About women and different sexual partners. How the number of sexual partners affects sexuality

The more sexual partners a woman has, the less successful she is.
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This material will be about what to do with those connections that a woman has acquired over her life, having sexual relations with different men. The article is very tough and unpleasant, so I ask everyone who was touched by this material not to express their negative point of view, only thanks or clear questions.
So, a brief history of the issue. I want to emphasize that the female body makes a new person, actually playing God, with just one single cell of the male seed, the function of which is to carry the “genetic material of a man” (Wiki).

The fact that a woman is so sensitive to the male gene is a well-known scientific fact that is studied in school. But you, dear women, basking in the arms of another eloquent, and sometimes not very macho, for some reason do not want to remember this. But in any university of agriculture or in any animal breeding club they also know that it is not at all necessary for a female animal to become pregnant in order to forever keep the gene of any of the males with whom she has intercourse.

First time about the phenomenon telegony I learned from a breeder of white doves for weddings. He complained that if a pigeon of any other color lives in a cage with white female pigeons for some time, then the offspring will never be pure white. Now I will not tell you how many tedious hours have been spent studying this topic. And, of course, in birds, animals and people, everything happens much differently.

However, the essence remains simple - any man who has been in a woman remains there for a long time or forever.

In other words, all your lovers are now part of your consciousness and you don't even realize it. However, this affects actions, performance, success, and so on.

Today we’ll talk about what to do if your parents didn’t explain that you are the most worthy and you need to sleep only with the best and it is desirable that there are fewer of them in life than fingers on one hand. In general, about sexual turbulent past.

I hope that readers should not retell all my previous materials about how sexual partners take forever from a woman her primordial energy abilities. That every man affects her financial situation, health and family. That when a man and a woman have sex, they exchange karmas very strongly and it is more beneficial for a man, but for a woman, only if a man can give her more than he takes.

The most honest answer to the question - how to get rid of the energy binding of former lovers, "reset", regain its former strength, and so on - no way.

There is no way you can get back what you have lost. If you smashed your phone against a wall in a fit of anger or developed cirrhosis of the liver from an appropriate lifestyle, then you will not be able to restore it to its original state. Such a phone or such a broken person is easier to replace, which is what nature is trying to do. Nature doesn't care - there are seven billion of us, nature is trying weed out those who do not appreciate her and themselves.

Therefore, immediately pull yourself together - no higher powers will help if you sincerely repent. Therefore, it is better to keep suffering and tears to yourself. However, there are some tools that can improve the situation as much as possible. More about them.

- The most powerful and effective way to get rid of the unwanted gene code of not the best lovers is ... to replace it with a quality one. Yes, no matter how paradoxical it may sound, but marriage or a long romance with a very strong and outstanding man in some way can work wonders. And here the cruelty of nature works into your hands - a stronger gene affects you more than a weaker one.

The owner of such a gene is visible to the naked eye - he is a leader, Alpha male, successful in something, outstanding, smart, strong and so on. In what exactly his strength will be manifested - in intelligence or reflexes, matters for each individual woman. After all, if you are a very creative person in the horoscope, then most likely only a man who is also a creative figure in his destiny will be able to put things in order in your life and brains. Therefore, feel free to take a look at the theater director or producer and go ahead. And to be honest, even without my recommendations in the subconscious, you looked at him. Since the female body is always trying to get along with the best. Therefore, surgeons are so fond of nurses, professors of their students, how many bearded anecdotes we know about the relationship between the boss and the secretary, I generally keep quiet.

- Accumulate energy. The problem is that a successful man has the right to choose women for himself and, whether you like it or not, he has a certain flair or scent for how energetically strong a woman is. Here I want to immediately make a very important remark.

It happens that virgin by nature, she cannot give even a tenth or even a hundredth of what a shakk (energetically strong) woman can give a man.

I personally know girls who have had more than ten sexual partners, and this did not stop them from making a millionaire out of their husband. However, such women, like alpha males, are also seen and heard from afar, and they are absolutely always in great demand. Because of what, in fact, they often lose themselves in endless fans.

If you just ended a romance, even if it was a short one, don't rush to look for the next one. Now you are devastated. So fill yourself up. In simple terms, take yourself six months, a year sex vacation. And don't tell me about health. Should have thought about this earlier.

- Completely forget. This rule is so important that I wanted to put it first. Everything is simple here - you feed men through memories of them. Taoists say “energy follows attention”. Therefore, all former lovers - in black list on Facebook, on WhatsApp, and wherever else they are found. Except for those who were worthy men (see point 1). If you had a connection with the deputy chairman of the bank or with a person whose name is heard by hundreds of people, then such a channel will be more beneficial to you. No congratulations, no holidays with an ex-boyfriend, no friendly trips to restaurants, movies, and so on. As soon as you have at least a little energy, you immediately get a call or a message in the messenger from the former. From your first intimate date, an invisible connection is formed between you and the man receives a notification straight into his preoccupied head “hey! Why don't you call Katya today? If you refused, then after some time an insult will follow, or any other way to make you think and remember about it. Therefore, learn not to think about irritants, especially the former ones. Better yet, cut off all communications.

