The men hug. Watch your hands: how hugs betray the true feelings of a man. Types of male hugs and their meaning

An experienced psychologist can tell a lot about a person based on his handwriting, gait, gestures, habitual sleeping posture or manner of dressing. But this is not the whole list - after all, even the way we treat our friends, relatives and acquaintances provides a lot of food for thought. We counted a dozen different hugging techniques with their own unique overtones. Do you want to test yourself?

Defender

Such hugs are typical for men: standing behind and hugging a partner by the waist from the back, a person manifests himself as that very “stone wall”, gives a feeling of reliability and mutual trust. But at the same time, there is something powerful in this hugging technique. A man demonstrates his dominance and gentle control over the situation, says Patti Wood, an expert in the field of body language and author of "Signals of success, a guide to reading body language."

Beggar

The same hugs, but most often performed by women. When a girl hugs her man from behind, this signals that some kind of request will follow now (subconsciously she copies the behavior of a child who is not customary to refuse). Or in this way she asks for forgiveness (again, referring to the fact that children cannot be seriously offended). And, oddly enough, this trick works!

Under the wing

One person hangs on the shoulder of another in a kind of half-embrace. On the one hand, a gesture means support and goodwill, and on the other hand, it can be a search for support for oneself. Indeed, during hugs, our self-esteem grows and the opinion of others becomes less important. Fears and doubts recede into the background, and a person begins to relate more positively to what is happening. But be on the lookout: sometimes such familiar hugs are used to ingratiate themselves with unfamiliar people.

Own on the board

Encouraging pats on the back are accepted in camaraderie. In a literal sense, a pat on the back acts as a signal of comfort. “The way men hug their buddies is not romantic,” says Christopher Blacina, Ph.D., author of The Secret Lives of Men. But if a guy often hugs a girl like this, it means that they are not suitable for each other romantically. Friendzone is their diagnosis, and further development of relations is hardly possible.

Hugs behind your back

As a rule, both participants in such hugs use only one hand. Such a gesture is a real symbol of comfort, as well as a signal of openness and vulnerability to each other. After all, the back is the most unprotected place. “You cannot see what is happening behind you. Therefore, touching the back is very exciting,” writes Patti Wood. Hugging each other behind the back, people remind how important they are to each other.

A slow dance

Slow dance hugs are true romance. The guy hugs the girl by the waist, she gently wraps her arms around his neck. These hugs are characteristic of falling in love at a young age, but not always. After all, everyone knows the saying: "all ages are submissive to love." An ardent and unrestrained feeling can descend at any moment, and make you "shake the old days." If you have been married for many years, and still continue to hug your soul mate with such a beautiful gesture, you can only be congratulated!

Tet-a-tet

It does not matter whether you are riding a trolley bus, sitting at home on the couch or stretched out together on the grass. Whatever the postures of the hugging people, the most important part of such a hug is eye contact. Many people consider such a gesture as the union of souls, and for good reason: after all, "the eyes are the mirror of the soul." This is a sign of true love and inner kinship. The bond between people seeking such hugs is strong and almost unshakable.

Pickpocket

A cavalier and funny hug posture with one or both people holding their palms in the back pockets of the other. This is a sign that everyone in these relationships is calm, easy and comfortable. You don't have to work hard for a relationship to develop. Ritu Gatori writes: “When you are comfortable with each other in silence, know that you have found love.” The same goes for your hugs. If you can easily put your hand in your partner's pocket, you can be sure that you are perfect for each other!

Carousel

A man tears the girl off the ground and holds on to him, or puts him on a hill (however, the initiative may belong to her herself). A flying hug is a hug of stormy joy at a meeting (after a long separation), or ... passion and lust. In this position, a close connection is formed between you, but this can only be a bright and fleeting flash of dry brushwood on fire. And true love is more like hot coals that can be fanned, even when it seems as if the flame has already died out.

Trap

In this impulse, people pull each other to themselves as much as possible, clinging with a stranglehold and not even leaving air between them. It looks like you're about to be suffocated. Such a hug speaks of a strong connection and unwillingness to be apart and fear of losing each other. Sometimes the "trap" may simply be the result of your partner being very scared - for his or your life (but this is just a temporary reaction).

