How does a man understand that a woman is offended. Male resentment: what kind of disease and how to deal with it? Why is the man offended?

How often do women tell their friends, sisters or mothers that they are offended by a man, without thinking that her resentment is harmful to everyone: for her, her health deteriorates from resentment, but for a man, female resentment is comparable to the elements destroying everything in its path. (Read I hate my husband)

Women's grievances for men do not pass without a trace. Women, like soothsayers, without doing it on purpose, bring trouble to the offending man. This is especially true for women associated with a man by close physical ties, love affairs, physical intimacy - wives and mistresses.

Resentment of a wife for a man

The wife is offended by her husband, the husband sees the offended wife and tries not to touch her with conversations, hence the conflict in the family follows, which, first of all, affects family relations, then the health of the spouses and then concerns the material well-being of the family.

How to open the circle of resentment? Who will be the first to put up? (Read Who should be the first to reconcile?

Undoubtedly, the woman is most interested in preserving the family, since it is she who is the keeper of the hearth. (Read You are the keeper of the fire of life) It is the wife who needs to understand and realize this dangerous vicious circle of grievances and decide to forgive, thereby breaking the loop that kills everything around. (Read In any conflict lies the energy of development)

Resentment of a mistress for a man

The mistress at the beginning of the novel builds certain plans for a man and, having not achieved them, which happens in 90% of all male love affairs on the side, is offended. The resentment of an abandoned woman, like a fire, burns a man from the inside.

A man cannot understand what is happening, why he suddenly started having problems with work, problems in business, relations with partners deteriorated, the car broke down, and his health suddenly let him down. All of the above are echoes of the resentment of the mistress. Women's resentment, women's anger and malice are terrible.

If you hold in your heart a grudge against a man who will cause you suffering, then try to forgive him. To do this, draw conclusions from your relationship.

Remember that there were pleasant moments in them, that you and this man learned something new, discovered yourself from the other side. And make the decision to forgive him, releasing him from your destiny.

Thus, you will open the doors to your life for a new man, a new relationship and let go of the former without harming him as a sign of your former warm relationship. (Read To meet a new man you need to change)

Men, on the other hand, need to learn not to leave behind the tops of offended women, otherwise it will simply destroy him both physically and morally, not to mention the material component.

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You probably noticed that women are especially touchy.
We have many demands on oneself and others .
We are waiting for warm communication, friendly tone, compliments, attention and help.
And if we don't get it, then we begin to be madly and painfully offended .

Why? I think many of you are interested in the same questions ...

There is at least five reasons such heightened resentment of women.

1. REASON FIRST - IMPRESSIBILITY.
Women are especially emotional and impressionable.
They notice all the little things and details, they are very sensitive.
If the husband did not ask how things were or did not thank for dinner, for a woman these are the key events of the day.
Because she feeds her soul with such little things.
In this way, hypersensitivity to detail creates a foundation for resentment.

2. THE SECOND REASON - OWN MOTHER'S RESPONSIBILITY.
The habit of being offended in a woman is formed from childhood.
Girls copy the behavior of their mother, and even if you think that you are
its the complete opposite, anyway You have a lot of habits inherited from her!
And if your mother was inclined to be offended, pout and blame everyone around for all sorts of little things,
then, most likely, you, too, have become touchy!

3. REASON THREE - PERFECTIONISM.
The resentment of a woman is associated with her idealism and perfectionism.
Since childhood, girls draw beautiful pictures of how her future will turn out.
How wonderful her marriage, husband and child will be.
How easy it will be to become a mother and what a wonderful father a husband will be.

slightest discrepancy between reality and dreams, differences between the desired and the real
very painful hurt many women who do everything to make this ideal their life!

4. REASON FOUR - Strict education.
One of the most important reasons for resentment is the peculiarities of upbringing.
Before it was customary to shame, compare and in every possible way emphasize the shortcomings of the child.
It was believed that this would help him overcome them as soon as possible.
As a result, the child's attention is always focused on their own shortcomings,
and later on the shortcomings of other people.

Growing up, such a woman goes through life with a magnifying glass:
she sees all the shortcomings of other people and is ready, like her parents,
at any time to "help" a loved one by pointing to them.
And if he "does not obey", she is offended ...