- Sports. Your genes are your body. The better your body is, the better your brain is. I will tell you more, the ancient texts state that through the heating of the body and sweat, the spirit of the former lover leaves the female body. Of course, this is not a panacea, but dancing, Pilates and saunas will never be superfluous in this matter. This also includes everything that we refer to as a healthy lifestyle. If the acid-base balance is more alkaline than acidic, if the intestines are functioning normally, and you regularly cleanse your body of toxins, while not being nervous (see point 3), then slowly but surely, you will become more, and "them" will become less .

- Well, the most difficult and most mystical way is to love. To be loved is a great happiness, and to love is a great gift. A person who knows how to love awakens a cleansing fire in himself, which burns all the bad karmas that you have accumulated in casual and not very relationships, and all the thoughts that used to corrode and destroy you. To love does not mean to have. Personally, I am a strong owner and for me these concepts are the same. But I'm a man and for me the accumulation of connections is very beneficial on the contrary. But a woman, in order to transform her consciousness, needs to learn to love absolutely.

It could be a man, it could be a child, it could be a job, it could be a guru, it could even be a project or some kind of religious attraction. There is a simple scientific explanation here, the more concentrated you are, the more you direct energy to the object of love. And love is a kind of laser gun for the rest of your power.

Therefore, if you have had many sexual partners, if you continue to sleep with losers and think that after the next sex you will go to some kind of telegony practice in a women's circle and upgrade, if you are immersed in TV shows, and not in self-development and taking care of your health , if you communicate with at least one of the former and at the same time think that the world owes you something else, then do not be surprised that there is not enough money in your wallet. And each new gentleman is again “not right”.

They ask me - how much is "a lot of sexual partners"? This is, of course, a relative question. The Kamasutra states that if a woman had at least five men, she is no longer able to independently create a successful person from a man. And from my experience I will say that this cruel statement is statistically confirmed.

However, as I said earlier, there are exceptions. First, a woman can be very strong. Yes, of course, she will suffer, dreaming of billions, counting her miserable millions, but all the same, she can be stronger than an army of mistresses. As I said earlier, if all your partners are outstanding men, then the opposite is possible. To spite the Kama Sutra, your business will go up. Therefore, I ask you to be prudent and selective in your sexual relations. Remember, if you do not respect yourself and your body, then the same attitude will be towards you from the outside. Every woman is an inexhaustible source of strength and inspiration for a man while she is pure, ancient texts say. And the modern rule sounds much simpler and tougher: "A woman is like a car - the more owners she had, the cheaper she is."

Which literally translates as "far away". This concept, first proposed by Aristotle, implies that the first sexual partner of a woman (or female) leaves an indelible imprint on the appearance and health of her future offspring, even if the father of these offspring is a completely different man or male.

The idea of ​​telegony was discarded at the beginning of the 20th century with the development of the science of genetics, although it is still popular in religious circles. Now, the controversial theory is back in the scientific world: a team of scientists has demonstrated that past sexual partners of female flies can affect the appearance of her future offspring, at least in flies of the Neriidae family.

A team of entomologists from the University of New South Wales in Australia, led by Dr. Angela Crean and Professor Russell Bonduriansky, set out to test the ancient hypothesis. The researchers mated female flies with males of different sizes and found that the body size of the offspring is determined by the size of the first male with whom the female mated, and not at all the second, from which they actually gave birth to offspring.

“Our discovery complicates all scientific understanding of how anatomical characteristics are passed down from generation to generation, and also opens up entirely new possibilities for future research. Nature has once again shown us how little we know about it,” says Crean, lead author this study.

The researchers believe that the effect is due to molecules in the seminal fluid of the first sexual partner, which are absorbed by the immature eggs of the female, and then affect the development of her future offspring. Crean and her colleagues report this in their article published in the journal Ecology Letters.

The experiment went as follows. The entomologists fed the male flies in different ways: one group was given a highly nutritious diet, which caused them to grow larger, while the other "dieted" foods with low nutritional value. Then, when the difference in the size of the body of the insects became noticeable, the males were mated with the females several times.

Australian flies brought back the intrigue in the confrontation between classical genetics and the idea of ​​telegony proposed by Aristotle.

(photo by Russell Bonduriansky).

Later, when the females were fully mature, they again mated with either large or small males. When offspring were born, scientists carefully studied the "family" history of each fly.

“We realized that, despite the fact that the offspring was fathered by the second sexual partner, the body size of the offspring corresponded exactly to the size of the first male that the female mated with when she was still immature,” says Crean.

Genetics, of course, explains many of the mysteries of the body, but some aspects of inheritance still remain a mystery. Crean and her colleagues believe that the effect they observed is on the list of these aspects.

So, for example, scientists know that in addition to the pure genetic information that parents pass on to children, there are also environmental factors that influenced the parent's body, and now affect the appearance and health of children. In flies, for example, this is good nutrition: the better the larva fed, the larger offspring it will have in the future.

Crean notes in a press release that science has yet to test this same idea in other animal species and conditions. But so far, no one excludes the possibility that the results of this experiment may fit into the error.

Chapter 16

The concept of partnership is based on the principles of interaction. It implies that partners - a man and a woman - constitute, as it were, a closed system in which sexual disorders develop, increase or disappear. From these positions, sexologists consider both partners as a "patient", as a whole, which should be treated.

In partnership, the personality (attitudes and behavior) of both partners, their interaction, their social roles, as well as a set of norms recognized by society and regulating the relationship of partners play a role.

