Wisdom of the day what it means to love a woman. Create harmony in relationships, and not just please your husband. The behavior of a wise woman in relation to life and the choice of men

There is an opinion that wisdom comes with years and life experience, which is not entirely true.

This is a special perception of reality and an attitude that is acquired when changing the worldview and developing personal qualities.

Every woman thinks about how to become a wise woman. Since this quality leads to successful relationships, a happy family.

Wise Qualities

Mind and wisdom should not be confused, as they are completely different concepts. An educated woman may not differ in life knowledge. While a truly wise woman, who also shows understanding in communication, may not have a higher education diploma.

What distinguishes a wise woman?

• permanence. Stability is the key to strong relationships and peace of mind. And in order not to flutter, like a moth, from one man to another, a wise woman will choose exactly “her own”. The fate of stupid ladies as quickly as possible to get married in order to remake a man for themselves. Male nature is akin to hard granite, which is adamant, and female is malleable, like plasticine, in order to be able to adapt to the only chosen one.

• Understanding. A man's best friend should be his wife, with whom he can talk heart to heart and talk about his own experiences. Close relationships develop when a couple discusses ideas, desires, and shares important thoughts.

• Patience. A wise woman will not allow herself to go into a scream, resorting to the "carrot and stick" method. She knows how to gently hint a man at the wrong behavior, and encourages after the right deed. The calm and pleasant atmosphere in the house is conducive to gifts and the desire to return home after work. In a cozy nest where a loving woman and a hearty dinner awaits.

• Respect. Before you become a wise woman for your husband, you first need to understand the course of men's actions, respecting his decision and providing your own space for personal interests. It can be fishing, modeling or football, but for a man his hobbies are just as important as his family.

• Lack of criticism. Nothing can be achieved by remarks and statements, except for another quarrel. Even if the spouse has committed a misconduct or made a mistake in something, it is much wiser to pause and sincerely express your feelings. So the man will better hear your wishes.

• The ability to forgive. There are no ideal people, and a wise woman is no exception, so she is condescending to her husband’s mistakes, gently hinting at her emotions, without “sticking” to them for a long time.

A pleasant and balanced woman is considered a gift from heaven, and everyone can become one if they start the hard work of controlling their own emotions and manifestations of character. By no means does this mean you have to suppress your feelings, but it is important to learn how to express them safely for yourself and your relationship.

What behavior is wrong?

It is important to know not only useful qualities and the correct manner of behavior, but also those features that will prevent you from becoming wiser.

1. Pride. Principle will become a significant hindrance in a relationship, making a woman stupid in the eyes of her chosen one. It is necessary to cross one's own pride in order to notice in a short time how loyalty and acquired wisdom direct life in a positive direction.
2. nitpicking. Before looking for a mote in someone else's eye, you can try to see the log in your own. All people are not perfect, but if you poke your partner’s nose into his shortcomings, there is a risk of turning into a grumpy shrew.
3. Irritation. A negative feeling arises if women's expectations do not correspond to reality. And if a spouse at the dawn of a relationship was endowed with non-existent qualities, it is not his fault. A wise woman accepts her husband with all his shortcomings, realizing that irritability is the main sign of bad parenting. And it will not be appropriate anywhere and never.

By nature, all women are the creators of their lives and happiness, since the mood of the family and the weather conditions in the house depend on them. And the main tools for all who want to become wise women should be sincerity and love.

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Living together is a long-term construction of a solid building, where every day becomes another brick. And how the house will turn out, in this one you will have to live. This understanding is available to a wise woman, so she invests daily in the creative process.

Everyone knows that it is pleasant to communicate with smart and wise people. And if she is also an attractive woman, and wisdom attracts and captivates her. What is the attraction of such people? Is wisdom good or bad? What secrets do wise women know?

Secrets and rules of wise women:

1. A wise woman loves and accepts herself. Her pursuit of perfection is not a struggle, but a means of recognizing self-love.

2. A wise woman is a woman who lives in harmony with herself, with those around her, a woman who knows how to derive pleasure, even from the smallest, to give pleasure in the smallest. A woman who knows how to reconcile and extinguish the growing explosion, a woman who does not get into “poses of resentment”, because dignity lies in actions.

