Where do feelings and emotions come from? Where does the feeling of beauty come from? Who and from whom takes away negative emotions

or How the Soul planned its lessons.

/session of regressive hypnosis through the eyes of the ward/

The stranger pulls a cigarette out of the girl's hands and takes a puff.
She: “Why, it’s harmful, remember? »
He, smiling: "I wanted to understand how it is ..."
She: "When do you smoke?"
Him: "What's it like to feel like a mortal... human"

Hello, I am a Star Soul, and before starting my journey, I would like to tell you my story, it is unlikely to be a confession, but these are the feelings I have now. Because after that trip, I won't be the same A girl.

It was always incomprehensible to me why people behave one way or another, some of their rituals, norms, limits of behavior ... And more than anything, their cruelty tore my soul, how they treat people who are different from them, something different. This is especially noticeable in children and adolescents. Children learn the world through cruelty, but who conceived it this way ... And should everyone behave this way?

I remember how enchanted, without thoughts, in a stream, I watch a caterpillar crawling in an anthill. And then cotton, and someone's sandal crushes a fluffy insect and small hard workers into spray. I know that they did it on purpose to provoke me into a reaction, but apart from sad misunderstanding and dripping tears from injustice and pity for dead insects, they did not see anything from me ... There were no fights, pulling pigtails, there was no feeling of aggression. Maybe they wanted to evoke it in me, but I just didn’t understand how to do it, what should be born in the body, where the volcano should explode, and what words should fly out on a raised note.

This session with Tatyana put everything in its place and gave me another puzzle to my mosaic, to assemble myself.
I realized that for a very long time in general in my map of emotions and states there was no this seething, seething feeling of aggression, the desire to cause physical damage, pain.
And then it seemed to hatch, degenerate, was carefully nurtured. By whom? You will find out soon))

Q: Is there something about you that draws people in that way, makes people hurt you?
A: Weakness, fragility, tenderness of the rainbow web, flower. People trample on flowers, they like to make everything beautiful, clean, something different from them.

Q: Where did this human aspect get this belief?
A: A strong impulse passed through the stomach at the words "something different from them." A picture came of a man, an alchemist in a strange pointed hat, an inventor. They throw rotten vegetables at him, some kind of persecution of him, he angered them, they poison him. People did not understand his inventions, they were not ready for such innovations, it seemed to them that it was magic and devilry. They show a light bulb in a bottle without wires, which burns with blue neon light. People are afraid of him.

Q: The key word here is "afraid". People are afraid of what they do not understand, they are afraid of the unknown. Just like in this incarnation, in your childhood, the girls who bullied you tried to hook you, they were already infected with a dose of fear, and you are not yet. And you need to understand that most of the people here are infected with the virus of fear and that they offend not because they are so bloodthirsty and cruel, but because of fear. The opposite of fear is Love. From your current level, do you need aggression to defend yourself, is it effective in this situation?
A: (sobs) I see a continuation of the inventor situation. He managed to escape from the screaming crowd and found refuge with some magicians, some more developed people. The guy gained power there and, with the help of his inventions, began to take revenge on everyone who mocked him. I feel his anger, a burning sense of revenge: “They will get everything from me, they will swallow their teeth, I will take revenge on them for not understanding me, mocking me.” Even now, in the incarnation of girl A., I experienced a similar feeling. The desire to gain such power that they would obey me, that they would fear me. Toned down, it's more about having power over men, well, maybe over some women. So that they walk on tiptoe in front of me and fulfill my desires, they give me everything I want and I give them NOTHING in return. To use these ... men, as my father once did with my mother. Play on them.

Q: Your desire for revenge resonated with anger, resentment against men...
Tell me, what will happen when everyone will be afraid of you and obey?
A: They will not dare to spread rot on me, mock me, will not harm me, I will be protected.
Q: Now look at that inventor, now he got all the power, took revenge, did he feel better?
A: No... He sits with his head propped up on his fist. Those who sheltered him use his genius and, as soon as he exhausts himself, they will throw him into the ditch without hesitation. These strong people are no different from those ordinary people, they are saturated with the same inner swamp. He understands this and he is unhappy.