Teddy bear

The most eloquent (and insulting) manifestation of the “one-sided game”: one person sincerely hugs the other, and the other only allows himself to be hugged like a rag doll. This position reveals a huge imbalance in your relationship to each other. So if you notice something like this, then in your relationship there is no smell of true friendship, much less love.

Drawbridge

The main distinguishing feature of such a pseudo-hug (or demonstrative "smack" on the cheek) is the presence of the greatest possible distance between people. Two lean towards each other only with the upper part of the body, remaining at a distance from below. This position speaks eloquently of the presence of strong disagreements and lack of comfort in the relationship. With such a hug, you subconsciously show that none of you really want rapprochement. Which, in other matters, does not matter: some people are simply not destined to be more than just acquaintances.

What do men's hugs say.

Because the way a man hugs a woman, touches her, you can understand what feelings he has for her. Let's check?

Hugs are different - friendly, patronizing, children's, family, love. Each of them has its own value for a person, because thanks to tactile touches we feel our importance, we feel support and express emotions.

A man hugs from behind, folding his hands into a ring on your chest

He's just crazy about you! At the same time, a man feels dominant in a relationship (and this is important for a strong union), he is ready to protect and protect you. He claims his rights to you, considering you "his woman." This means that he will not share you with someone or something else.

But! If a man hugs only this way and nothing else, this indicates his indecision and insecurity in the relationship. Perhaps he is afraid to take the next step, considering you too strong, self-sufficient and impregnable.

Hugging from behind, sticking his nose into your neck

He wants more intimacy with you - emotionally and physically. He thinks you're damn attractive. And yes, he feels like "your man", and you - "his woman."

Hugging from behind, puts his hands on your shoulders or holds your forearms

So a man seems to help you gather your courage, make a decision, pushing you towards something. You most likely have a trusting partnership. But the man has already found himself in your intimate zone, because “entering from the back” means psychological closeness and attraction. If you have a friendly or professional relationship right now, you can easily take it to the next level. It is enough just to turn to face the man - and then he will have to make a decision and take the reins of government into his own hands.

Face to face, stroking my back

He is truly in love with you. The man is ready for a serious relationship. But so far he is not taking decisive steps, expecting reciprocal manifestations of feelings from you.

But! Sometimes a man does this automatically - for example, if he is nervous or thinking about something of his own. If his thoughts are somewhere far away, it will give out his absent look at the moment of hugs.

Face to face, holding your shoulders or forearms

You and your man have a period of confrontation. Right now, at the moment of the hug, he is either deciding something about your relationship, or he is waiting for a reciprocal step or recognition from you. Maybe he suspects you of something. Or maybe he is trying to “remake”, forcing him to change and obey his will. In any case, a distance has formed between you. And if you want to continue your relationship, it must be eliminated as quickly as possible.

Face to face, holding tight

The man clearly has a strong sexual attraction to you. If at the same time his gaze is fixed somewhere far away, it means that he needs only this from you. But if he looks into your eyes, then you can safely talk about falling in love.

Face to face, pressing my forehead against your head

This position indicates deep feelings. Regardless of how long your relationship lasts, your man is ready to give you more than now.

Face to face, pat on the back

He only sees you as a friend. If you had far-reaching plans for this man, you should abandon them. Yes, there are times when love grows out of friendship, but you should not flatter yourself. If you find yourself in a difficult situation, a man may want to cheer or support you, but an unexpected kiss or even "friendly sex" will not start a romantic relationship.

He takes your hand, squeezes and kisses it

This behavior of a man speaks of his loyalty to you as a woman. He admires you, is devoted to you with all his heart, is filled with tenderness and is ready to take care of you. But be prepared for the fact that you are for him, rather, not a sexual object, but admiration and worship (after all, he put you on a pedestal!). Sometimes such relationships can remain at the platonic stage, because a man shows more paternal feelings for you.

Hand in hand, twisting the ring on your hand or stroking, fingering

The man is now "not with you." He is thinking about something, planning something. It is possible that he has problems at work that do not let go. Perhaps he remembers your joint pleasant moments, or maybe he thinks ... how to escape. Touch him, for example, squeeze his hand: this will bring him back to reality from the world of dreams. You can ask what's on his mind. By his reaction, try to understand what is happening to him.

Do not be upset if a man hugs you not the way you would like. Even if now he does not perceive you as an object of the opposite sex, in an instant everything can change.

