considered in Dahl's explanatory dictionary?
U: Vladimir Ivanovich Dal in his famous "Explanatory Dictionary" gives the following definition of friendship: "Friendship is disinterested affection."
W: In the first place, the famous scientist and writer puts selflessness. You are friends with a person not so that he does something good for you, not because it is profitable. You are friends with a person because he is close to you, his interests and views are close.
U: Greed is a passion for acquisition, for profit; greed for money, for riches.
Group work.
Discussion of situations.
So, you all have a good loyal friend. But then one day you find yourself in a difficult situation. What should be done? I propose to discuss possible solutions.
Situation for group 1.
Pasha brought an electronic game to school. Yura ran up to him and shouted: We are friends, let's play together! Pasha agreed. The next day, Denis brought transformers to the class. Yura was the first to run up to him and again said: “I am your friend! Let's play together!" When Pasha approached them, Yura said that he would not play with him.
Do you consider Yura a true friend? Why?
Situation for group 2.
Vitya and Vanya are friends. They walk to and from school together. They live in the same house. They play together in the yard. Vitya studies well, but Vanya not so much. Vitya treats Vanya kindly, constantly lets him write off his homework. And what would you do in Viti's place?
Situation for group 3.
Several boys were playing ball. One of the guys hit the ball and he accidentally hit young guys walking nearby.
They surrounded the boy, began to scold him, offend him. The boy was frightened, cried, began to apologize.
His friends at that time also got scared of the grown-ups and ran away.
Did they do the right thing and why?
Situation for group 4.
Two girlfriends Masha and Tanya were walking down the street, it started to rain heavily. Masha was in a raincoat, and Tanya was in one dress.
- Take off your cloak, we will cover ourselves together! Tanya said.
- I cant! I'll get wet! Masha answered her, bowing her head.
What would you do?
Each group reads the situation and offers their own solution. Other children may suggest their own.
Conclusion: It turns out that making friends is not always easy. Sometimes you have to make a difficult decision.
W: So what qualities should a true friend have?
Now let's play a little. To do this, we need to stand in a circle. And passing the "magic candy" to each other, name the trait that is inherent in a true friend. Starting with these words: "A friend should be ..."
U: Is it necessary to have the same moral qualities as your friend? Why? Justify.
Reflection.
T: Listen and finish: "A friend is a person with whom I can ...", continue the thought and finish on the pieces of paper. (2 minutes)
U: Guys, Friendship is always the main miracle,
One hundred real discoveries for everyone,
And any trouble is not a problem,
If there are real friends nearby!
I wish you that only real friends surround you! And don't forget to be real friends too! This concludes our conversation.
Federal Agency for Education and Science of the Russian Federation
Vologda State Technical University
Discipline: Business ethics
abstract
"Ethics of Friendship"
Completed by: Oborina Yu.N.
Group: EUP-11
Accepted by: Maslova N.N.
Vologda
2012
Introduction.
Each society has a certain system of moral values-principles, norms and rules of conduct, the observance of which is necessary for its existence and functioning. The system includes moral requirements that differ in form and content, level of generalization and specific purpose. A special place among them is occupied by simple norms of human decency, human community. In work, study and everyday life, a person has different forms of personal relationships. In partnership, friendship and love, human communication is not just a condition, but also the main meaning of relations in which the most important socio-psychological needs are realized. The joy of mutual intimate spiritual understanding of people who are close and like each other cannot be replaced by anything.
Friendly relations develop between well-known people on the basis of some kind of common interest that is not even significant or accidental and includes a share of personal sympathy.
Friends do not present each other with any mutual serious claims, requirements for the correction and improvement of personal qualities. However, friendship does not tolerate gossip, lies and treachery. And if, due to some obligations, the relationship is interrupted, then there are no special painful experiences, some friends are usually replaced by others.
Comradely relations are relations that develop between people in the process of their joint activities on the basis of unity of interests and life tasks. They arise between members of the labor, primary collective, between people who systematically meet for a long time, know each other well and at the right time provide mutual and disinterested assistance.
A comradely relationship unites the production and training staff.
Friendship or friendship is the closest personal relationship between people, based on deep personal affection and sympathy, on the unity of views and interests on significant life issues.
Friendship is a close, long-term and versatile communication. It manifests itself not only in joint activities, but in spiritual communication, in the mutual personal interest of people. Its initial form is usually a partnership, enriched by personal affection.