Interpersonal relationships are made up of an assessment of the partner's personality, requirements for a partner and feelings for him.

The specific behavior of the sexual partner is evaluated by the second partner through the prism of his own ideals, ideas, desires and requirements.

The sum of these factors determines the level of acceptability of the partner's sexual behavior and the degree of satisfaction due to his sexual activity.

An emotional attitude towards a partner is a clear indicator of his attractiveness. This determines the sensual attitude towards the partner, and the so-called apperception is important - that is, the reciprocal feelings of the partner.

The main principle on which a creative partnership is based is awareness of the needs and expectations of each other and the desire to satisfy and justify them as much as possible. In such a partnership, a special phenomenon arises - a person is spiritually enriched by what he does for another person - in other words, this is a manifestation of altruism, in this case, sexual.

Based on the concept of a partnership, sex therapists consider egoism (in this case, sexual) as a sign of deviation (deviation), and even perversion (perversion) on the grounds that it not only disrupts sexual contacts, but also prevents the establishment of deep interpersonal ties.

Among couples who turn to sexologists and psychiatrists, complaints about the lack of sexual satisfaction are most common.

As K. Imelinsky writes, psychosexual disorders in most cases are “paired”, that is, they develop within the framework of a specific union, a couple that includes a man and a woman. These violations reflect deviations in the partnership, most often not only in the aspect of psychosexual relations, but also in their entire life together and the totality of the relationship between a man and a woman.

A successful partnership depends on the right choice of a partner of the opposite sex. And here we are talking not so much about the conformity of the anatomical parameters of the genital organs (although psychosexual disorders can occur on this basis), but about the mental, and especially emotional conformity of the partners. The latter is associated with a general assessment of the partner as a person, erotic experiences and the whole complex of sensations and reactions associated with a joint sexual life.

Any shortcomings in the mental, emotional and physical conformity of a man and a woman to each other, which lead to a violation of the harmony of the sexual life of a partner couple, are called sexual disharmony.

The sexual disharmony of a married couple is one of the main reasons for the decrease or lack of sexual desire in one of the partners or both. Most often, violations of sexual desire due to sexual disharmony occur in women.

The lack of mental harmony leads to a negative assessment of sexual intercourse by the partner. And if he has a negative attitude towards intimacy, then this is reflected in his words, facial expressions, expression of feelings and sexual behavior during sexual intercourse. This may affect the other partner as well.

The lack of sexual harmony is expressed in the fact that the experiences of a partner, instead of becoming a strong erotic irritant for a man, become an erotic brake for him.

As a result of the lack of sexual harmony, there is a decrease in the need for sexual intercourse and the desire for intimacy, emotional stress during sexual intercourse, which leads to a decrease in sexual capabilities during sexual intercourse in men - a decrease in erection or a complete absence of erection.

In the process of partnership development, K. Imelinsky distinguishes 3 phases:

1. If partners are connected by a deep feeling and they retain erotic attraction for each other, and their interpersonal relationships are developing favorably, then this will contribute to the emergence of vivid emotional experiences during any contacts between partners, especially during sexual ones. In many cases, it is sexual contacts between partners that prevail over all other types of communication.

2. When the period of the initial maximum rise associated with sensuality passes, the intensity of erotic emotions between partners decreases.

3. The phase of erotic indifference, during which the partner no longer causes a vivid erotic desire, and often excludes him altogether or even causes a reluctance to enter into any erotic contacts with him. This phase is the result of emotional and psychological changes that occur when two people live together for a long time and the replacement of the feeling of erotic love by other (positive and negative) feelings.

Of course, the more negative feelings a partner causes, the more conflicts and mutual misunderstanding between partners, the stronger the erotic indifference and the more pronounced the disorders of sexual desire.

The decrease or loss of erotic attractiveness (attractiveness) leads to the manifestation of all the above reactions that are characteristic of the lack of sexual harmony. They can increase gradually, and with a successful selection of partners, they can appear only in old age.

And with an unsuccessful selection of a partner and sexual disharmony, a married couple begins their sexual life immediately from the 3rd phase.

Between these two extremes, there can be various intermediate options. For example, the choice of a partner was successful, but family life, for some reason, developed unfavorably, which accelerated the development of sexual disharmony.

According to the teachings of the Tao of Love, the only time that making love can harm a woman, regardless of her age, is if her partner is inexperienced and constantly leaves her unsatisfied. Therefore, the Tao of love regards the satisfaction of a woman as one of its cardinal principles.

The concept of "sexual harmony" has both a physiological and a psychological side. In this chapter, attention will be paid to many of the problems that affect the normal relationship between a man and a woman.

Sexual and psychological relationships have a dual causal relationship - on the one hand, sex affects the relationship between partners, and on the other hand, their interpersonal problems affect their sex life.

It often happens that sexual disharmony is, as it were, a side effect of psychological discord between spouses, because of which their intimate life is also violated, but they themselves believe that the reason for their mutual irritation and dissatisfaction with each other lies in their sexual dissatisfaction.

And it happens the other way around - dissatisfaction with sexual life causes frustration - a feeling of mental tension, mental discomfort, and hence family quarrels, minor skirmishes that gradually accumulate, and the spouses consider their life in marriage unbearable.