Q: Look what becomes more in this world when you use revenge and aggression?
A: It hurts... my stomach hurts (on the physical plane) when I see a picture of how he takes revenge on a couple of people... the inferno grows, everything only gets worse. Aggression and power do not give protection and peace, they can also kill me. Oh, I got it!! In this incarnation, I live what I did with the people there, but it's strange ... I did not immediately become so cruel.

Q: Let's stop this frame and look from a larger perspective. I'm talking to your OT: "Is the incarnation of the inventor your personal incarnation?"
(note: The soul of the ward incarnated on Earth for the first time, but during her life she clearly remembered several of her incarnations. How is it possible?)
A: It is not.
Q: I appeal to the Teacher system of the Earth from the Light side.
A: I see them as white blurry contours, creatures, from one end of the Earth. One throws off his hoodie and in its place plays with whirlwinds iridescent, iridescent, flowing energy).
Q: Can you tell me how lessons are being formed for souls who have never had an experience on earth?
A: As long as you believe, it works...

Q: Where does this faith come from?
A: It's like an embedded virtual reality, a simulation, a computer game. Even if these incarnations were not lived by the soul in reality, this is counted as a full experience. I remember the phrase “For the brain there is no difference between the imaginary and the real. Imagine a lemon in every detail, and you will salivate, although you didn’t actually eat it. ” Here the same principle works, only the lemon is far away in the past incarnation. Like a legend in a spy's memory. Almost ... but there are nuances.

Q: Who decides what needs to be loaded into the Soul fields, which legend?
A: They discuss with the curator together. He suggests, as a supervisor, mentor of your diploma or coursework. I see us at the terminal, where my Soul is writing a plan for its term paper to embody what it wants to experience, a sketch in general terms. He stands nearby, suggests how you can solve this equation.
Take our example, I want to experience the feeling of aggression.
Oh my god... it's wonderful, now I feel what she is going through, her state, energy, desires!!! This is curiosity. And how is it, to experience a feeling of aggression, I don’t know how it is ... this is not in my coordinate systems! It's so enticing-exciting to try aggressive energies. THEY ARE BRIGHT, they're like love... just the other way around. How to try a new taste, a delicious new dish, an exotic spicy... [Inside, when she was telling, her heart jumped admiringly, like a chirping bird!!]

Q: Did you really want to experience this feeling? How do you make this plan, how do you form a lesson of aggression?
Oh yeah! It looks like a filing cabinet. They show me flat incarnation cards. You choose a life lesson that you want to experience and start writing your “term paper”. Several incarnations are selected where someone experiences an experience of interest to you. Neutral incarnations are selected and on its basis it is necessary to compose and solve an equation with several unknowns. Choose factors so that the output is aggression))
In my example, this is the environment; childhood situations - rot; examples of aggression in the family; parental relationships and traumatic experiences in adolescence, as the strongest bombing element - the final trigger. This is a test, homework for the Soul - to make such a card-incarnation scenario. If you want, then you can make a few more of these cards with equations for yourself, then it will be easier.

V: Let's see. Whether the incarnation of the alchemist-inventor was specially selected for this role of the victim.
A: I also composed it myself, based on someone's real experience, this is my task.
Q: Ready-made incarnations, real stories, did you use for your term paper? Here's your desert mercenary life we've seen before...
A: Like a compilation, or a retelling of the main plot, but with different characters. I looked at incarnations that were suitable for me for my task and chose from them those pieces, situations, events that would help me solve the problem in the best way. Come to the feeling of aggression in the shortest way. Such an extract, catalyzing elements.
The life of a mercenary is also a creative work, and not a real embodiment, I composed it, and did not live it.

Q: So your whole life is term paper?
O: (burst inside joyful understanding): Yes, this life is very important! Everything that we study at the spiritual university, what topics we write term papers on, they should be the building blocks, the ground for the thesis. Ideally. This life, it is like this, this is my thesis.
Q: It turns out that you drew a summary for yourself and went to put it into practice?
A: Yes, what I drew there, those cards (with equations) are now a reality for me. Now this is the apogee, synthesis, extract of what was invented by me there!!!