5. THE FIFTH REASON - LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE.
Resentment arises due to self-doubt,
when a woman doesn't feel good enough.
This is typical of many women, because we often doubt ourselves and
needing help or a safe space to express ourselves...

Resentment is a reaction to any hint about one's imperfection.
(I didn’t cook dinner, the child has a bruise, the room was not cleaned, I didn’t wash my hair).
As soon as a woman receives even the slightest signal from the outside world
about her failure, lack of attractiveness, caring, mind, ...
(you can list indefinitely), she immediately begins to feel hurt, hurt, offended ...

It turns out that a woman is practically doomed to resentment?
It turns out that she has practically no chance to live without resentment?

NO! A woman can and knows how to build relationships without offense!

HOW TO STOP ACCEPTING DISSATISFACTION?

5 NECESSARY STEPS TO START LIVING WITHOUT RESPONSIBILITY

1. STEP ONE - UNDERSTAND YOUR DESIRES.
It is very important to learn to understand yourself and your needs.
To study in detail what exactly does not suit me, what hurts, what hurts.
Do you think this is obvious? I'm willing to bet that this isn't always the case.
Try during the day to carefully monitor your grievances and understand
what exactly offends you. I'm sure you will have a lot of discoveries!

2. STEP TWO - SET BORDERS.
It is important to determine what kind of treatment you consider unacceptable,
what exactly is unbearable for you, and what is permissible.
Try to answer the questions for yourself:
if it offends me, then what kind of partner's behavior would be comfortable and acceptable for me?

3. STEP THREE - CONVEY YOUR WISHES TO YOUR RELATED.
To overcome resentment, it is important to learn how to communicate your desires to the attention of loved ones.
After all, as a rule, women live according to the principle, "if he loves, then he will guess."
It is very difficult to say directly what we would like to receive.
As a result, women either sulk, or pour the whole truth-womb on their husband in a temper,
without forgetting to ride on the most painful points. And this is not the most constructive option.

4. STEP FOUR - GET CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF.
In order to stop accumulating discontent,
needs to be nurtured self-confidence and self-esteem .
Thanks to them, you will be able not only to build communication with others in such a way,
not to offend them with reproaches and claims, but also to make it clear to relatives,
which is unacceptable for you.
In addition, a self-confident woman ceases to fight imaginary grievances,
knows what is worth paying attention to, and what is a mere trifle.

5. STEP FIVE - RECEIVE YOUR LOVED ONES.
On the path of personal growth, it is very important to learn to accept your loved ones.
Each of them is an individuality, each has its own advantages and disadvantages.
Learning to understand and accept a person as he is is not an easy task,
especially if its shortcomings are unbearable for you.
This is especially hard when it comes to your husband, mother or child.
And yet it is possible! Such work on oneself is not easy work, but it will pay off handsomely!

The idea to write a mini-article on this topic came to me at 6 am. For many women, the awareness of being “abandoned” prevents them from living happily, unwillingly, they can poison the lives and others - instilling fear, guided by their own sad experience.

An article for those who do not want to justify themselves and feel sorry for every convenient occasion, who are more accustomed to conducting a detailed analysis and learning a lesson, although even if you have not yet practiced this method of solving problems, it is never too late to start, it is not too late if you wish yourself well .

The definition of an “abandoned” woman can mean: offended, rejected, dissatisfied, abandoned, one who was betrayed and humiliated, who allegedly “broke her life”, etc.

As it turned out, this person is dangerous not only for herself, but also for others, if she has not worked out the problem that happened to her and did not realize that she deserved it. Yes, yes, dear Friend, everything that happens to you is only and only your merit, and the sooner you come to terms with this truth, the more likely you are to deserve positive changes in life.

As mentioned earlier in my mini-articles, a person is a kind of magnet that attracts an analogy. This happens in the name of his own good, to maintain vital functions and smooth development.

But let us return to the mentioned category of women. Surely, at some point in her life, every woman felt dissatisfaction with the behavior of the opposite sex in relation to herself: lack of attention, excessive signs of attention (in the absence of decisive action), criticism, misunderstanding, etc. Everything would be fine if it did not come from the Object of Your Dreams.