That is, both components of family relationships - psychological and sexual - are closely related and mutually influence each other. Therefore, in this book, all aspects of marital relations will be considered in detail.

Due to the lack of sexual harmony, many marriages break up. Moreover, the spouses themselves may not be aware of the true reason. A wife who does not experience an orgasm and is sexually unsatisfied loses interest in sexual intimacy and begins to shy away from it. The husband is unhappy with this. Mutual sexual dissatisfaction is manifested indirectly in a bad mood, irritability, dissatisfaction with each other, nitpicking. Quarrels and even major scandals with mutual accusations arise over trifles. In a quarrel, spouses can recall to each other all their shortcomings and the grievances they caused. And during a divorce, it seems to both that the reason for their quarrels is precisely these shortcomings, resentments and conflicts, although the true reason lies in the lack of sexual harmony.

Clinical example

Lyudmila K., 27 years old, married, two children, higher education, merchandiser by profession. She complained about the lack of sexual satisfaction.

Cheerful, "sociable" by nature, easy to get acquainted with and makes friends, used to be calm, but in recent years she has become quick-tempered, irritable, often cries, her mood is always depressed.

She loves her husband, is burdened by their quarrels, does not want to lose him, but in recent years, married life has turned into a continuous chain of small and large scandals for any reason.

Lyudmila herself is very worried about quarrels, almost always the first to go to reconciliation. She understands that she cannot continue like this, clashes with her husband take place in front of the children, they get scared and cry, wake up at night, the youngest daughter has a stutter. But she blames herself for everything, considers herself "cold" and frigid.

Menses from the age of 14, moderate, painful. Sexual life from the age of 17, with one of the teachers at the institute. Defloration endured painfully, there was no orgasm. But later she began to experience an orgasm with her lover during cunnilingus (oral caresses), but this rarely happened.

The lover was married, he was not going to divorce his wife, he regarded their relationship as a “light affair”. They met for 1 year, and when she met her current husband, she broke up with her lover.

There were 6 pregnancies, of which 3 births (one child was born stillborn) and 3 abortions, two of them - from a lover, one abortion - from her husband. In recent years, she has put an intrauterine device, and pregnancy does not occur.

I have never had an orgasm with my husband. In sexual terms, he was always very active, temperamental, insatiable, in the early years he had intercourse several times a night.

This burdened Lyudmila, because after several sexual intercourses she had unpleasant sensations in the genital area, soreness, a feeling of swelling, burning and swelling.

But even in the late stages of pregnancy, her husband did not leave her alone, committed intercourse in the position on her side, although she said more than once that this was dangerous and could provoke premature birth.

During the first birth, she had ruptures of the perineum, they had stitches. After her return from the hospital, her husband said that he was very bored and on the very first day he tried to persuade her, but Lyudmila categorically objected, since she was in pain even without coitus, and there could be no talk of sexual intercourse.

They constantly quarreled, the husband insisted, Lyudmila refused, and this went on for about a month. Then the sexual life resumed, but still Lyudmila did not have an orgasm, and already after the first sexual intercourse there was pain in the genital area.

She repeatedly told her husband about this, but he brushed it off, saying that she simply did not have enough lubrication, this caused strong friction, and although he liked it so “dry” even more, since it created the feeling of sexual intercourse with a virgin, but Lyudmila must use the cream and everything will be fine.

When using the cream, it became better, but if there were several sexual intercourses during the night, then again there was pain, burning and swelling. Sometimes Lyudmila even groaned in pain during repeated intercourse, but this did not stop her husband. Several times, unable to bear it, she abruptly stopped sexual intercourse, got up and went to sleep in the children's room.

Many times they had quarrels and conversations on this topic, Lyudmila tried to explain everything to her husband, but he stated that all this was typical female tricks, before the wedding she behaved differently because she allegedly wanted to “lure him” and “marry on herself," and now shies away from intimacy, hoping that she "tied him with the help of children."

The husband even threatened that he would take a mistress or several mistresses if she continued to behave in the same passive way and refuse him intimacy. Lyudmila cried and agreed to intimacy once again, but again everything was repeated.

In the end, the husband carried out his threat and acquired a mistress, which he informed Lyudmila about. He called her "frigid" and said that he had found a temperamental partner in his mistress and was thinking about a divorce.

In response, Lyudmila, unable to stand it, said that with her former lover, unlike her husband, she experienced an orgasm during oral sex, and her husband does not caress her like that, since he is "selfish in bed", he only cares about his own pleasure, and not about her, and so on.

The husband slapped her, although it had never come to that before, called her obscene words and said that he would never “follow her whims”, and if she is so “defective”, then let her buy a vibrator and satisfy herself, and he won't do it.

They had a big quarrel, and the husband left home, saying that he was leaving her, since she was not only a “frigid”, but also a hysterical and brawler, and he did not intend to endure her character anymore.

In complete desperation, the woman asked for advice. After the conversation and recommendations, she reconciled with her husband and persuaded him to come to the conversation with her. At first, he flatly refused, saying that it was her problem, not his, he was sexually all right and even too much, but then reluctantly, but agreed.

Several conversations were held. Lyudmila's husband, despite the threats of divorce, was not going to leave her, because he loves both his wife and daughters, but he talked about a divorce in order to "scare" her and change her attitude.