Q: Let's summarize our work a little with a sense of aggression. We have come to the conclusion that aggression is a reaction of fear to someone else's fear. Do you think, from your current experience, that this reaction is effective, that it protects you? Do you need it or have you found other ways to influence someone else's fear? Have you experienced this feeling enough for the Soul experience? Do you want to continue experiencing this lesson?
A: I was shown in a life lesson how the energies of Love work and how it is inefficient to accumulate hatred. The fact that you wish evil on the chest will not resolve the situation, it will only wind up more, there will be no escalation of the conflict. Only through sending Love to the one who offended you, the situation is lived in balance, and everyone receives what he radiated, it is so beautiful! The offender, who spoiled property, threatened and unbalanced in every possible way, after sending him love twisted his leg, and lying at home, realized something for himself and even apologized sincerely from the bottom of his heart, bought paints for my scratched door, and then generally left with event horizon. Here we note that the sending of Love is not connected with the destructive, it seemed to let go of the bowstring and the offender's bow struck him, while I was angry with him, the bowstring pulled tighter and hit me ...

Q: Now you can, with gratitude to the people who helped you survive this feeling, let go of your aggression.
A: It is in the chest, as if a dark ball is being compressed on the heart. And in the stomach a lump. You don’t need to pull them out and into the portal, you need to transform them, because these are my energies, they are in the structure of me.
Q: You can dissolve them and transform them in the Healing Ocean of Love… All aggression, distrust, everything that you don’t want to experience dissolves, you can connect with that you, strong, Whole, who came to the Earth planes. Connect with the one who is aware of herself as the Creator, consciously, right here and now, in this endlessly lasting moment. Nullify all negative emotions of experience associated with these energies.
A: Pleasant, gentle, warm waves go through the stomach ... It is very important to understand ... it is important for me that these people who bullied, from whom there were persecutions ... They are like children ... they scream with their outbursts of aggression / irritation, asking for help. They should not be afraid, they are like babies who have peed, or the tummy hurts, or the worms toss and turn ... they do not understand what worries them and scream.

Q: They just express their pain, discomfort.
Oh yeah! Precisely, they weren't shown how to do it differently, they don't know and do what they can. You need to consolidate this understanding in life ... with your conscious reaction in a provocative situation. Respond already knowing this.

Q: Let's cross off the completed items from your incarnation plan, and from the adjusted list, I ask your SELF to do a Soul Reboot. Complete Reboot of All Structures and Fields of the Soul of the Human Aspect.
A: It feels like it's being refilled, so I feel it's right.
After refilling, a feeling of tenderness, love ... warmth. I want to purr like a cat by the fire. I want to hug the host, the earth, myself ... You murmur like a clean stream.
My sunshine is good, I love you so much! (finally felt the feeling that in meditation I tried to start like a rusted engine)

In life after, a New round of Development, Awareness began ... but this is another story from the Star Soul of Alataria. Morning meditations take place with less interference from the mind, in some deeper immersion. I want to eat, I feel every bite. After, one day, I went and tried a new piece of food ... as if I had just been born and I know this world. I tried the air to taste, breathe, tried to speak, look, listen and feel people.

Guys! This is something indescribable revealed! And I am grateful to Myself for going to the session, although the Mind dissuaded me with fatigue, unwillingness to plunge into any trances ... And leading for competent guidance through the waves and dimensions, and the Creator and its Preserves ...

SUPERNOVA ON RELEASE!!!))))))

The main question of this theory is: “Where do emotions and feelings come from in a person?” To answer it, the author suggests the following approach: “To understand emotions, we need to take small children in our arms and see where and how the emotional sphere arises in them.”

Based on the research of 20th century psychologists (mainly Lev Vygotsky), conducting his own numerous observations and collecting indisputable video evidence, Nikolai Kozlov made the following main discoveries:

1. The baby is physically helpless, but well armed. Because he has a powerful arsenal: his innate expressive movements that adults perceive as emotions. This arsenal includes: a complex of revitalization (smile, eyes, stretching arms); surprise and interest; when this is not enough - whimpering, crying and loud yelling (with a demonstration of discontent and aggression or fear and disgust).

• Practical conclusion: children are much more adapted to this world than we think, and have a very hardy psyche. In emergency situations, they survive better than adults, as they know how to attract attention to themselves and do not waste energy on experiences. All their emotions have a purely applied value, and the child knows how to turn them on and off voluntarily. Adults should learn this.