If a woman switches her attention, sublimates her energy and she manages to extinguish her discontent, she “recovers”, gradually new emotions dull her memories in their brightness and the woman lives on, continuing consciously or not to look for a new peak that she would like to conquer.

If a woman is not able to overcome her attraction, tirelessly takes measures to attract the Object of Dreams and she does not succeed - she is furious, angry, full of disappointments both in herself and in the male attitude towards her. This is where the "danger zone" begins.

The danger zone is a psychological attack on oneself in order to "destroy all that is good." When the result is achieved, and the forces are in reserve, the woman tries to drag into this zone all those to whom she feels love affection or sympathy (and sometimes even all those who come across “at hand”). It is like a poison that she spreads: having tasted it herself, she treats others. When she sees the result of her "work" - exhausted and dejected people from her inner circle, she calms down, enjoying, is satisfied with the thought - "and they shared this misfortune with me."

At the everyday level, it looks something like this: a woman shows aggression towards everyone who is dear to her, it may look like revenge from the outside, but the true goal is to share the pain.

Well, if sooner or later, a woman realizes her mistakes and understands her manipulation of others, that no one is obliged to bear her burden and she has no right to shift onto the shoulders of others, even if part of it.

The Vedas say that the female mind is 6 times stronger than the male, and the male mind is 6 times stronger than the female. Women's strength and beauty must be under the control of the male mind. If there is no such control or the “controller” is not a wise, authoritative man for her, it’s a disaster, the woman gradually goes crazy. Therefore, it is inherent in nature that a woman is always looking for a man, she needs it for life, like air, to feel protected and “under supervision”.

From birth to adolescence, a woman feels the need to accompany her through life: her father or uncle, grandfather, brother; in maturity, these men are replaced or supplemented by a husband; at an older age, it can be a son or nephew, grandson. A woman likes to show care and humility, this is her nature, this is how she feels her realization, resisting - only harms her happiness and drives herself into the framework of a spiritual crisis (“danger zone”).

Women who talk about freedom of choice, relationships, emancipation, the ability to manage a man for profit - they are either cunning and SECRETLY looking for a worthy man, or they are already at a serious stage of “going crazy”.

One of the main problems of this topic is the change in the way of life of a woman after failures with the Man of Dreams. Sometimes a woman radically changes everything inside and around herself, enjoys the illusion that she is free and happy only in solitude. Her psychology is also changing. She is wary of communication with men, stories of love, in every compliment she looks for "subtext". Such thoughts may appear in her head: “I will give birth to a child for myself”, “I will use men, like they did me”, “I will fall in love with me and leave”, “I will make him suffer”, “to satisfy my sexual desires, I I can choose anyone and forget about him the next day”, “I will take care of myself”, “only I can do something good for myself”, “my problem is that I am too trusting”, “I will live for myself, in my pleasure”, “I won’t let anyone else spit in my soul”, “sincerity and devotion? you won’t wait”, “I am for an open relationship”, “it is important for me to make a career and buy an apartment / car, the family will wait”, “there is no love, all this is a mutually beneficial relationship”, etc.

Did you catch a familiar idea in this list? You are not alone. These thoughts are popular and are designed to poison the main task of the incarnation in a woman - service. Not to be confused with service. Everyone knows the basic “feminine qualities”, for this you don’t even need to open a psychology textbook: care, tenderness, lightness, refinement, wisdom, kindness, beauty, sensuality, purity, meekness, grace, versatility, flexibility, gullibility, etc.

Now tell me: what is common between the above: a list of thoughts and a list of female qualities? That's right, nothing.

Dear women, do not turn yourself into a log, remain a flower and enchant everyone around you with your fragrance, help others to plunge into your fragrance and appreciate how individual, affectionate, gorgeous you are. Allow yourself to be truly free - remove the shackles of past grievances, clear your thoughts, learn to show love for all living things, allow others to take care of you, love, give you a bright world of colors, do not send yourself to prison for life imprisonment. What happened in the past is a lesson, learn it and move on to the next Class of Life.

Be thrown into happiness, plunge into it with your head, not thinking about who will say what, because then time will punish you for free for voluntary hard labor ...