Despite his temperament and high potency, his attitude to the technique of sexual intercourse is rather primitive, he believes that with a good erection, sufficient size of the penis and duration of sexual intercourse, any woman, if she is not frigid, should experience an orgasm.

He believed that it provided sufficient stimulation, and that foreplay took a lot of time.

At first, he reacted extremely negatively to the advice to resort to oral sex in order to save his wife from traumatizing the genital organs, saying that he did not represent oral sex with his wife. He motivated it like this: “Prostitutes do this, and I love and respect my wife, a decent woman will never agree to this.”

But after several conversations, he reacted favorably to the possibility of alternating oral sex with ordinary sexual intercourse, saying that “I haven’t tried it with my wife, but you can try.” I also agreed to cunnilingus, but not immediately.

This couple came to the conversation several more times, and their sexual and family life returned to normal.

The husband has completely changed, he says that he loves Lyudmila even more, and everything that is done is for the better. She also cheered up and even prettier. After cunnilingus regularly experiences orgasms. The husband jokes that now they have changed places - not he is to her, but she “sticks” to him.

The prognosis is favorable.

The fact that many couples are not satisfied with their sexual relationships is due to many reasons. Some of them are the fault of women, but some are the fault of men, even if they are all right with potency.

Sexual arousal in a man occurs much faster than in a woman - a man saw an erotic scene on TV, read an erotic novel, or saw a naked woman in an erotic magazine - and desire can flare up immediately. And he demands from his constant sexual partner the immediate realization of his desire.

And a woman cannot “start up with a half turn”, like a man, and immediately go towards his desire. Maybe at this moment her thoughts are completely different, she is upset or preoccupied with something, and modern women have more worries than they need. Not every woman is able to immediately switch from her problems to sexual ones.

Men believe that their demands for the regular performance of "marital duty" are normal, but the same right, in their opinion, does not apply to wives. Therefore, the husband is indignant if the wife is “always not enough”, and she constantly “sticks” to her husband with demands for intimacy.

Perhaps not so often a wife “sticks” to her husband, but “sticks” at the very moment when the husband does not want intimacy. Or he doesn't satisfy her enough.

And when the opposite is true, and the husband at the wrong moment persuades his wife to have sexual intercourse, and, moreover, very persistently, and is very offended and even angry if she refuses him, then this, from the position of a man, is normal.

The opinion that there are women in the world who are always ready for sexual contact is deeply erroneous. Women want intimacy exactly when they want it, not when a man wants it.

Some women want sexual intimacy more often, others less often, but for them their own desire is no less important than the desire for intimate relationships for a man.

In matters of gender, there is no dominant party. A husband can realize his strength, character and dominance in his social, professional or other activities, and when it comes to sex, then the interests of both parties are equal, and a man has no preferential rights over a woman.

But a woman should also take into account the interests of her sexual partner, meeting him halfway, remembering that with long breaks in sexual activity, a man's potency may decrease, and avoid such long breaks if she is healthy.

Of course, the partner must also take into account the interests of the woman, women's ailments or bad mood and not allow "voluntary rape", which is often in married couples.

From many men one has to hear how they say in a dismissive tone that their wife has some kind of gynecological disease. They do not even try to understand which one, saying that the wife "is sick with something for women."

But if men had to change in this regard with a woman even for a short time and experience what many women who suffer from gynecological diseases have to experience, perhaps they would then change their dismissive attitude towards women's diseases.

Unfortunately, in our country, despite the loud slogans about the need to take care of the health of women and children, in fact, the attitude towards this problem leaves much to be desired.

No other country has as many abortions as ours. In other countries, abortion is an extraordinary event in the life of the whole family, and not just women, and they treat it as a serious operation, the woman stays in the clinic for several days, she is observed by gynecologists for a long time after the abortion in order to avoid complications.

There is no fault of our women in having a large number of abortions. Contraception (protection from pregnancy) for many years in our country was at such a primitive level, limited to mechanical means, ointments or several hormonal drugs that cause many side effects - that our compatriots could not be protected without harming their own health or sexual relations.

Many of our compatriots took the risk of becoming pregnant so as not to deprive a man of full sensations, and refused to use condoms.

If at least one man at least once in his life experienced what an abortion without anesthesia is, “on the live”, and told others about it, perhaps this could change a lot. And abortion without anesthesia in our country is a common occurrence.

And you know, dear men, what the medical staff of gynecological departments not so rarely says to a woman when she screams in pain: “She knew how to live a sexual life, know how to endure”! Do you want to be in her place? After all, not only the woman lived a sexual life, but also her partner, and this severe suffering falls only to one woman.

Therefore, many women, experiencing fear of a possible pregnancy and the need for such a painful way to terminate it, cannot get rid of this fear during sexual intercourse, since none of the modern contraceptives gives an absolute guarantee. During intercourse, women are constrained, tense, unable to relax and experience pleasure, which inevitably affects sexual arousal.

The lack of an orgasm and the fear of getting pregnant encourages many women to avoid sexual intimacy. Or they are forced to agree, only yielding to a partner, so as not to push him away with their refusal and not to lose him, fearing that he, being dissatisfied with her constant refusals, will seek sexual satisfaction with other women. But during intercourse, they do not experience pleasant sensations, but only tensely wait for it to end as soon as possible.