• Illustration: I'm watching a film about the life of children in an orphanage. Struck the frame. They show a child who lies down in a fetal position, quietly hugs himself with both arms and sways in such a way - as if he is rocking himself. It was later explained that in the orphanage, children know that their tears and demands are useless, and in this way they try to console themselves. The situation, of course, is harmful to the child's psyche. But documentary evidence confirms that a child turns off emotions if he has no one to cry for.

2. Children track what intonations, gestures and faces act on parents, and reproduce them so that parents fulfill their wishes. At the same time, the child is looking for his own approach to each adult. And if a helpless baby needs emotions to survive, then, starting from the age of 1, children begin to skillfully manipulate their parents, having fun and honing their skills. Moreover, they master mainly negative emotions, since adults are the easiest to behave on them.

• Practical conclusion: It is important for the parent of a child older than 1 year to be able to quickly catch children's manipulations. So he can stop them, before crying, tantrums and other negative reactions become a bad habit, and direct the child's behavior in a constructive direction. The older a person is, the more difficult it is for him to get rid of these bad habits.


• Illustration: I'm visiting a friend. A friend is torn between cases, trying to find something important. Her youngest child (4 years old) requires her mother's attention and throws a tantrum in my presence. With a scream that no normal ear can bear. With stamping of feet and bodily tremors. The friend asks him to wait while she is busy and goes to another room. Left alone with me - a new aunt for him - the boy first falls silent, studying my reaction. For decency, he whimpers. Then louder ... I ask him what he wants - he turns away. Obviously, he is playing a grudge against his mother. With the return of a friend in the room, the hysteria intensifies. Mom takes her son in her arms, and he immediately falls silent. On the face - innocent serenity. "Wow! - think. “And that’s all for the sake of which such a performance was started?”

3. The baby is born honest, and his emotionality contributes to the embodiment of his true needs. To dishonest ways to attract attention to themselves (tantrums, screams, offended and angry grimaces), parents often teach the child themselves if they do not heed his needs in a timely manner and force him to look for other creative ways to achieve what he wants. The second reason for the development of negative emotions is a personal example of other children and the parents themselves, picked up by the child as a game. Children take into their arsenal everything that can be tested on experience. And leave what is of practical use.

• Practical conclusion: so that our children continue to maintain the integrity that they are endowed with from birth, we must encourage them to do so. Namely: to be sensitive and attentive in order to quickly figure out what they want, and responsive in order to come to their aid in a timely manner. Adults also need to learn to get rid of personal habits of emotional manipulation - habits of being offended, raising their voice, making an unhappy face, looking helpless, complaining. And instead, develop the habit of cheerfully and cheerfully responding to all situations. Because all the bad children first of all take from us and then turn against us.


• Illustration: I am 4 years old. I lie alone in my bed, hastily sent to bed. And all the adults gathered at this time in the living room and watch TV. They feel good, have fun, but I have mortal longing and really lack love. I find a way out! I remember that small children sometimes pee in their sleep, and I conduct an experiment. I consciously urinate on the bed, then let out a guilty tear and go out to the adults in an unhappy state. Such a misfortune! Slept like an angel. I woke up - damp ... It's a shame! Adults begin to comfort me - by chance, you can forgive! They take on hands, stroke on the head, smile, kiss. Grandmother fussily runs to change clothes. While the bed is being made, I sit with the adults in the living room in the circle of everyone's attention and watch TV quite enough. The experiment went well!

4. The older the children, the more effective their manipulations become. And closer to school age, children learn to disguise them. For example, instead of the phrase “I offended you” (which essentially means “I offend MYSELF with you”), the phrase “YOU offend me” is used. Against the background of such a substitution, the belief is born that emotions come from outside - they are caused by others, weather or circumstances. And after a while, a person sincerely believes that it is impossible to control his emotions. That he is not responsible for them.

• Practical conclusion: such self-deception is very common in the world. It is convenient for people to believe that their emotions are a thing beyond their control. Because then they can attribute everything to an innate character, the shortcomings of others, or impure forces. But now we know it's a lie. An adult person is responsible for his negative emotions, even if his parents unwittingly accustomed him to them. And as soon as he realizes this responsibility, he will be able to independently complete the process of his upbringing.


• Illustration:I am 13 years old. I am traveling with my classmates in a tour bus. One of the guys asked the driver to put on a cassette of a band that was popular at that time. The lyrics and the manner of performance in these songs go against my beliefs. I express an inner protest - "my taste was offended!". While the whole class happily sings along to the songs, I sit with a displeased face in the expectation that the teacher will see, ask and stop the disgrace. After a while, a friend tries to cheer me up. I want to respond, but I can’t switch anymore - the flywheel of resentment and discontent has spun irrevocably ...