Of great importance in friendship are individual moral qualities: disinterestedness, devotion and trust, sincerity and honesty, fidelity and straightforwardness. The mutual respect of friends is determined by the measure of mutual exactingness, which makes friendship a great and active force, it does not allow one to put up with shortcomings and requires their correction.
True friendship is in the desire to see your friend as stronger, more intelligent, more cultured. The need for friendship is especially strong in youth. It is explained by the fact that in a frank exchange of views with friends and a discussion of life goals and plans, young men and women form their convictions, the process of self-knowledge and self-determination of the individual is underway, and the tasks of self-education are set. In friendship, interests in one's inner world and the world of one's peers are realized. Friendship gives a person certain rights and obligations, the fulfillment of which gives a person the opportunity to test himself for the first time, to find out his worth as a person. The fact is that not everyone can be a true friend and have friends: communication with an egoist, selfish, hypocrite cannot be pleasant to anyone. A person who is lazy, uncultured, not interested in anything is of no interest, because spiritual communication with him is practically impossible.
All this, of course, does not mean that friends are alike in everything. Friends are people who have their own individual characteristics. However, differences in characters and hobbies do not separate friends, but, on the contrary, even enhance their mutual affection, because each of the friends has the opportunity to see in the other virtues that he himself may not possess, and from communication with which he becomes spiritually richer and better. Since friendship is the greatest moral value, people who understand this seek friendship, highly value it and cherish it.
The concept of friendship and its meaning.
First of all, the word "friendship" has not one, but several different meanings. And not only in our time. Two thousand years ago this was discovered by Aristotle, who was just trying to define different types of friendship in order to single out true friendship among them. He distinguishes mainly friendship based on interest, and noble friendship, which alone deserves the right to be considered real. Therefore, even in ancient Greece, relations between two business people were perceived not as friendship, but as an interest in the success of a common cause. Then friendship between politicians was also often seen as a way to achieve success in politics.
So, if we briefly list the most common meanings of this word, we will see that in most cases the word "friendship" has little to do with our ideas about a true friend.
Meaning one: acquaintances. Most of the people we consider our friends are actually just our acquaintances, that is, those whom we single out from the faceless mass surrounding us. We know their worries, their problems, we consider them people close to us, we turn to them for help and we ourselves willingly help them. We have excellent relations with them. But there is no full revelation, we do not trust them with our deepest desires. Meeting them does not make us happy, does not make us smile involuntarily. If success comes to them, if they receive some kind of reward, or unexpected luck falls on them, we do not rejoice for them, as for ourselves; gossip, envy, enmity are added to many connections of this type. Deep conflicts are often hidden behind outwardly cordial relationships. Of course, these are not outsiders - we are people, there is a certain closeness between us. But why call friendship such different types of relationships? This is a misuse of the word. So it was in the past, so it continues now.
Meaning two: collective solidarity. It is necessary to distinguish, as the ancients did, friendship from solidarity. In the latter case, friends are those who fight on our side, say, during a war. Friends on one side, enemies on the other. There is nothing personal in such solidarity. The man wearing the same uniform as mine is a friend, but I don't know anything about him. The same category includes forms of solidarity that exist in sects, in parties, in the church. Christians call each other brothers or friends, socialists - comrades, fascists - comrades. But in all these cases we are dealing with collective rather than purely personal relationships.
Meaning three: functional relationships. They refer to the type of personal connections based on social function. Here we meet with "utilitarian" friendship; such is the friendship between companions or between politicians. In this kind of relationship there is a minimum of love, they last as long as there is an interest that requires common care. This also includes numerous professional relationships, relationships between work colleagues and between housemates.
Meaning four: sympathy and friendliness. We come to the category of people with whom we feel good, who are pleasant to us, whom we admire. But in this case, the word friendship should be used very carefully. Such emotional connections are often superficial and short-lived.
What, then, do we mean by the word "friendship"? Intuitively, it evokes in us an idea of a feeling of deep, honest, trust and frankness. Empirical research also shows that the vast majority of people think of friendship this way. In his latest book, Reisman, having studied the vast amount of material written on the subject, gave the following definition of friendship: "A friend is one who takes pleasure in doing good to another, and who believes that this other has the same feelings for him." This definition of Reisman puts friendship among the altruistic, sincere feelings.
types of friendship.