Anastasia Smirnova
http://anastasiya-borucu.com/pages/blog/?p=207

It is generally accepted that women are most often offended. The phrase “she came up with it herself - she was offended” is already almost winged. However, if we take a closer look at the phenomenon of resentment, we will see that it has no gender. Both women and men can be offended. And as practice shows, a touchy man in the modern world is not at all uncommon. Let's talk about it on this page www.site

So what is resentment?

Resentment is a feeling when you are unfairly, undeservedly upset. It is closely related to the feeling that you have been bypassed, pushed into the background. Of course it hurts. The expression of resentment is often in the nature of a call: “Look how much pain you caused me! Feel remorse and regret it!" In this appeal, one can clearly read the aggression that resentment always contains.

Aggression is directed inward (“How could I allow myself to be treated like this!”) And outward: the desire to punish, restore justice and inflict a proportionate wound. This is the essence of resentment, when viewed under the gaze of psychology. It turns out that it is absolutely unimportant who is offended: a man or a woman, because their feelings will be similar. However, their behavioral strategies and reactions will vary greatly.

How offended is the woman?

Women in our society have the invaluable right to express their emotions and feel free to express their feelings. And the offended is simply supposed to throw out the negative on the tormentor. Often, women have better internal contact with themselves, and they are better able to recognize exactly what they feel. Finding yourself offended and being able to convey this information to your partner is the most effective way to at least partially get rid of unpleasant sensations.

It is possible that resentment performs the function of manipulation and is not sincere. In this case, a woman needs to establish control over the behavior of another, for example, make him guilty.

How offended is the man?

A man, unlike a woman, traditionally should be more restrained and patient. All the stereotypes imposed by society, such as: "A man never cries" - urge him to keep feelings in himself and not splash them out. It turns out that the woman does not even know that she has committed an act that is unpleasant to her partner. An unspoken experience can boil inside for a long time and break out in the form of a storm of negative emotions that will lead to the destruction of close relationships in a couple. From this we can conclude that it is better not to offend a man. But how to do that? Try to avoid moments that can provoke humiliation.

What can offend a man?

Criticism of a man's sexual abilities or comparing him with another (former) partner;
negative statements about his hobby;
ignoring his questions or the habit of leaving his questions unanswered;
bad reviews about the partner’s relatives (about his mother, sister, girlfriends);
depreciation of his (even inappropriate and useless) gifts - he sincerely wanted to please his woman!
the accusation that he is not sufficiently reliable or independent;
an attempt to give him advice at a time when the chosen one is busy with business.

Unfortunately, this list cannot be completed, since there are a lot of reasons for resentment. For example, a husband may be upset that he washed the car (finally, it has become like a means of transportation, and not a wreck!), And the wife did not celebrate this important event and did not praise it. Or a young man called a girl to the cinema for a film, which she criticized to smithereens after the session. The reason can be anything.

It is important to remember that any situation that threatens the self-worth of your partner and causes a feeling that he was not taken into account, bypassed can cause resentment.

Negative consequences of resentment in intimate relationships:

1. Constant touchiness is annoying. It seems to a woman that she is building a relationship not with an adult, but with a five-year-old child.
2. The occurrence of frequent grievances is a marker that not everything is good in life and in relationships. This is a problem that needs to be addressed, not avoided.
3. There may be a feeling that you are not understood and not appreciated. Then why continue such a relationship?
4. Unspoken and unprocessed resentment can lead to the emergence of various psychosomatic diseases.
5. Desire to strike back: to hurt the one who dared to offend.
6. The risk of strong negative feelings towards a partner: from irritation to hatred.

Hatred becomes the point at which the relationship must end sooner or later. Despite the saying “There is only one step from love to hate,” true love and hate are incompatible.

What do we call hate?

At the heart of this feeling is an acute rejection, hostility and disgust. It becomes clear that the person to whom the hatred is directed should not be in your life. And he should disappear from there as quickly as possible. Hate can be called the reverse side of love. These are two completely different poles. That is why intimacy with a person who causes hatred in us is impossible. And without intimacy, it will not be possible to build harmonious relationships.