• Hugs contribute to the production of endorphins - hormones of happiness and pleasure.
• A person needs at least 4 hugs a day for a comfortable existence, 8 for a feeling of support, and 12 for successful growth and development.

We all know that people with different personality types behave differently. For example, walking style can tell a lot about a person. So, confident people have a firm gait, while introverts, as a rule, move quickly with their heads down. But what can be said about the relationship of people while they are hugging each other?

After all, for example, physical contact with the mother is very important for the baby. And it does not lose its significance as a person grows up. That is why hugs are so important to us. Due to the fact that all people are different, there are many varieties of physical contact of this type. And each of them is able to reveal the essence of the relationship between partners. We offer together to consider several types of hugs and find out what they mean.

"Defender"

This kind of hug implies that one of the partners takes care of the safety of the other. So, a person, standing behind, wraps his arms around his partner's waist, as if calming and protecting him. This position demonstrates a high level of trust in relationships and suggests that caring for each other is very important for people.

Stroking on the back

If people allow each other to stroke their back during hugs, then this indicates their confidence in each other. After all, the back is a very vulnerable part of the body. You cannot see her. Therefore, allowing a partner to touch your back speaks of subconscious confidence in him. In addition, this position is intended to remind that people in a couple care about each other.

Pat

This hug reflects a friendly, comradely relationship. One person pats the other on the back, signaling that they are comfortable at the moment. We are not talking about any romantic emotions here. So, such hugs are very often used by parents and children, friends or colleagues. So if someone hugs and pats you on the back, be sure that this person is comfortable in your company.

"A slow dance"

This type of hug has an exclusively romantic interpretation. The partner puts his arm around the partner's waist while she wraps her arms around his neck. Such a "slow dance" is typical of the early period of falling in love. But if you also continue to hug your partner after many years, then this suggests that romance is still not alien to your relationship. With what you can only be congratulated!

Half hug

When one person hugs another, putting a hand on his shoulder, this indicates that these people are connected on an emotional level. And this action is intended only to demonstrate and confirm this connection. Often, good friends, colleagues who work together on some task, etc. hug in this way.

"Lock"

With such a hug, it may seem that the partners are simply afraid to let go of each other. After all, they are literally intertwined, tightly clinging to each other. "Castle" indicates the deepest desire of partners to always be there. After all, if you hug a person tightly, then you probably don’t want to let him go away from you.

"Air" hug

In this case, one of the partners tightly embraces the other with his hands and lifts him into the air, or one of the partners hangs on the other in a jump. Such a hug speaks of passion. And even if people are not connected by deep love feelings, then they are probably drawn to each other in a physical sense. Therefore, if you hug your partner in this way, then think about whether your relationship has any serious future.

"Bridge"

This term characterizes hugs, when two people try to keep a distance between themselves. So, partners hug only the upper body, while they try to keep the lower parts of the body away from each other. This position demonstrates that there is a lot of disagreement in the relationship, or that the partners are dissatisfied with each other. It is possible that people simply do not want to be near each other, so they try to distance themselves as much as possible.

"Eyes to eyes"

This type of hug speaks of the spiritual connection between two people. After all, regardless of how the partners hug each other, it is very important for them to maintain eye contact. It is safe to say about the relationship of such a couple that they are very strong and unshakable. After all, partners perfectly understand and enjoy each other's company.

"Ragdoll"

This is what hugs are called when one of the partners literally squeezes the other, but he, in turn, does not respond in the same way, but limply goes limp like a rag doll. This position demonstrates the deepest imbalance in relations. After all, obviously, one of the partners in the relationship is trying to bring much more than the other. Be that as it may, in this case, both should think.

"Pickpocket"

This type of hug speaks of comfort and ease. In this case, the hands of one or both of the huggers fall into the back pockets of the partner. This position clearly demonstrates that people feel good and calm together. They do not need to work hard on the relationship, as everything is already going great. Most likely, in this case, the partners love and deeply trust each other. And such relationships have every chance of becoming more than serious.