5. The aerobatics of masking emotional manipulation is to connect the chemical processes of the body. The child learns to cry, be offended and be afraid with the whole body, connecting hormones to this (for example, adrenaline to the emotion of fear). And as a result, he experiences such a capture by emotions that he himself cannot stop them. Such an obsession with emotions makes a truly serious impression on adults. They see that the child is physically ill, and for fear of harming him, they yield. As a result, children understand that the one who cannot calm down longer than others wins, and over time they turn their emotions into something that is no longer under their control.

• Practical conclusion: it is important for an adult to know that by yielding to a child in response to obsessive behavior, he thereby teaches him to lose control of himself! During the emotional seizures of his child, an adult should remember that this is a hidden manipulation. And if he stops succumbing to it, but carefully nurtures and maintains positive behavior in the child, there is a chance to stop such “rages”. The same should be done for adults.


• Illustration:I am 16 years old. Transitional age. In the summer, I live with relatives without a father. I experience an acute lack of parental attention and care. On Mom's Memorial Day, I throw a tantrum because adults forgot to commemorate her (and feel sorry for me). I go to my room and cry relentlessly in the hope that someone will come and sympathize. Since no one comes, I try to increase the roar ... I break my voice, a migraine begins, my breath goes astray ... I dream of bringing myself to a nervous breakdown. To go to the hospital, and adults felt ashamed. But after a few hours I get so tired of myself that I decide to stop the performance. I go out to adults and apologize for my behavior.

6. It is curious that no matter how much children deceive their parents, their manipulative tricks do not work at all in the company of their peers. Children know the true value of feigned emotions, do not fall for them at all and cruelly tease them for them. And if the child was not re-educated by the cruel environment of peers, then he has to grow up already in social institutions, where there is a competition and a requirement for certain behavior.

• Practical conclusion: if life has developed in such a way that we have not completely got rid of our manipulative behavior, it is better to take care of completing this process ourselves. Because otherwise we will face constant problems at the institute, in the family and at work.


• Illustration:me and my classmates are 15 years old. The teacher wanted to make us a class she could be proud of. And once she went too far, leaving us for additional lessons. The guys began to argue indignantly, defending their interests. No one was led to the angry demands of the teacher to obey her, reaching the breakdown of her voice. Having united against the "hysterical girl", the class defiantly left her lesson, not responding to requests to return. However, when one of us peeped through the crack in the office 10 minutes later and saw that the teacher was crying alone and helplessly, each of us heart skipped a beat. We felt that this emotion is no longer manipulation. And sincerely apologized to the teacher.

Conclusion:
Human emotions serve him to survive and control other people. By nature, we are able to turn emotions on and off at will, as well as select effective emotional reactions depending on the situation and person. A well-bred child or adult turns on emotions only when they really serve the cause.
If we don't pay attention to our negative and ineffective emotions, they become a bad habit that is not easy, but possible to eradicate. A person is also able to emotionally “wind up” himself, connecting the hormonal processes of the body to purely external reactions. In this case, he becomes obsessed with emotions, and can no longer stop them.
To get out of the vicious circle, you need to learn to track your own and others' emotional manipulations and form new, healthy, response habits in their place.

And about how to stop the manipulations of children correctly and with love, you can read in the latest book by Nikolai Kozlov "

Where do feelings come from

Most of us live with the idiotic feeling that life is ruled by chance. But in fact, each of us from birth has a companion who loves us tenderly and deeply, a partner whom we usually do not want to notice. Call it the Inner Being, the Higher Self (I personally don't like this name very much), the Expanded Self, the Divine Self - or at least Mickey Mouse! Call it what you want, but know that this is the greatest part of ourselves, without which we could not exist in the physical body. This is the Source of our life on earth, the purest positive energy of the Universe, of which we are a part; it is the purest positive energy of Life, and we are life.

Have you at least once thought that there is some secret part of ourselves that knows everything there is to know, but is deeply hidden? This is it - the widest, oldest, wisest part of your essence, knowing no boundaries, but able to contact consciousness in only one way - through feelings!