In addition, due to frequent abortions, almost every woman subsequently develops many gynecological diseases - chronic adnexitis, endometritis, cervicitis and others. They occur with exacerbations, when a woman experiences severe pain. And in this state, a woman, of course, has no desire for intimacy. It is difficult to find a woman over 25 in our country who does not have problems with gynecology. And this is directly related to sexual problems.

There is no fault of women when they refuse sexual intimacy due to gynecological diseases. When our medicine reaches the level of Western medicine, then, hopefully, we will have more healthy women who will be full-fledged sexual partners. And this is already the concern and duty of men - it is they who in the government and parliament allocate meager amounts for health care. So the prospects for a successful resolution of this problem in our women are not yet foreseen.

Therefore, a man must necessarily take into account purely female diseases and ailments, and not treat them with contempt or irritation due to the fact that a woman experiencing malaise and pain again avoids sexual intercourse. And besides, it is the man who must take care that the partner does not have an unwanted pregnancy that will require an abortion. Which method of contraception is suitable for this woman, the doctor should also recommend.

For a normal sexual life, in addition to the above, the partner must take into account the sexual needs of the woman. This is also in his interest.

Nothing excites a man more than the sight of a woman having a real (and not demonstrated, feigned) orgasm. In the man himself, the orgasm is much more intense.

In addition, it gives a man self-confidence, in his sexual abilities, if he gives pleasure to his partner.

If a woman experiences an orgasm every time during coitus, and even if not every time, but often enough, then she will not shy away from sexual intimacy, since for her an orgasm is the same pleasure as for a man, not as sharp, but but longer.

No wonder the great Napoleon dreamed at least once in his life to experience the same orgasm as a woman.

And some women can experience several orgasms during one sexual intercourse.

If a woman constantly avoids intimate relationships, then one should not “blame with a sore head on a healthy one”, calling her “frigid”.

In most cases, it is the man, not her, who is to blame for the lack of arousal of a woman and her lack of orgasm. Therefore, it is useful for a man to think about why the partner does not crave intimacy, but on the contrary, avoids it.

If there is no stage of preliminary sexual caresses, then in such a short period of time that sexual intercourse itself lasts, the woman does not have time to be excited enough to experience an orgasm. This time is not enough even for the swelling and elasticity of her genitals to occur, their moistening with a secret (lubricant) secreted by special glands, and a woman may experience pain during intercourse.

Even if a woman pretends to have an orgasm, groans and moans, any experienced man will always determine whether this is true or just an imitation. During orgasm in women, there is a rhythmic peristaltic contraction of the muscles of the vagina, uterus, and even abdominal muscles, and it is impossible not to notice this.

Although, of course, most women, like men, are not silent during orgasm, however, they roll up in a piercing cry, convulse for half an hour and only hysterics or women imitating an orgasm dig their nails into their partner in order to please their partner with this “performance” and give it confidence that he is a "real man".

A normal man who is interested in his partner is able to get a woman to meet his desire, even if five minutes ago she did not think about sexual intimacy.

And the man who believes that a woman is able to become excited and delighted with the mere sight of his erect penis, and even more so, experience an orgasm when he does nothing to satisfy her, risks losing his partner.

Some husbands complain that before the wedding, the wife was much more sexually active, never refused intimacy, she took the initiative and organized their meetings, and now she has become “cold” and indifferent to sex, constantly avoiding intimacy.

There are many reasons for this, and it's amazing how men themselves do not understand this.

First, these are the above reasons. If our women had fewer worries and household chores, and they would have the opportunity to lie on the sofa in a beautiful peignoir, with perfect manicure, hair and makeup, leafing through some erotic magazine or just thinking about something pleasant, they would have sexual desire would be much more often than when she thinks that there is nothing left before the salary, and it is still unknown whether they will give it, and the eldest son should be given money for school tomorrow, and the youngest coughs, and so on. I think that any woman will continue this list, and it will turn out to be quite long. Before sex!

But even the most preoccupied woman with everyday problems can be set up by a loving and attentive man for sex if he is gentle and affectionate with her.

Secondly, after the wedding, not only for a man, but also for a woman, the effect of novelty disappears. A permanent sexual partner is good for a woman only if he is a good partner. And if he does not satisfy her, then she loses interest in sexual intimacy, or she wants new sexual contacts with other partners.

The absence of the novelty effect is also manifested in the fact that over time, the methods of sexual intercourse among spouses who are in a long-term marriage become more and more monotonous and the sexual intercourse itself takes less and less time.

And this is again the fault, first of all, of men. It is they who, if they have a desire, try to realize it as soon as possible, without preliminary sexual caresses, which are so necessary for a woman, or by limiting themselves to a few kisses.

Every man, if he tries, can remember that before marriage or in the first months of marriage, the preliminary sexual games were much longer and more varied, on his initiative or mutually.

And in a long-term marriage, foreplay takes less and less time, which is not enough for the wife to experience sufficient sexual arousal.

Thirdly, before marriage, some girls do not deny their partner intimacy or show sexual activity themselves because they are trying to attract or retain a partner. And when they get married, they believe that the husband will not go anywhere anyway.

And this is not the fault of men, but of women. In vain do wives think that the stamp in the passport itself can keep the husband if they give up on him. He never kept husbands, if there are no other reasons that keep him in marriage. Even children cannot always save a marriage if it is "bursting at the seams."