3. She is self-sufficient. She likes the business she is busy with, because she chose it for a reason. It is realized, getting pleasure from it. Next to her, most likely, the same self-sufficient person.

4. A wise woman does not skimp on gratitude, not taking all the wonderful qualities for granted. Next to this, a man blossoms, feeling needed. And sincere admiration inspires him to new actions.

5. A wise woman remembers that a worthy man does not need to be saved! He does not need help finding himself, he does not have unhealed heart wounds that you have to heal. She remembers that a man who falls in love quickly can fall out of love just as quickly. She knows how to distinguish a potential partner from a potential destroyer of her life.

6. A wise woman is patient. Patience is the main quality of women, a quality that men practically do not possess. Patience is the main bonus in life. Patience is waiting for the right moment, it is the ability to control your emotions, which women have a lot of. A wise woman would rather talk, discuss a problem, find a solution together than arrange scenes with insults and breaking dishes.

7. A wise woman listens and hears others. He tries to understand them, sees in each person not only minuses, but also pluses.

8. A wise woman avoids acquaintances that obviously lead to trouble. Stays away from philanderers, alcoholics, married men, and men who try to dominate or hurt you.

9. A wise woman knows how to forgive her man, realizing that all people are not perfect and she is no exception. A wise woman does not humiliate a man, does not compare him with others. Knows how to forgive, because experience shows that ideals exist only in our head, but not in reality. Give up on small things in order to win on big things.

10. She should gently but confidently talk about her annoyances and resentments to her man, trying not to “go in cycles” in her emotions.

11. A wise or intelligent woman is restrained, faithful, will do everything for the well-being of the family.

12. A wise woman is sure that the weather in the house largely depends on her. Therefore, in no case does he shift his bad mood to loved ones.

13. A wise woman is convinced that family relationships involve interaction, cooperation, compromises. She builds relationships: after all, a happy family is not a given, but painstaking work. The tools with which she creates the weather in the house are love, respect, the desire to understand, tact, patience.

14. A wise woman understands that a person is shaped by his environment - society. He communicates with happy married couples, with women who manage to remain feminine and loved.

15. A wise woman is the one they talk about - "neck". Wherever he turns, the “head” - the husband looks there. Such a woman knows how to push her husband to decisions so that he does not notice any pressure from her.

16. A wise woman does not take dirty linen out of the hut. She understands that by rallying friends against her husband, she strikes at herself, because the family is one whole.

17. A wise woman does not compete with a man, does not prove her superiority, does not strive to win.

18. A wise woman does not choose a man with the prospect of changing him. There is only one way to change a person - by changing yourself. A wise woman loves herself, knowing that there will be a man with the qualities she needs.

19. A wise woman understands that a man needs personal space to be alone. Usually women worry, feeling that a man seems to be moving away from them. They try to meet halfway, offended if a man does not want to discuss the reasons. How a wise happy woman behaves: she knows how to wait, knowing that a man sometimes withdraws into himself, and is silent, not because his wife is indifferent to him, but because he sincerely does not want to shift the burden of his problems onto her fragile shoulders. A wise woman appreciates this.

20. A wise woman understands that her husband is not her property. Supports him, trusts him, does not keep him on a short leash. He knows that a person needs his own psychological space, the opportunity to do what he loves (hunting, football, cars).

21. A wise woman will not always show her mind, she knows how to use the main weapon - weakness, and does not go on about hormones. She knows when to wait and when to act. She almost never bets on a man's guilt, knowing that love and respect are of great value.

22. A wise woman asks for advice, asks for support and help from a man, gives him the opportunity to feel needed. This is the most important thing for a man! Although many are mistaken, believing that the main thing is sex and good food.

23. As a wise person, she understands that both in relationships and in work, the main thing is not to show her superiority, but to be able to create an atmosphere of love and comfort around.

24. A wise woman does not dissolve in her man. She understands that, having dissolved, sugar makes tea sweeter, but no one else remembers it. A wise woman always remains an interesting person: for her husband, and for others, and, first of all, for herself.

25. A wise woman does not devote herself without a trace to children. She understands that she must be an example of a happy and fulfilled person for them. As a mother, she strives to be an interesting person for her children as well.