Hatred is not the cause of resentment, but is its consequence. In general, hatred will always be the result of thoughts and actions that create a discrepancy between our perception and existing reality. Who is to blame for this feeling? Partner? Or the person himself?

We have to admit that the person himself bears responsibility for the origin of destructive aggression. After all, he actually admitted that his resentment grew into a negative feeling: “Only I am responsible for everything that happens in my life. If something that I hate arose, only I let it into my life.

If the situation with the emergence of hatred for a partner after a strong offense is repeated, then the problem must be solved. And, unfortunately, the simplest solution - to change a partner - will not be the most effective, because the same thing can happen in the next relationship. Ideally, it is necessary to work out the main points in which negative feelings appear with a specialist, since a man’s resentment against a woman as a cause of hatred can later destroy even the best relationship.

How to deal with male resentment?

We see that frequent resentment can cause serious damage to any intimate relationship. Nevertheless, every person regularly encounters manifestations of resentment. Of course, we will not be able to get rid of it completely, but we can take actions that will help reduce the risk of its occurrence.

If you have a feeling that your partner is offended, try to solve the problem immediately, do not postpone it for later, clarify the situation.
Whether you feel guilty or not, explain your motivation, what you wanted to do and why you did it the way you did. Most likely, you did not have the intention to hurt.
Sorry.
Try to remember what your partner reacts to and try to avoid such situations.
Try to create close contact: hug your man, say that he is very dear to you.
In any case, conduct a constructive dialogue, maintain control over your own emotions.
Sometimes it’s enough just to wait, giving the other time and distance. This is enough to calm down and think everything over (especially when the offense is trifling).
Be patient and don't forget the warm feelings you actually have for this person.

As you can see, resentment can and should be dealt with. This job may not be very pleasant and sometimes annoying (“Why should I treat him like a crystal vase ?!”), But a good warm relationship is worth it.

FEMALE RESPONSIBILITY...

Resentment is the scourge of all women, it is especially acute in relationships with a man. A woman is offended by the behavior of her husband (her man), his actions, words, when she is in a bad mood, trying to punish him with her alienation and silence.
For many it works. A man cannot withstand the mental stress created by a woman and comes to put up, gives gifts and so on. Not because he wants to please her, to please her, but simply because she created conditions for him in which a mentally healthy person cannot be. He's just trying to negate her emotional oppression.
Resentment does not strengthen relationships, it slowly undermines them and destroys them. Moreover, being offended is also not an easy thing - you need to create a completely terrible energy inside yourself, wind up different thoughts, be in a depressed and negative state, you can’t smile, rejoice, and of course, in the end, resentment destroys not only your own mind and health, but also the psyche surrounding.
Many women know this, but continue to be offended!
Why?

From childhood, we were indoctrinated with the idea that by getting married all problems are solved, the husband must make decisions, be responsible, and strive to make his wife happy. And bribes are smooth from us. The main thing for us is to fulfill our marital duties, cook food, be beautiful, keep the house clean and give birth to children, and the mood and emotional state are not included in this.
Vedic knowledge confirmed this even more by talking about the duties of a man and a woman. Everything was clearly distributed: responsibility for a man, softness for a woman.

A man, of course, can take responsibility for creating living conditions for a woman, giving her a child, protecting her. But he is not responsible for what goes on in her head and how she perceives it. He is absolutely not to blame for this. We shift the responsibility for our mind to men, although this is no longer their area of ​​influence.

Once a young man of my best friend brought her a huge bouquet of yellow roses. He is an ordinary man and does not know all the subtleties that yellow flowers give for separation and so on. And when he, happy, appeared at the door with this bouquet, my friend was offended to the core, hit him with a bouquet and threw him out the door. It took me more than an hour to explain to her that this is not malicious intent, that he does not part with her, that he is just an ordinary man who does not know the intricacies of flower etiquette and that he wanted to please her.
An absurd situation, but I’m sure there have also been cases in your life when you were offended by any garbage. Resentment, like many other negative emotions, is an indicator of our personal immaturity, that we are not ready to take responsibility for our lives, not to mention the lives of others of people. When we are offended by someone, we simply give responsibility for our life into the wrong hands, we allow other people to control our destiny, our mood, our emotions, we choose to be a victim!
If you can be upset about how the conductor in the trolleybus spoke to you, or that your husband did not look in your direction when you were waiting for this, or that your mother said something on the phone, or a friend leaked negative things about you - and you got upset because of this, lost heart, you lost motivation and sparkle in your eyes, then please tell me who controls your life? You or these people?
Now please remember the situations that trigger emotions of resentment, anger, irritation in you?
What are these people?
What are these events?
Just remember. Why, you will find out further.