So, we looked at several types of hugs. Some of them are relevant for lovers and people who are in a serious relationship. Other varieties are also found among friends, colleagues, relatives, neighbors, etc. In any case, remember that the way we hug other people reflects our true attitude towards them. It is very important to be able to recognize such signals given by a person on an intuitive level. And if, for example, when you meet, you hug your loved one tightly, and he limply hangs in your arms, then this is an alarming sign. So, it’s worth considering whether he takes you just as seriously and whether he responds with the same feelings to your love. After all, if this is not the case, then perhaps it makes sense to end a hopeless relationship until they finally reach a dead end. But if your loved one always tries to look into your eyes during hugs, then there is nothing to worry about. Surely, he is deeply attached to you and does not want to part with you for anything in the world!

Hugs, caresses, pats on the shoulder, slaps (real or comic). All this can say more than words.

Through physical contact, sympathy can be expressed, or vice versa - hostility. It can be used to attract attention or convey some kind of emotion.

Also, there are touches associated with professional activities (for example, a visit to a doctor or a hairdresser), sports contacts, dance, etc. In general, mutual physical contact is a normal and very common phenomenon, whatever it may be, it has a deep impact on our perception, so it is important to understand the meaning of touch.

Touch is important in every phase of life. Caressing an infant in the first months of his life, when verbal language is not yet available, lays the foundation for the perception of the world of relationships in his mind. Then, over the years, the role of this non-verbal form of communication begins to unfold in its entire spectrum. First, the division of physical contacts into positive and negative becomes noticeable. On the one hand, touch can mean a connection, such as holding a hand or arm. On the other hand, it may express a desire to keep a distance, for example, a push.

As for positive touches, according to their meanings, the English anthropologist Desmont Morris divided them into 14 main types.

The main types of positive touch

A formal greeting indicating predisposition. The signal for predisposition is enhanced if the usual shaking of the right hands is complemented by the application of the left hand, or by touching the partner's shoulder with the left hand.	A signal indicating an intimate relationship between partners (sometimes a courtship process). A heterosexual gesture, as the man's hand is close to the woman's genitals.
A gesture "reserved" by couples in love. Young people often practice it in public, others in a more intimate setting, or also in public, but in particularly "pathetic" moments (for example, after a long separation).	It means unconditional trust, as it involves hand access to one of the most vulnerable parts of the body. Thus, even the most insignificant hand-head contact signals a close connection.
A gesture similar in meaning to a kiss on the lips. Practiced mainly by young couples. It signals an absolute desire to be in constant contact, isolated from the environment.	The sexual side of the relationship of partners, since caresses are part of erotic foreplay. In public, affection sends a signal of close bonding to others.
Parents hold the child in their arms, or the girl sits in the arms of the guy. A gesture of support. In adults, it is practiced only when necessary to help.	feign attack Pushes, blows, kicks, performed in a comic manner that does not provoke pain. They do not mean aggression, but friendship. Sometimes - the only way to demonstrate the "cordiality" of the relationship in guys and men.
Accompanying contact One leads the other lightly hugging the shoulders, or supporting the hand. Controlling-patronizing gesture.	A common gesture that means praise, friendship, support .. Sometimes it has a comic meaning: “Hmm .. What a great fellow you are!”
The most common gesture, meaning a connection between partners. It has a symbolic meaning of protection and possession. It is performed in public to convey its meaning to everyone.	Common in children with parents and in lovers. In adults, this is a gesture of sexual connection or a ritual symbol of "break-reunion".
Predominantly male gesture. Almost the only socially accepted way to express a friendly bond between men through physical contact.	In childhood, this kind of touch is needed to support the child learning to walk, as well as to protect him. In adults, it acquires the meaning of mutual connection.

There are also friendly touches, sometimes perhaps unconscious. Various studies show that it is most pleasant for us to remember those meetings during which we were touched, and as less consciously as possible.

Touching can be an expression of dominance: two are talking, and one, from time to time, sticks a finger in the chest of the other. Or one put his hand on the other's shoulder, thus expressing his higher status. Indeed, usually a person of higher rank gives rise to physical contact: the boss puts his hand patronizingly on the shoulder of a subordinate, the old man can pat the child on the cheek, and more often men (as the dominant sex) touch women first.

Women are more trusting in relationships than men. Quite often you can see girls holding each other's hands, or how one woman straightens another's hair.

Men also touch each other, but according to their own strict rules. These are welcome handshakes, friendly brawls. If the touch goes beyond certain limits, this may be a sign of homosexuality.