26. A wise woman knows that in marriage no one owes anyone, because marriage should be based on love and on a deep understanding and respect for the goals of living together, and independent goals in the life of each individual.

27. A wise woman knows that irritation is a sign of a bad mood, she knows that irritation is inappropriate anywhere and never. And if it suddenly arose, then it is necessary to deal with it, sincerely looking inside yourself, because no one else is to blame for this.

28. A wise woman, in a crisis situation, will very subtly show her husband the direction of the right life, and support him in his intention to get there.

29. A wise woman, seeing her husband's mistake, will support, encourage, sometimes pretend that she has not noticed anything.

30. A wise woman knows that men and women love differently. And knowing this, she does not expect and does not demand actions from her husband that should correspond specifically to women's ideas about love.

31. A wise woman does not demand from a man actions that are contrary to his nature.

32. A wise woman will not fight the influence of her mother-in-law, defend her independence from her parents, will not quarrel with them because of their advice. She will learn to smile, to listen silently, to agree. And do it your way. With love.

33. A wise woman does not interfere in the lives of her adult children, does not give them unsolicited advice and recommendations, does not tell them how to properly raise children. It allows children to get their life experience and supports them in any situation.

34. A wise woman does not want to change the whole world, to remake all the people around. She starts to change herself. And accepts others for who they are.

35. A wise woman recommends ending a relationship if her relationship with a man is more often bad than good. If he humiliates, her feelings and pride suffer. If he does not seek to please her with something, it is more pleasant for her to remember the past than to live in the present.

36. A wise woman knows that love and suffering are not the same thing. She knows that lovers who are free to leave whenever they want always come back. Lovers who are free in their feelings are always interesting. She knows that if you tell a man all the time that you miss him, then this man will not be interested.

37. A wise woman does not repeat endlessly: "You don't love me anymore" - this can be easily convinced.

38. A wise woman is not suspicious - it bothers and repels.

She does not investigate where he was yesterday and what he did.

39. A wise woman does not make reproaches in a tearful tone, does not seek to show that she is unhappy because of a man. The martyr is not attractive, you want to get rid of her.

40. A wise woman is not jealous. Jealousy arises when a person lacks something. And even if a feeling of jealousy has settled in the depths of her soul, she will calm down, understand that her man can be trusted, and will never show her jealousy to her beloved.

Wisdom and happiness to you, dear women!!!

Svetlana Georgievna Gubanova

Good day, dear ladies! There is such an old proverb - "a woman is a scientist by nature, and a man - from a book." Indeed, worldly female wisdom and intuition are given to us by nature. But this does not mean that this art cannot be learned by following simple commandments. What is it - a wise woman, what is she like in the realities of the modern world?

The topic is really difficult, because the mind and the level of intelligence are far from the same as wisdom. What woman is considered wise? One that can build ideal relationships on its own, maintain peace in the family and be happy. To do this, you need to follow these rules.

Commandments of a wise woman

1. When choosing a companion in life, you should not look for a man in order to change him in the future. You can redraw a dress, and then the result may be unexpected, but you shouldn’t even try to change a person, except to adapt to him yourself. The true wisdom of a woman lies in understanding and accepting herself, then there will be a dress of the right size and style, and a man with ideally suitable qualities will appear nearby.
2. To be able to create an atmosphere in the house, not to get angry, not to shout over trifles, to learn to forget, to discard these small problems for the sake of a higher goal - the happiness of relatives.
3. To be condescending, not to be offended by trifles, to give a helping hand to relatives, to go forward in a conflict.
4. Respect your life partner, understand that the spouse owes nothing and is not her property. After all, marriage is a cooperation based on trust, honesty, respect.
5. Don't take rubbish out of the house. Washing the bones of a husband, discussing him in all unpleasant details with parents, friends, colleagues, we not only belittle ourselves, but also strike a blow at family life, and therefore ourselves.
6. Don't lose yourself. The ideal woman is not the one who devotes herself to a man, giving up her interests and desires, but an interesting, holistic person with whom it is interesting to talk. After all, sugar, dissolving in tea, makes it sweeter, but soon no one will remember about it! You need to be wiser and not forget about yourself for your family and relatives. A successful, purposeful, self-sufficient woman will be proud of both her husband and children.