When I studied at the School of Psychology, my wise mentor (low bows to him) said a thing that I remember well:
“Our karma (fate) is in our mind. By karma, we are born with a certain mind that creates our future destiny. Two people react differently to the same situation. Some will droop and stop trying, while others will smile and see the lesson of God in it. Many events in our destiny are predetermined, but our freedom lies in how to react to it - this is how we create new, good karma. Between the stimulus and the reaction there are always a few moments within which we are free to choose our reaction. ”Remember when everything is going well for you, a wonderful mood, and suddenly someone on the street said something or pushed you, will you be offended? Will you notice it? Will it be of value to you?

After all, if we do not want to be offended, then you will not offend us, no matter how hard you try. The word offended comes from the two words “offend yourself”, and abbreviated as “offended”.

There was a case in my life when I did penance without salt and sugar. We traveled and had to order food in restaurants, carefully explaining to the waiter that I needed food without salt and sugar. And somehow I was very tired and hungry. My husband took me to a cafe, he ordered food and explained our conditions. I really wanted to eat and I really waited for the dishes to be brought. And now, after 20 minutes, the food was brought. I tried it and it turned out to be salty. Everything we ordered. A flood of unpleasant feelings flooded over me and I immediately wanted to be offended by my husband, because he ordered it. The husband immediately went to the cook and asked for the same thing only without salt. I continued to get angry. I was annoyed by the waiters who walked and smiled. They did not feel any guilt for their mistake, for the fact that I was sitting hungry and upset. I wanted to eat, but I had to wait. Resentment began to overcome me!
And then I caught this pause, these few moments and asked myself, “Why am I angry with my husband? I myself heard that he ordered and asked for everything as needed. He did everything he could. And even after that, he went and tried to correct the situation, ”and suddenly the realization came to me that I don’t want to take responsibility for my life, for those unpleasant situations that come into it. It is much easier to shove it on your husband and demand more from him. I looked at the situation from the outside and realized that I shifted the responsibility for my life, for my mood to a huge number of people. There were so many of them that I could no longer manage them myself. I mustered up my courage and turned on what was left of my sanity. I managed to catch a moment and I took advantage of it.

“So, Julia,” I said to myself, “you have a choice. First, you can freak out and be offended by your husband and generally refuse to eat so that he is ashamed. Second, you can thank God for a situation that teaches you to control your attachments. And calmly with gratitude to eat what they bring later. Thirdly, you can laugh at the situation and say "Askesis is the wealth of a Brahmin." Fourth, you can take a walk with your child for now and let your spouse eat in peace, and then he will replace you and you will also quietly eat your unleavened food. Think about which of the options will make your present enjoyable and improve your relationship with your husband and with God in the future?

I rejoiced. I caught this moment when the present and the future are happening and I liked it. Now I use it. I want to choose how I react to life. I want to choose those reactions that will make life better, juicier, brighter!

We can get married and get a lot of benefits from a husband, but he will never be able to give us his mind and view of the world through him. A man can make a woman happier, but not happy.

To be happy is our own choice.

It is your voluntary choice to take offense at the person and let him control your mind or choose another reaction that will be joyful for everyone.
All states are in your mind, we can call them if we want. The world and people do not influence our emotions, we are free to manage them ourselves. We can imagine any state and feel it, as it happens when we watch movies.
When I ask women at a consultation, “Imagine that you have already met your man, that you are together and everything is fine. How do you feel?”, then every woman can describe this condition in detail, although there is no man in her life yet and maybe even never was. But she already knows, already feels!

We have access to all the senses, you understand that? Our task is not to stick labels on people “With you I feel this, and with you this”, “If he behaves like this, I will be glad, but if otherwise, I will be upset”, we can choose much more beautiful, positive reactions to every situation in life.
Please, girls who are married and who are single, leave the illusion that a man will bring happiness into your life. A man will only increase what you already have! If you are happy, you will be happier, and if you are unhappy, then even more unhappy.