The expanded part of our "I", with which we came into this world, is in a place that many of us would call "nirvana" - at the very top of the vibrational scale. The expanded self does not know what vibrations of stress or need are. For him, all negative vibrations are just a black hole that does not emit a single ray.

But we cannot vibrate at such a high frequency and still remain in our physical body. All we can do is to approach this source as close as possible, experiencing joy, delight, admiration, gratitude - feelings as old as the world, meaning “happiness”. That is why we feel so good when we are happy - because the frequency of our vibrations has approached our true self! When you are happy, you are in sync with your immaterial self, connected to its high frequency vibrations and all that they can give you.

When we feel good, the frequency of our vibrations rises and approaches the “design” one. We stop chewing, like chewing gum, low-frequency vibrations of fear, alien to us by nature, but familiar from childhood. We find ourselves in a space where we can receive Instructions and answers to our questions. And all because at such moments we walk hand in hand with our true Essence.

In the same way, when we radiate the vibrations of need, excitement and anxiety - that is, we experience any emotion that is not joy - we disconnect from our inner partner, and everything starts to fall out of our hands. We feel like a child who has had their favorite teddy bear taken away.

So, when we feel good, we are connected to our Expanded Self. When we feel bad or not at all, when we are in a depressed mood, we disconnect from the source of happiness and plunge into low frequency waves.

In other words: everything that is not joy is negative. If we don't feel joy, we swallow broken glass.

Luckily, we don't have to watch our thoughts every second to get our stuck lives out on the high road, otherwise we'd just go crazy. All we need to do is to be aware of our emotional well-being, both good and bad, to be aware of our emotional ups and downs.

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All people and other living beings are capable of experiencing in one form or another joy, fear or sadness. Although scientists have already managed to determine which areas of the brain generate emotions, the mechanism of their occurrence is not yet completely clear, and it is also not clear what is common between them. Today, there are many theories trying to explain the phenomenon of emotions.

As early as the end of the 19th century, well-known psychologists William James and Carl Lange independently proposed a hypothesis that emotions are connected with our physical state: the excitation of nerve endings leads to emotional experiences. That is, we tremble not because we are afraid, but we are afraid precisely because we are trembling.

It is clear that this theory does not stand up to scrutiny. In scientific terms, it does not take into account the cognitive aspect. For example, if a student has a stomach ache before an exam and hamstrings are shaking, then this is because he is afraid of the exam. That is, there is a completely objective external reason for such well-being. The student knows perfectly well that it is important for him to pass the exam, and considers himself insufficiently prepared for him, hence the fear.

Later, another theory of the origin of emotions was proposed - this time cognitive. It just connects the emotional response with the processes taking place in our minds. So, a person should be afraid of a dog when he sees how she bares her fangs, supporters of this theory argue. However, they, in turn, do not take into account the subjective factor: not all people are afraid of dogs, even with bared fangs. For example, a person can himself be a dog trainer, and of course, then there can be no talk of any fear.

Recently, philosophers Albert Neven and Luca Barlassina from the Ruhr University in Bochum (Germany) outlined a new philosophical and psychological concept of emotions, publishing an article in the journal Philosophy and Phenomenological Research. According to the new theory, emotions are a combination of bodily sensations and our perception of a particular object. So, having met a bull terrier, we remember everything negative that we know about representatives of this breed, or we remember our meeting with another dog, which ended in unpleasant consequences. That is, the appearance of a dog gives the process an emotional coloring, and we experience fear in conjunction with the corresponding physical reactions: trembling, palpitations, increased sweating, and so on.

The same theory explains the phenomenon when emotions are directed to the missing object. Let's say a passer-by is walking down the street and someone is throwing slop on his head. He raises his head, sees a woman in the window and immediately bursts into abuse against her, although he has no direct evidence that it was she who threw out the slop ... And how often do we take out our bad mood on loved ones? For example, we are “fed up” with our bosses or colleagues at work, and when we come home, we begin to find fault with our spouse and children, since we cannot afford to express our “fi” to our boss or colleagues for one reason or another ... In general, there is an emotion , and to which object to direct it is already the tenth thing.