Spiritual friendship - mutual enrichment and complement each other. Each is delighted and fascinated by the superiority of the other. Thus, he gives his friend the opportunity to receive such a desired recognition: what could be more beautiful if you are appreciated and understood by the one for whom you recognize this right. The most amazing thing is that everyone feels completely different from the other and admires precisely those qualities that he himself does not have.
Creative friendship - both friends retain their pronounced individuality. Moreover, friendship helps to creatively complement the personality of each of the friends, to give a complete character to their individuality.
Everyday friendship can exist and develop only under the condition of immediate territorial proximity. Friends must live nearby, provide each other with services, ask for help, go to the movies together, or at least just chat about this and that. As a rule, such friendship is reinforced by some constant reason for meetings. It can be a normal neighborhood or a common job. Doctors, for example, are most often friends with doctors.
Family friendship at first glance seems to be the complete opposite of creative friendship, but it is not. It is characteristic of the type of friendship we are considering that our friend, in essence, becomes a friend of the whole family. And if we are talking about a married couple who have children, we can clearly talk about friendship with families.
Basic properties of friendship.
Criteria.
1) The closeness and emotionality associated with the selectivity and exclusivity of friendship determine its criteria such as disinterestedness, devotion and fidelity, exactingness and adherence to principles, sincerity and trust.
2) Selflessness in friendship implies such relationships that are free from considerations of profit and are built on a willingness to help each other, sometimes to the detriment of their personal interests. The devotion and loyalty of a friend strengthens a person's faith in his own strength.
The nature of our personal relationships is not the same: acquaintance, friendship, comradeship and friendship - have their own distinctive features, personal meaning and moral value. So, for example, in relationships characterized as “just acquaintances”, the mutual arrangement is formed according to the laws of the first impression and under the influence of factors of attractiveness. Relationships “just know” do not have a specific “sign” of emotions, that is, acquaintance can be pleasant or unpleasant. The forms of maintaining relationships in both cases are determined by the norms of this group and do not impose additional moral obligations on a person.
Friendly communication arises in the process of activity, while friendly communication can occur in any, most passive form. The emergence of friendly affection is largely due to the similarity of attitudes and interests. On the other hand, arising due to the similarity or complementarity (complementarity) of people, friendship, then, acts as a factor contributing to the strengthening of these properties. We make friends with those who share similar positions on many issues, but we tend to seek similar positions in disputes with our friends because they are our friends. The moral value of friendship for the vast majority of people is higher than the value of a personal position, or, in any case, in order to step over friendships in the name of one's own principles, additional serious reasons are always needed. Friendships are characterized by intimate trust. Friendship involves confession, advice, guardianship. Friends are people on whom we are not afraid to blame our problems. On the other hand, the obligation of a friend to criticize and express impartial opinions determines the high normativity and ethical loading of friendly relations. Why do people prefer friendly commitment to friendly comfort? Because the reciprocity of support and appreciation provides a greater degree of satisfaction of the needs for security, love and self-respect. The English philosopher C. Lewis wrote that "friendship is the love of the gods because there is nothing biological in it." Thus, he emphasized that in friendship there is nothing that would make us friends, except for the mutual joy of communication.
Peculiarities.
In contrast to blood relations of group solidarity, this interpersonal relationship is individually selective (with mutual attachment of participants).
For the development of friendship may be necessary:
mutual sympathy (pleasantness of mutual communication)
Understanding
Openness (will not say "it's none of your business")
Frankness, sincerity and selflessness
credibility
Active Mutual Aid
Common interests and hobbies
Value-oriented unity
Friendship cannot be understood intellectually. Friendship can only be felt, it can only be described by qualities. The mind cannot understand it, and rationalize, formalize. For some, friendship is only valued by logical patterns, not by a sense of unity. Then friendship is a consequence of common interests, personal sympathy, common goals. If they disappear, then the friendship goes away. But true friendship never ends, it can change, transform, but if there was something close and real with a person, then it will always remain in the soul.
Not only is the breadth of friendship determined by the social value of the activity to which friends have devoted themselves, but its functions change in the course of the life of individuals, reaching the greatest intensity during adolescence and early adulthood. During this period, there is a greater frequency of meetings and a greater amount of time spent together, in the future, friendship begins to lose its uniqueness, although almost all the time it remains one of the most important factors in maintaining the stability of the individual.