Fourth, and this is the most important reason, although it is listed last here, the decline in sexual activity of many wives is due to a lack of sexual satisfaction.

At first, a woman still hopes that an orgasm will come, and willingly meets her husband's desire, experiences sexual arousal, but when there is no orgasm during intercourse, she loses interest in sexual intimacy. And to agree to sexual intimacy for the pleasure of her husband, when he is a sexual egoist and does not care about her sexual satisfaction, many wives do not want to, and it is difficult to blame them for this.

Men, try to put yourself in the place of such women - if you had to "do your marital duty" only for the sake of the sexual satisfaction of your wife, but you yourself would not experience either arousal or orgasm - would you do it? !

It is clear that it is difficult for you to imagine such a situation, it is incredible already because in the absence of a desire for intimacy with a woman, sexual arousal and an erection in a man simply will not come. But if you think abstractly and imagine that such a situation is possible, then how many men would agree to this regularly? And women have to agree when the husband insists very much, and quite often. Although she personally does not enjoy it.

Therefore, they talk about "voluntary rape", which happens quite often, and the more often, the more a woman develops a negative attitude towards sex.

Even if the partner has already experienced an orgasm, a man will not stop intercourse if he has a normal erection, and the orgasm has not yet come.

And a woman after her orgasm will patiently wait until the man has finished intercourse, and not push him away immediately after her orgasm and turn her back on him.

Why does a man believe that sexual activity can be stopped when he has an orgasm, and his partner has not yet, turn his back on her and fall asleep peacefully? Although he no longer has an erection in the refractory pause, are there other ways to satisfy his partner? For those who do not know them, the methods are given in the previous chapters.

Women are grateful to their partner when he gives them the opportunity to regularly experience orgasms. Are men grateful to their partners for giving them such an opportunity?

If all people knew more about all aspects of intimate life, this would save millions of people from disappointments and tragedies.

Sexologist M.Kinessa believes that the sexual intercourse of a man and a woman in the form in which nature created it is too physiological and rude. Physically, it satisfies partners, but does not bring spiritual pleasure, and therefore differs little from sexual intercourse in animals.

Animals also have a sexual attraction to a particular object. For example, a female may not let one male in herself, but she will gladly let another. The same is true for males - one female may "dislike" and the other "like". But in general, sexual intercourse in animals is not an expression of affection and love, but a means for procreation.

Man is not an animal, therefore sex and procreation are regarded as separate phenomena. Although it is as a result of sexual intercourse that conception occurs, most people do not set themselves the goal of only having children. This is a natural consequence of the sexual life of two loving people who want to have a normal family, and in children they see a part of their beloved. But in the sexual life of an adult, childbearing is not the most important thing.

The psychological aspect of sexual relations for people is no less important than the pleasure itself.

During normal sexual intercourse, without foreplay, if a man does not stimulate erogenous zones, most women do not experience orgasm and remain unsatisfied, primarily psychologically. If the partner is inexperienced and has not awakened the woman's sensuality, then she loses interest in sex, and he calls her "frigid". In addition, the absence of sexual discharge brings great harm to her health, since during sexual arousal and sexual intercourse there is a rush of blood to the pelvic organs, and a decrease in blood supply cannot occur as quickly as it happens after sexual discharge, dysfunctions and diseases of the female genital area occur. , - and this is the second reason for the development of sexual coldness in a woman.

A man's dissatisfaction with his sexual life with a partner who is passive and indifferent to sex also affects his mental state, and if he cannot achieve sexual relaxation with his partner, this also affects his physical health. This has a scientific basis.

Thus, the struggle for a culture of sex is a struggle for the physical and mental health of a person. Therefore, one of the most important tasks of doctors is to ensure that orgasm is a constant companion of the intimate life of every person.

Sexual life occupies such an important place in a person's life that it leaves an imprint on his entire psyche, behavior and mood.

If a person has problems with sex, he becomes depressed or irritable, dissatisfied with everything and everyone, capricious, demanding and picky to everyone around him, and not just to his sexual partner.

And vice versa, a person who has everything in order in his sexual life is in a good tone and mood, cheerful and energetic, everything is easy for him and the people around him are easy with him.

So do not deprive yourself, do not deprive yourself of joy and pleasure and make every effort to normalize your sexual relations if you have problems, and then you will understand that life is beautiful and your efforts have not been in vain.

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Some women who have had only one sexual partner in their entire life - their husband, or have had two or three, envy those who have significantly more of them. They believe that the latter have more developed sexuality. Is it really?

According to some statistics, on average, modern women have 7-10 sexual partners in their entire lives. Some have much more, some have much less. Is the number of sexual partners an indicator of a more developed sexuality? We will give several factors that are affected by the number of partners, and you decide what is more important for your sexuality: more partners or one partner for life.

The number of sexual partners makes a woman more independent. It is a fact. The more partners, the more internal resources a woman has to experience disappointment, the less stress for her in breaking off relationships. Therefore, it is believed that a woman who has a lot of sexual experience is less attached and less emotionally dependent on a man. This can not but affect the quality of sexual contact. It can be more liberated and free in manifestations.