People also tend to react in certain ways to various fantasy characters such as aliens, vampires, or ghosts. Even if a person has never encountered such entities, he may assume that when meeting with them "should" experience horror or fall into a stupor. Specialists in the paranormal even have the term "contact stupor". Faced with something unusual, the contactee falls into a kind of temporary paralysis: the limbs stop moving, and the tongue is unable to utter a word ... Sometimes this state disappears during the contact, and sometimes only after it.

True, it is not entirely clear what this is connected with - whether this phenomenon is an individual natural reaction to contact with an object that a person refers to the sphere of "supernatural", or is it the result of "otherworldly" influence. By the way, a similar, but weaker in intensity reaction can occur in people prone to impressionability while watching horror films where these creatures appear.

E.V. Ilyenkov thoroughly investigated the question of where the mind comes from. In the end, he left us a legacy of a brilliant example of how to act. In our time, there is an urgent need to understand where human feelings come from. After all, you must admit that this is a question no less important than the question of where a person's mind comes from. That is why, based on Ilyenkov's approach, let's try to find the key to understanding this complex issue.

It would seem that what could be easier for a person than to feel? From birth, the child has all the necessary prerequisites in order to further develop into a full-fledged personality. However, this turns out to be too little. It seems that a child grows up with the necessary biological prerequisites, in a loving family, financially secure, receives the necessary education, but a person does not turn out of him, rather, on the contrary, he reminds him less and less. All the necessary conditions have been created, but it’s impossible to blind a normal person!

This is probably the inconsistency of the question, because what we call the necessary conditions for the development of human feelings often diverge from the real need for further development of socially given prerequisites - after all, the ability to feel is not genetically inherent in a person; this ability also cannot be conveyed by explanation or even developed by imitation of another person. I would like to emphasize in particular that this is an ABILITY, and by nature we do not need it, in contrast to the need for food, water or protection.

Initially, as noted by V.A. Bosenko, “human feeling and human sense organs are not given directly from nature, but become, are formed human. And this happens as their object becomes a social, human object, created by man for man in the process of including natural things in practical transformation, changes according to social, human needs. Only the active transforming activity of a person changes and develops him as a person, including his sense organs and the organs of thought, forming them completely unlike the organs of an animal.

It is also important to note that the development of the sensual in a person is inseparably connected with the process of development of his thinking, and the first is the initial basis for the second. "From living contemplation to abstract thinking and from it to practice- this is the dialectical way of knowledge truth, knowledge of objective reality," Lenin wrote. But in the future, it is the practical activity of a person that will act as the fundamental force of human thinking, and only then - the ability to deeply feel, how to "feel" the world, to know it "through the eyes of all mankind." Only an educated person can know truth and depth of feeling, although it by no means follows from this that every educated person is capable of deep feeling.

It is unlikely that anyone will argue that out of all the variety of feelings, it is love that crystallizes as the highest, most powerful of human feelings. As L. Feuerbach rightly noted: “both objectively and subjectively, love serves as a criterion of being - a criterion of truth and reality. Where there is no love, there is no truth. Only he is something who loves something. Accordingly, the more being in a person, the more he loves, and vice versa.

The child's parents serve as the initial model, but the ability to feel continues to change in the process of his own development and interaction with other people. As E. Fromm subtly noted, “love for people is not a consequence, as is often believed, but a prerequisite for love for a particular person, although genetically it is expressed in love for a separate individual.” However, in his discussion of love as an art, Fromm makes one serious mistake. He emphasizes that love is a complex matter that people learn throughout their lives, but does not specify how they learn. After all, it is impossible to learn love by simply reading dozens of fiction books about it or listening to the stories of acquaintances. The most important thing in the development of human feelings is the direct social and practical activity of the person himself. Only in this way people are able to know the essence of the subject.

It is worth avoiding the many existing misconceptions about what constitutes such a feeling as love. For example, that love is a combination of circumstances, and nothing depends on a person; that the problem of love is only a problem of the object, and not a problem of ability, because the whole difficulty is to find a person worthy of love; as well as the conviction that this feeling is static, it either exists or it does not.

Each time it is necessary to emphasize that a person learns to feel not on the basis of his individual life, but rather, on the contrary, a person’s life becomes such as a result of the interaction of social prerequisites and his own actively transforming activity. That is why the most important condition for the development of the human ability to love is, first of all, social relations (that is, relations of production, or, as Marx called them, the active abilities of a person). As V.A. Bosenko: “The change in the modes of production is what determines social development in general. It also determines the development, ultimately, of all the possibilities and abilities of a person, including the development of the mind and feelings.