But touch is not just for communication. Studies show that physical contact is the key to normal mental development. For example, primate babies raised in isolation, not touched or licked by their mother, remained sexually immature, and some did not even attempt mating. If a newborn kitten closes one eye for several weeks, he will never learn to see them. For many organs it is not enough just to be healthy, they still have to learn how to function.

The same thing happens with human children. A child who has received a sufficient amount of maternal and paternal affection will grow up more mature mentally and sexually. All sexual contacts between adults are based somewhere in their depths on the experience of physical contact with parents acquired in early childhood.

The meaning of touch is also manifested in the function of consolation. With their help, we want to strengthen relationships that sometimes come under severe scrutiny. Therefore, we touch each other more at the moment of any grief, after the passage of a dangerous situation, before and after a long parting. In such situations, we especially feel the need for connection, and through gestures of touch, we celebrate the moment.

Our tendency to touch “our own kind” in difficult moments is also dictated by physiological reasons. Stimulated skin plays a major role in creating a sense of well-being. Some receptors, stimulated in a certain way, send a signal to the pituitary gland, where, after a series of chemical reactions, the so-called endogenous morphine is released, which makes us feel good. These same substances are also released during emergency situations, such as during childbirth or some kind of injury, to reduce pain.

Touch language

Every day we have physical contacts, desirable and not so much. The language of touch has its own meaning. Check out a concise dictionary of this complex language..

Girl, let me touch you?!

The diagram shows parts of the body that have a different “availability factor” for others.

• Unpainted body parts are at the disposal of almost everyone around this girl. Hands are available for contact when greeting or for friendly "pats" and the like. The face is available with a kiss on the cheek, for example.
• Green indicates parts of the body that can only be touched in public by people from her inner circle - this is her partner or parents (hair, neck, area near the chest, sides, knees).
• "Forbidden" body parts are indicated in blue. Available only for a partner in an intimate setting.

Sometimes these laws can be broken. At the appointment with a doctor, masseur, etc. Or, for example, a shoe seller has the right to touch the feet of buyers.

Non-verbal cues in communication

Hold on! I'm attacking!!! Light punches, throat grabs, generally comic aggression. This type of communication is common among guys. Usually accompanied by signals accepted in a friendly environment - laughter, jokes, active movements. However, if friendly signals are late, or actions are too aggressive, then the reaction may be negative.

Does body language really work and even hugs have a deep meaning?

Often men convey their feelings not with words, but with actions. For example, hugs. Does your man like to cuddle tightly to him or pulls him by the waist? I wonder what his habits will say!

hugs from behind

Is it when a man likes to slowly approach from behind, from the back and hugs his shoulders so that his hands then end up in front, at chest level? Then he buries his face in the top of his head or snorts in his ear (optional).

Know that these are signs of love. Psychologists are sure that with such hugs a man unconsciously shows the depth and seriousness of his intentions.

However, there is another clarification here - if you have only such hugs in a couple, perhaps the man is not sure of you, he is afraid of indifference. Therefore, do not rush to take the initiative.

Hands on the back

Hugging in front, does he like to stroke your back? It means that he has deep, strong feelings and serious intentions. In addition, such caress has an intimate character.

Perhaps soon you will get closer. However, here you also need to look at the mood of the hugging man. Sometimes such hugs are a way to get support.

Your partner is silent, does not complain and is not used to talking about problems, but know that if he is upset and hugged, then he needs warmth and support.

This is good, it turns out, he is sure that you are a close and dear person in front of whom you can show weakness and from whom you can seek support. A sign of trust, which is important for a relationship.

Close hugs, whole body

A man grabs you, then presses tightly, with his whole body? Trying to hug him tighter, using his hands?

Yes, he demonstrates a willingness to move to another, new stage in the relationship.

A man conveys the desire to continue the evening already in the bedroom with the language of his body.

Watch carefully here: if, hugging, he lightly touches the top of your head with his forehead, then your relationship is not just a fleeting affair. Watch it always works.

friendly clapping

A man hugs, while patting you lightly? Shoulders or back. Most likely, these are ordinary friendly hugs. So sometimes men hug each other.

You are just a friend to him, a faithful friend or a cheerful companion. Hardly a girlfriend or partner.

He demonstrates with hugs that there is no relationship between you now and there is no connection.

However, if this type of hug was only a one-time manifestation, then it is too early to despair.

Perhaps then he only wanted to provide support or was busy. Try to wait for time and improve the moment, hug again.