1. Don't overwhelm your mind. No matter how it seems at first glance, “smart” and “wise” are far from synonymous, sometimes these definitions are diametrically opposed. Wisdom is the ability to change one's behavior for the benefit of oneself, one's family, but intellectual ladies often simply cannot remain silent at the right moment and constantly strive to show their superiority over their husband, to prove how well-read, smart, successful she is. Unfortunately, a rare man is ready to see such a woman next to him, and for happiness it is sometimes easier to pretend to be a fool, show your weakness, inability, shifting the chores onto strong male shoulders. It is important to learn the ancient art of being a “neck”, turning the “head”, that is, the husband, in the right direction with the help of suggestive phrases, hints, casually dropped words. Aerobatics is to make your partner think that he made the right decision himself, without your help, and you dutifully agreed with him.
2. Know how to be grateful. You should not take all the benefits, labors and good features of others as a given. Constantly praise your spouse, children for all the good things they do - and they will flourish next to you, as well as be inspired to new actions!
3. Give your partner time to be alone. Often, girls in a relationship require constant attention and care from a guy, so that he devotes every second to her. But such communication quickly gets boring, and a full-fledged versatile person is not capable of constantly being with only one interlocutor. And in marriage, you should not reproach your husband for his silence, because sometimes a man is silent so as not to shift problems that have piled onto the fragile shoulders of his wife, and a wise wife should appreciate such care for herself.
4. There is no perfection. You need to understand that we are all not perfect, including our relatives, so you need to be able to forgive your loved one for petty sins, rude words thrown in the hearts, unfulfilled desires.
5. Patience, just patience. Unfortunately, it is on us, the representatives of the weaker sex, that the solemn mission of preserving the hearth is entrusted, and here we are talking not only about cooking. In most cases, we, women, need to be wiser, calmer, somewhere to deviate from our desires and preferences, somewhere to hint, ask, caress, “cajole” in order to create an atmosphere of comfort, tranquility and peace in the house. True, and here it is important to know the measure. Think about whether you often forget about your needs to please your spouse, forgive him too much and get away with it? Perhaps this person is not worthy of you! After all, patience can be both the most useful quality and the worst enemy of female happiness.
6. Be flexible. To be able to show your firmness and determination at the right moment, and wisely give in at another. And this is a whole art!

Why be wise?

You're a woman, be wiser! Have you been told so? But there is a lot of truth in this phrase, it so happened that the mind of the relationship is a man, and the wisdom is a woman. The first makes important, sometimes fateful decisions, the second - slowly controls, helps, supports.

We all become wiser over the years, accumulating our own experience and learning from the mistakes of friends and acquaintances, catching some secrets from films and books, reading articles on psychology will also help. And the above rules will become the basis for the formation of this knowledge.

Knowing these basic points, it is quite possible to educate, cherish the age-old female wisdom in yourself, learn how to create coziness and a calm, comfortable atmosphere in the house with your own hands, gently guide your relatives in the right direction, make them happy, and at the same time yourself. Until we meet again, if you find interesting thoughts for yourself - share them with your friends!

Surrounding. She is calm, friendly and helpful. And it seems that its out of itself is almost impossible. Such ladies are admired, but few can become the same. Simply because they don’t know how to show this wisdom of theirs in relations with others and, first of all, with their beloved man.

The key to the success of a wise woman is that she initially selects a suitable partner for herself. The one who is ready to cooperate and interact with her. After all, living together is not an eternal holiday, but also compromises, concessions, etc. Moreover, it will not necessarily be a rich or successful man - she will make him so herself. The main thing is that he be open to his lady soul and heart.

To become a wise woman, you need to understand that what you are building - your home and family - is the most precious thing you have and will have. Appreciate it, and lay each "brick" of your happiness with great love. And this will automatically lead you to abandon scandals over trifles and save you from nervous shocks. But it is precisely in this that the role of a woman is hidden - a family hearth.

Do you want to become a wise woman? Then learn to understand, listen and forgive. You should not arrange a showdown and swearing from scratch because of misconduct that has already been committed by a husband or children. Otherwise, you will simply destroy your family from the inside. Of course, without quarrels not to do. But wise women even quarrel wisely: rarely, but aptly. It is best to prepare a scene, just one, but what kind. The main thing is to choose a really serious reason. In other cases, keep silent, laugh together, pretend that you did not notice the male misconduct.