Girls move from childhood to youthful friendships earlier than boys, as they develop a need for intimacy earlier. True friendship is one of those things that, like giant sea serpents, is unknown whether they are fictional or exist somewhere.
-Clichés associated with the concept of "friendship":
“Real, faithful, male friendship” (this concept formed the basis of many literary works), which is based on trust and self-sacrifice. In contrast, superficial, shallow, and uncommitted relationships are considered "fake friendships." Friendship between men is contrasted with relationships between women - while some believe that friendship between women is impossible.
Contrasting "friendship" and "love", the impossibility of friendship between a man and a woman.
In Soviet pedagogy, it was believed that only friendship was allowed between boys and girls at school.
Moral and ethical aspects of friendship.
"The Unwritten Rules of Friendship":
Share news about your successes
Show emotional support
Volunteer to help when needed
Try to make your friend feel good in your company
Return debts and services rendered
2) Intimacy.
Confidence in a friend and trust in him
Relationship with third parties
Protect a friend in his absence
Be tolerant of the rest of his friends
Don't criticize a friend in public
Keep trusted secrets
Do not be jealous or criticize other personal relationships of another
3) Mutual coordination.
Don't be pushy, don't teach
Respect the friend's inner peace and autonomy
Levinger proposed a formal model of the cycle of personal relationship, consisting of five phases:
1. Attraction preceding the birth of a relationship.
2. Period of relationship formation.
3. Continuation of the relationship, meaning either:
A) its growth and strengthening,
B) maintaining the achieved level,
C) decrease in the level of instability.
4. Weakening or worsening attitude.
5. Termination of a relationship as a result of the death of one of the partners or a break.
Friendship is an ethical form of love. Unlike other forms of love, she chooses her object using moral criteria, and builds her attitude towards him based on these criteria. But friendship is also preference. Being a friend always means that you are loved more than another, that you are preferred to someone else, to a huge faceless mass of others.
Friendship is a relationship between two completely free individuals, a meeting of equals. Two people can become friends even if they have different economic and social positions, but only if they meet as two free independent people with the same power and equal dignity. This is the process of realizing equality. But it perishes if we make it a rule to constantly use the help of a friend.
The dynamics of friendship largely depends on the conscious attitude of the partners: how they determine the nature of their relationship (whether they see friendship, love or a simple acquaintance), what goals they pursue, how they direct the present and future of friendly relations - they try to maintain, deepen them or let them go by themselves .
J. Allan, for example, argues that friendship is a qualitative characteristic of a relationship, and not an objectively existing type of relationship in itself. If two people, regardless of their social status, feel respect for each other, if they communicate on an equal footing, we have the right to consider them friends. Even two lovers can be friends. They become them when, forgetting about erotic pleasures, each of them begins to wish good to the other disinterestedly, refusing any ulterior thoughts, sincerely.
Conclusion.
Friendship is a historical concept. At various stages of social development, it acquired new qualities and was realized in various forms (brotherhood in arms, relations based on the commonality of spiritual interests, closeness of relations and connections due to frequent business contacts, emotional attachment, etc.). Friendly relations can also be based on contacts in solving major social problems (for example, the creative and personal friendship of A. I. Herzen and N. P. Ogarev, K. Marx and F. Engels, etc.). Under favorable socio-historical conditions, the concept of friendship can also extend to the relations of entire peoples. The moral value of friendship is determined by the goals and attitudes that underlie it.
It should be noted that the moral value of the obligation of friendship is contradictory. This contradiction manifests itself both at the level of social consciousness and at the level of personal position. On the one hand, abandoning a friend, betraying a friend is an evil that is unconditionally condemned by public morality. Moreover, in the male world the value
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Selflessness is an important point in friendships. After all, it implies complete trust, the absence of any interest. True friends can rely on each other, they are sure of help and support.
I believe that friendship cannot be built on self-interest. Although many are trying to crank out such fraud. Already the first tests and problems will show what is really happening. A true friend is sure to be there in times of trouble, and a person who is looking for benefits will never go into the dark to save someone.
So what is the meaning of selflessness in friendship? I think this is a great foundation for friendships. Selflessness is a solid stone on which to build something worthwhile, something that will last for many years.
And self-interest is sand, which the waves and wind will quickly spread.
If you want to be a true friend, then it is worth thinking about selflessness again and again. A humble heart will surely acquire love. And together, friends can achieve much more than those people who make friends for profit.
Updated: 2017-05-04
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