One of the striking examples of creating those necessary social relations in which a person can form the entire depth of the ability to feel is the example of the Soviet Union. With all the shortcomings of the socialism that existed there, the fact remains that it was then that love for the first time practically began to be considered as the basis for creating a family. Previously, this was written about in novels, but in practice, the family was formed on completely different grounds. Marriage in the overwhelming majority of cases had an economic, not a sensual basis.

It is also important that the upbringing of children in the USSR began to be regarded as a public affair. This circumstance is important both from the point of view of creating economic conditions for truly free love, and from the point of view of the "education of feelings" of future generations. No matter how good the conditions for the formation of a child in a family are, nevertheless, a family cannot raise a full-fledged person. It is society that acts here as that favorable environment, which is able to educate a real person, however, not every social formation is able to do this. Indeed, even under capitalism, education is of a public nature, but since this is not officially recognized, no one is responsible for the results of this education, and no one works to put it right.

But with all this, we must point out the extremes in which social changes took place in the sphere we are studying. So, for example, in the 1920s in the Soviet Union, this was expressed in the popularization of the “glass of water” theory, when love was equated with a thing physiologically dictated by nature, which is as easy to satisfy as drinking a glass of water.

A.V. spoke out against the “glass of water” theory. Lunacharsky. He noted that “the simple, nihilistic, pseudo-scientific solution of the issue was that the youth went along the line of least resistance and said: well, it doesn’t matter, you shouldn’t think about it a lot. This is the same proverbial glass of water. Sexual need is very impatient, you need to satisfy it. Tales about love, marriage - a bourgeois thing. One must learn from nature, from the truth of life; she knows neither novels nor complications. This theory, according to Lunacharsky, is a theory of male meanness, where there can be no talk of social equality, these are the rudiments of a patriarchal bourgeois society that have not yet been completely eradicated. As a result, the attitude towards love is lost, as an act of sublime, extraordinary importance and extraordinary joy. This should not be. After all, every person is a manifestation of a social essence, which is a person to the same extent and to the same extent, since he is a set of concrete historical social relations. IN AND. Lenin emphasized the importance of the fact that communism is inconceivable without the fullness of love life, which gives real cheerfulness to a person.

The most developed person in terms of feelings is the one who is most subtly imbued with the ongoing changes, to the extent that he himself is a participant in these changes. It is the transformation of social and natural nature that changes, corrects and develops him as a person, forming completely different organs of feeling and thinking.

Therefore, it is necessary to create such social conditions under which each person will be able to feel like a human being. And it’s worth starting with the transformation of the existing social system and the creation of such a society when it is a person who becomes the main value instead of a commodity. When equality in social relations will finally be expressed in equal relations in the family, when the wife will cease to be a servant in the house and will be able to be directly included in social production. Only then can we talk about changing social conditions for the upbringing of the younger generation. What will we get in return? As F. Engels notes: “it is to decide when a new generation will grow up: a generation of men who will never have to buy a woman for money or other social means of power, and a generation of women who will never have to give themselves to a man from any motives other than true love, nor to refuse intimacy with the man she loves for fear of economic consequences. When these people appear, they will throw all the hell out of what, according to current ideas, they are supposed to do; they will know for themselves how to act, and they themselves will develop their own public opinion about the actions of each individual in accordance with this.

The ability to feel should be formed in the child from the first days of birth, and social institutions should free the hands of parents so that they remain the same integral social link as before the birth of the child. On the other hand, only social education can give a child an understanding of how to feel humanly. As advised by A.S. Makarenko, who not only knew, but practically shaped real human sensibility in his pupils, children should be taught not with stories about responsibility for every day they live, for every piece of feeling, but with a practical daily social example and the direct involvement of children in common activities. Thanks to this, children will be brought up not as passive consumers of existing goods, but as active figures with developed social feelings.

The main thing is that children “have the luck to get to people who will be able to instill in them a love for work, for knowledge, for communication with other people”, for universal culture, - said Ilyenkov, and there it’s up to the small. That seems to be the whole secret. Moreover, perhaps the secret is that this happiness should not be a matter of luck, a happy occasion, but a rule that does not allow exceptions.

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