So what if you've been living together for the 5th year?! All the same, you should not get personal, humiliate, tease your man. Wise women maintain a respectful attitude towards their life partner from the very first day. To become wise, you need to put yourself in the place of a partner and play the situation in a mirror image (estimate, for example, what you would like or would not like to hear from yourself in the place of your spouse), then a lot opens up and becomes obvious.

Learn to set personal and shared family goals. If you are clear about what you want, it will become easier for you to achieve the desired results. This is the wisdom of a woman - to set a goal and find the best options for solving it.

A wise woman knows how to trust her companion. She always believes in him, thus giving the man self-confidence. Therefore, husbands of wise women, as a rule, occupy high leadership positions and rarely go to the left.

But do not confuse wisdom with total submission. A wise woman always knows her own worth and positions herself so that others understand this. You should not completely obey your partner or dissolve in him. Better to just stand with him on the same level. This will be the highest female wisdom.

The psychology of relations between a man and a woman is an important science. The fair sex is not only the keeper of the hearth. It is from her wisdom that depends on how the relationship will develop in a couple. Men do not tolerate when they are trying to control and manipulate. Women's strength lies in love, patience and understanding.

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A wise woman does not fight for equality in the family and does not try to become the leader. She gives her partner attention and love and surrounds him with care. Every man hides a creator, but in order for him to fully show his abilities, he needs an inspirer.

What is female wisdom?

The wisdom of a woman is the ability to build harmonious relationships. A wise representative of the fair sex understands that it is impossible to get what you want from a man with demands, tears, reproaches, quarrels and scandals. Everyone dreams of being under the tutelage of a strong partner. But in order to achieve this, you need to become a real woman. Learn to accept and respect a man for who he is. Attempts to change her husband will not be successful. A smart woman knows that family well-being is more dependent on her and works on relationships.

Anyone can become a wise woman if desired. In a relationship with a man, the fair sex often behave inappropriately. They humiliate the partner and try to tame him in every possible way, imposing their will on him. It doesn't end well.

In order for the representative of the stronger sex to feel himself, he needs freedom. A wise wife does not try to control her partner, does not tell him what to do, and does not criticize his decisions. She respects his choice and listens to his opinion and advice.

The main female secret is that she does not try to re-educate an adult man, but accepts him as a full-fledged person.

Psychology of a man in a relationship with a woman male secrets

How to build a harmonious relationship with a man?

At the first stage of the development of relations, flirting plays an important role. The ability to please the opposite sex is a wonderful quality. However, this is not enough for the harmonious development of the union. The fair sex should be able to properly build relationships in a couple.

10 rules for a wise woman in family relationships:

1. 1. Treat your husband the way your wife wants to be treated. You need to learn to love a partner regardless of his social status and salary. First of all, it is recommended to respect his personality.
2. 2. You need to show love, tenderness and care towards a man. A life partner should feel desired and valued.
3. 3. Quarrels and conflict situations should be avoided. Do not reproach a man and give him ultimatums. In times of small differences, try to smooth things over with gentleness and tenderness.
4. 4. In no case should you compare your chosen one with others. It is best to try not to notice the shortcomings and focus on the merits.
5. 5. It is strictly forbidden to criticize and humiliate a partner. A man needs to be made clear that he is the leader in the family.
6. 6. It is necessary to constantly try to conquer a man again. They hate boredom and routine. To maintain interest in herself, the wife must take care of herself and constantly change.
7. 7. Showing pride in relationships should be avoided. This quality can lead to many problems in a pair, such as mutual cooling and so on. It is recommended to get rid of integrity, it adversely affects the development of the union.
8. 8. It is worth learning to see the manifestation of attention and care in the little things. A man's love is expressed not only in romance, gifts and surprises. It can be help with housework or with children.
9. 9. It is necessary to learn to forgive and not accumulate resentment in the soul. It is important to understand that ideal people do not exist in nature, and everyone has the right to make mistakes.
10. 10. You need to maintain physical contact: hugs, kisses and sex say much more than words. You need to spend more time together: walking, watching movies, going to cafes, chatting.

Harmonious relationships in the family are daily work and work on oneself.