We, women, also have a responsibility, and first of all it concerns our mind, our mood, our worldview. The fact that a man can control the mind of a woman is an illusion, because you yourself know that with our mental tricks we can “take out the brain” of even the most courageous man. Is not it?
A man is attracted by the mindset of a woman, her emotions, this is the explanation for the fact that many ugly, by modern standards, women are wildly successful with men. Because they are cheerful, they are light, lively, they know how to be joyful and create this atmosphere around.

Therefore, return responsibility for your life and for your mood to yourself, manage it yourself! Be mistresses, witches in the good sense of the word.

The next time you want to be offended, think:
- What will give me resentment?
- What will I get by being offended?
- Will the relationship improve because of this resentment?
Will my life become brighter and happier?
- Will my path become more spiritual?
- Will it bring me at least some development?

Of course, you ask, “What if a person does really unpleasant things (insults / humiliates / ridicules)? Why not take offense at him?

Of course not! If you are not offended, this does not mean that you will now become a trash can into which you can pour anything. I also thought about it and a wonderful phrase came to me: “I am not offended - I draw conclusions.”
If a person once behaved in a boorish way - you did not react, he continues to do this a second and third time - why be offended? Draw conclusions - why do you need such a person in your life at all?

If you are treated poorly by relatives or close people, then understand that this is a call from the Universe that it is time to start working on yourself and on relationships.
- Write letters;
- Do the practice of forgiveness;
- Learn to speak properly with elders, peers and younger ones.
- Handle the situation like a witch. Quiet. Calmly. Without leaving home. Resentment does not solve problems - it increases them.
Give up negative emotions, consciously, with joy, with desire. It's so great when you can control your mood.
Somehow I remember it was a difficult day, and everything was not as I want. At the end of the day, my husband took me to the cinema. But the mood was bad. And my wise husband told me:
- You see, now everything has turned out the way it happened. We can no longer change the situation, but we can see something good in what is happening. Can you try to force your will to change your mood from bad to joyful? Just imagine that there is such a switch inside you and you just need to raise it, please try!”
- Okay, I tried it. And I did it. I suddenly began to notice positive signs from the Universe around me. She seemed to cheer me up. So in a good mood, we went to the cinema. And if you want to be sad (after all, it happens that it’s just a sad mood), then be sad consciously, with light sadness, don’t look for reasons, don’t pass it on to people. A woman’s karma is often worked out through moods, so if sadness has come and you want to immerse yourself in it, warn your loved ones “I want to be a little sad, just like that, for no reason” and be sad for your health. This will make your relationship with people and yourself more conscious , harmonious!

Now I am more and more studying the work of the female mind and looking for ways that are accessible to all women to control it. It is very interesting and with new knowledge and practices, new opportunities open up. This article is just the beginning.
I wrote it so that today you start tracking your reactions, look at those people to whom you handed your life over and think whether you really want to see your life as it is now or would you be pleased to see it more joyful, fresh, light ?
Think now. P.S. I am attaching a parable that will further deepen the understanding of this issue.

One person publicly insulted the sage:
- You are an atheist! You are a drunk! Almost a thief!
The wise man only smiled in response. A well-dressed youth who was watching this scene asked:
How can you endure such insults? Are you not offended?
The wise man said to the young man:
If you want to know my secret, you will have to come with me.
A wise man went into a dusty closet, lit a torch and rummaged through the chest and found a tattered, dirty and old dressing gown. He threw it to the young man and said:
- Try it on, it suits you.
The young man looked at him and was indignant:
“Why would I be wearing these dirty rags?” You see, I am dressed in decent and good clothes - you must be crazy!
And threw the tattered robe back.
“Pay attention,” said the wise man, “for some reason you did not want to try on old rags. In the same way, I did not try on those dirty words with which that person tried to get me. Can you be offended by insults if you understand inside yourself very thoroughly and firmly that insults are rags that people throw at you from someone else's shoulder. Of course, no one forbids you to try on someone else's insults and even wear them if you suddenly do not have your own clothes.

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