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A woman who is more attached to a man and dependent on him, cares less about her pleasure, shows less initiative in sexual relations, relying more on the will of a man in choosing a scenario. At the same time, female partners with a significantly greater history of sexual experience are more likely to talk about what they like or dislike and actively influence the process.

A woman who has settled on one sexual partner and does not look at others is happier and more satisfied. The effect that occurs during shopping also plays a role here. While you are trying on a thing in different stores, you have the illusion of choice. At the same time, many are aware that, having bought a thing, it is better to leave the mall and not look into other stores: suddenly you will see something better and at a lower price, but the money has already been spent.

Sexuality is a quality that depends on another person only indirectly. We ourselves can control our sexuality if we learn to do so. However, most women are more sexually open and sensual with a regular partner. They trust him, it is safe with him, you can try to diversify your sex life, and you can talk about it openly. The quality of sexual intimacy increases with the level of trust in the couple.

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If a woman experiences many (or not very many) short-term relationships, she has not had the opportunity to build trust. It takes a lot of time and mutual effort. In this case, she may not have that deep intimacy with her partners as a woman who has one partner for a long time.

At the same time, with one partner, the novelty of sensations is lost, and with it the passion and strength of sexual desire. And this negatively affects the pleasure received during sex. In a new relationship, pleasure is sharper, and the fear of losing this relationship makes a partner more desirable and increases passion.

A woman who has known more than one man may be more flexible in relationships. At the same time, she may technically be more "savvy", she has participated in different sexual scenarios, that is, her sexual horizon is wider than that of someone who has had one or two sexual partners in her entire life.

Kyiv doctor and biologist Professor Gennady Berdyshev believes that this paradox can be explained with the help of telegony, a science that most scientists refuse to recognize.

Festival children

G.B.:- I remember the Festival of Youth and Students in Moscow in August 1957. May of the following year was marked by the birth of babies, sometimes of exotic appearance. And over the next years, black curly babies were born every now and then in families where both parents are Europeans. I know a specific case when a Negro baby was born contrary to all the prerequisites. And only a frank conversation with a bewildered young mother convinced: before her marriage with a Russian guy, she had a fleeting affair with a guest from Africa. But more than a year passed between this event and the conception of a child!

This strange event can be explained by telegony - the phenomenon when a born child inherits the signs not of his biological father, but of his mother's first sexual partner. Most of my colleagues call telegony a pseudoscientific concept. It is supported by a small number of reliable facts, has no repeatability - the most important criterion for classifying a phenomenon as scientific.

"AiF": - It turns out that the sperm of a black friend of a woman was stored in her womb for more than a year. But it is known that the life span of a spermatozoon is a maximum of three days, isn't it?

G.B.:- Preservation of sperm in the genital tract of the female is possible. The fertilization of the egg occurs not only with the sperm of the new partner, but also with the canned one, which is mysteriously mixed with the fresh one. That's right - spermatozoa do not live longer than three days. But we do not know in what form and for how long the chromosomes contained in them are able to live. In addition, there is a bioenergy-informational hypothesis for explaining telegony: during sexual intercourse, especially the first, most emotionally strong for a woman, information can be imprinted into her hereditary apparatus not only from the sperm itself, but also from the electromagnetic radiation emitted by it.

People are like animals

"AiF": - So, the first sexual partner of a woman is the strongest telegonian donor?

G.B.:- Dog breeders, horse breeders, pigeon breeders - those who are engaged in breeding elite breeds of animals, cull a female that was "trampled" by an outbred male - there is nothing to expect from her purebred offspring. Some of my colleagues believe that the influence of the first sexual partner on all future children of a woman is much more pronounced in humans than in animals. It is not for nothing that religious morality and national customs of almost all peoples require the virginity of the bride as a mandatory condition for marriage. The problem of the survival of the genus has always been acute for the ancient people. The danger of the girl's premarital sexual relations was not that the child might turn out to be "not a father, but a visiting fellow." Along with alien features of appearance, the premarital partner could pass on hereditary diseases to future children. Hence the strictest ban on fornication.

"AiF": - In our time, it is naive to expect purity from every girl entering into marriage. Does this mean that there is an accumulation of genetic defects?

G.B.:- Isn't this the reason for the increase in the number of mentally handicapped children, babies with congenital diseases? The destruction of moral norms leads to degeneration - this situation is described in the Old Testament. I fear that it is being repeated before our very eyes in the former USSR, which has gone through social stress. Girls from Russia and other former Soviet republics who earn money through prostitution are a banal fact from modern life. But do not forget that many of them, having "earned", come to their senses, get married, give birth to children. And children who have inherited invisible vices from no one knows who are unlikely to please their parents with physical and spiritual health. Maybe that's why the study of telegony remains outside of science, because the conclusions obtained are too monstrous.

Dossier

Gennady Berdyshev born in 1933, geneticist, doctor of medical and biological sciences, professor at Kyiv National University. Shevchenko.

Expert opinion

Svetlana Limborskaya, Head of the Department of Human Molecular Genetics, Institute of Molecular Genetics, Russian Academy of Sciences, Ph.D. n., professor:

- Concrete stories allegedly confirming the validity of telegony are built on poorly documented facts in which the possibility of random mutations is not cut off. In our biological experiments, we have never observed such phenomena. If telegony were a reality, the examination of paternity would lose all meaning, which, however, is being successfully carried out.